1234 这个世界比手机里的世界要美丽太多了 | 法国尼斯一个不舒服的沙发住宿体验


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The world is more beautiful than the world wide web. 现实世界比互联网要美妙多了。

我的愿望很简单,就是用我的脚步去丈量这个世界, 在这次环欧旅行中,我试着要省钱和为了体验更多的文化尝试了沙发客的体验!这两个月的火车行我总共经历了19个不同地方当沙发客的体验,在我的couchsurfing档案里,我都会特别强调,我不是用沙发冲浪来约会的,(I’m not using couchsurfing to date!),我将我两个月的行程公开后,收到了将近上百封的邀约!在每个沙发主人的档案上,你可以看得到他们过去接待的经验还有沙发客留下的评价(reference)。我尽量挑选亲切的留言、有良好评价,还有可以提供独立房间的沙发主。我得说这次欧洲沙发的冒险体验大多都是非常美好的,然而有少数几个让我感觉不是太舒服的,今天我就来分享一个吧!我也在节目最后提出了几个问题希望你们也可以思考一下或告诉我你是怎么想的。

My couchsurfing host in Nice, France, who had lived there about 9 years with his family. His apartment was centrally located and it was perfect for my next journeys to Monaco and Geneva. I felt really lucky! During the time staying with him, there were also two couchsurfers from Kazakhstan sharing the apartment. It turned out we were going to the same travel conference those days too. I didn’t know those girls very well, but they seemed really friendly. The host was also lovely and helpful. However, those days the host often complained to me in private that he felt used when the girls had the breakfast he offered and never asked to wash the dishes or cook anything back. He never said anything right in front of them, though. I felt a bit uncomfortable about the situation and offered to make dumplings and buy lunch to compensate even though I was out of their interactions. I was trying to be a good guest however became somewhat uneasy living in his place as the week went on. It seemed that my efforts were interpreted the wrong way as some kind of romantic spark and some comments became uncomfortably flirtatious. In the end, I felt relieved when I finally left his place.


It got me thinking about a couple of questions, which I still don’t have conclusive answers to. I would be interested to hear other people’s views.


What is appropriate behavior for the host and the guest? Is it the same across cultures and how could we objectively understand the meaning behind words and actions? If a guest feels uncomfortable with something they see or with something they experience in a host’s place, is it appropriate to challenge this and if so, how? When we write a reference about an experience do we have a responsibility to write it only from our perspective or should we think about how other people might feel in that situation.