Dad Life with special guest Tim

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In today's episode, they talk to Tim about his experience of the long custody battle for his daughter and his experience as a single dad raising a multiracial daughter.

Tim shares that in his experience we live in a society where mothers are often given preference when it comes to custody and how he had to overcome that stigma to win custody in the court system.

After going to court regularly over the past 6 years Tim now has full custody. We talk candidly about how that extended process has impacted the life of his daughter.

Tim shares advice on how to handle it when the other parenting party is saying negative things about you to your child and how in that situation you need to take on a more empathetic role. You should not talk negatively about your spouse in front of your child as it can lead to choosing sides or pitting the child against the other parent.

What's the best advice Tim can give to anyone who is going to court after a divorce to fight for custody? It's the importance of having a strong support system, having the right kind of relationship with your attorney, and presenting a clear, consistent, and case with details and facts.

He goes into even more depth about the cultural bias that is surrounded by single dads and how he has navigated through that and also some of the interactions he has had with other parents.

In his closing remarks, Tim shares how in his experience you need to ascertain when to go to court and when to let it go. Often times things that seem like big issues can be worked out with the spouse instead of lengthy and expensive court sessions. This can be particularly difficult when the other parent is challenging but you need to choose your battles.