A soft and open heart 柔软而开放的心

Robot Monk Xian'er

A soft and open heart

To stick to our own ideas does notnecessarily mean to shun others’ opinions. If we are down because of our thoughtsnot being accepted by others, what we really have in mind is only our feelings.We are unable to see the good intention of others not to say to understand andthank them.

At that point, our heart is closed and weare stubborn. This is what is meant by obsession. We don’t need to take other’sopinion all the time. However, we do need a soft and open heart. We must becapable of understanding and accepting others.

Everyone has his angle. What is lacking isto think in others’ shoes and to find out the reasons behind all differences,instead of labeling others as black or white. If we can follow this advice, wemay avoid of being annoyed by others, even if in the end we still believe ourideas may work better.

In our everyday life, things may be done indifferent ways. All roads lead to Rome. The problem is that we just can’t letgo of our own ideas.

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柔软而开放的心

坚持自己的意见，不一定要排斥他人的善意。当我们因为自己的想法没有得到实现而沮丧时，心中只有自己的感受，看不到他人的心意，更无法理解和感恩，

此时内心是封闭而执拗的，这就是执著。不是说事事都一定要听他人的，而是我们要有一个柔软而开放的心态，要有能力去理解和接受别人。

各有各的角度，多去理解对方的想法以及背后的缘由，不要仅对一个观点下“非黑即白”的论断。若能这样做，即使最后认为还是自己的想法更妥当一些，内心也不会对他人起烦恼了。现实生活中，很多事情用不同的方法都能做，条条大路通罗马，只是人放不下自己的见解罢了。