Manage episode 292497794 series 2258005
This time I am having a little girl talk with Destini, a singer-songwriter from the left coast.
We are chatting up relationships, self-love, energy and more. Asking why we do some of the things we do when it comes to men. In our convo we find out that her parents are still married, and my parents upon divorce both married their high school sweethearts. I did still grow up in a two-parent household, but it still ended in divorce. While we both want to experience marriage; I am more the bachelorette vs her relationship chick. Does our upbringing really have something to do with relating now? Are we really that textbook? I do not believe that by the way.
On the topic of Marriage: I ask her does she think growing up seeing dad at home, did that help with her ability to choose? Does her parents still being together make her always think, I know I used to think when I was younger and growing up in a family environment, that when you date someone it is for the intention of marriage. If I didn’t see myself with a guy forever, then I just stopped. Has she felt that way? Interesting that we both use to think that is what dating is for. Turns out marriage and relationships are not as easy as some people make it look.
Touching a bit on energy, we both have realized If you call yourself a healer, did you know you may be a magnet for men that need to be healed? Watch for them red flags girl! We do touch on how when you’re just having fun, a lil red flag never hurt anyone. Here are some rules though, do not kiss, do not spend the night and do not introduce anyone to the family.
Do people end up getting together just because of time spent? It’s been 2 years; we should get together. Is that bad?
She explains a betrayal, and covid mandatory quarantine ended up being the catalyst so she could find out that she needed to really start her self-love journey. Often, we realize we need to be loving ourselves a bit more from dealing with relationships.
Now that we are all loving ourselves what kind of man are we desiring to attract? Do we now have smoke signals and signs that we can proceed with a possible relationship? I like how she wants to deal with a man who has had some form of therapy and is God-fearing, and a family man. I am loving guys who can listen to my energy talk without the eyes rolling into the back of their heads.
Switching subjects, talking about her music, and how finding her voice has been a way to communicate with other women who have been and are going thru similar situations. We all feed into each other. Her music that is out now is called The Payback and it’s not about revenge, more about the self-love and the payback to yourself when you start loving you. Her next project? It’s all about being sweet and spicy. Just the way we like it.
Watch the episode on manifestbeauty.tv or on MBE on Roku, and MBE on Amazon Fire. IG: @randomishwithsonja @sonjadenyse @jstdestini