Welcome to “Let’s Talk Attachments”, a podcast all about ATTACHMENT THEORY! My name is Jessica Da Silva and I’m a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist & Attachment Coach helping you transform the way you experience love by teaching you the ins and outs of your attachment style in a practical and relatable way. Website: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/ Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Email: hello@jessicadasilvacoaching.com
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I wanted to share an update on my break-up recovery process, as I know many of you have found comfort in hearing about my experience, understanding you're not alone and finding ways to navigate the challenges through a secure approach. In this episode I share: -How I've been feeling after 8 months post break-up. -How I've been navigating the 5 stag…
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Learn why you may attach quickly and intensely to people in the early stages of dating, as well as how to take more of a detached approach to lessen the anxiety and stress you experience when others aren't consistent or pull away. MY SECURE SELF GROUP COACHING PROGRAM (3 MONTHS) 1:1 ATTACHMENT COACHING (10 WEEKS) Contact Me: hello@jessicadasilvacoa…
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Today on the podcast, we have Jason Berry. He is a podcaster, entrepreneur, and amateur Hyrax athlete. A few months ago, I was a guest speaker on his podcast @awakenoutofcontext, where we discussed attachment styles. I loved his vulnerability and personal insights so much that I invited him onto my podcast to talk more about his experience with hav…
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If you have an anxious, dismissive avoidant, or fearful avoidant attachment style, it’s most likely you are self-conscious and therefore take things personally. This can be problematic as we can distort the reality of a situation and therefore engage in self-sabotaging behaviors.In this episode, I share how each insecure attachment style takes thin…
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In this weeks podcast episode I talk about how anxious, dismissive avoidant, fearful avoidant and secure attachments experience single-hood and ways to navigate these often challenging phases with more ease.——1:1 Attachment Coaching - www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
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In this episode, I share my personal experience of recovering from my recent breakup of almost 7 years (from a secure approach). Is the grass greener on the other side? Tune in to learn more :) _____ 1-1 Attachment Coaching With Me: https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2
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Communication is important because it meets fundamental emotional needs that are at the root of our challenges. In this episode, you will learn helpful tips on how to communicate with someone who has a fearful avoidant attachment style.——— 1-1 Attachment Coaching: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
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Communication is important because it meets fundamental emotional needs that are at the root of our challenges. In this episode, you will learn what these emotional needs are for the dismissive avoidant attachment style, how to address them, and helpful tips for effective communication.———1-1 Attachment Coaching: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com…
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Communication is important because it meets fundamental emotional needs that are at the root of our challenges. In this episode, you will learn what these emotional needs are, how to address them with those you love, and helpful tips on how to communicate effectively to create emotional intimacy.———Attachment Coaching (for individual’s and couples)…
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In this week's podcast episode, I share four practical ways to connect to your “secure self” so that you can make decisions from a place of authenticity versus insecurity.——Attachment Coaching - Let’s work together - www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
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Many of you know I was in a relationship for over six years. Though it was a beautiful relationship and healthy in many ways, some major core differences and incompatibilities made it challenging. In this episode, I share the struggle with navigating fear versus truth in our decisions and the importance of trusting yourself.———1:1 Attachment Coachi…
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Today on the podcast, we have Shanenn Bryant, a relationship confidence expert, and the host of the Top Self podcast. Shanenn has inspired thousands to break up with bogus beliefs, crack the control code, and overhaul their insecure habits. We talk about:-How jealousy can manifest in your relationships.-How to change your relationship to jealousy.-…
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Today on the podcast, we have Rowan Garlow, a trauma recovery practitioner who utilizes Voice Dialogue, Somatic Experiencing, Inner Child, and Soul Retrieval for healing and integrating unresolved trauma.We talk about:-What is trauma recovery work?-What attachment trauma looks like specifically.-How trauma manifests in our behaviors.-Why your “over…
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In this episode, I talk about why each attachment style tolerates difficult or painful relationships, why we aren’t stuck to these ways of experiencing love, and tips on how to move beyond our limitations.——Find me here:1:1 Attachment Coaching - www.jessicadasilvacoaching.comInstagram - @thejessicadasilva…
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Dr. Anita Kuhnley is an author, esteemed scholar, expert counselor, and speaker who just released a book called “The Four Relationship Styles: How Attachment Theory Can Help in Your Search for Lasting Love.” We talk about: -The breakdown of each relationship style (aka attachment style).-Strengths and challenges of each attachment style.-How knowin…
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Imani Tutt, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Intuitive Coach talks about relationship compromise, why it’s normal, and healthy versus unhealthy compromising.——-Find Imani here:https://imaniintouch.comInstagram: @imani.intouch——-Find Jessica here:www.jessicadasilvacoaching.comInstagram: @thejessicadasilva…
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In this week’s podcast episode, Dr. Holly Batchelder, a Seattle-based licensed clinical psychologist, shares her expertise on relationship anxiety and OCD, their major differences, how they manifest in our lives, and how to treat it to experience a fulfilling life.You can find Dr. Holly here:instagram: holly.phdwebiste: www.hollyphd.compodcast: twi…
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In this week's podcast episode, I talk about the difference between needs and expectations. Understanding this distinction can alleviate anxiety and create more fulfilling relationships.—————1:1 Attachment Coaching - https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2My Secure Self E-Course - https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-…
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In this week's podcast episode, I address the fear many of us hold about why we attract toxic people and the real (transformative) questions we need to be asking ourselves instead.—————1:1 Attachment Coaching - https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2My Secure Self E-Course - https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course…
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PODCASTIn this week's podcast episode, I share how having alcoholic parents (one or both) can influence the development of anxious, dismissive avoidant or fearful avoidant attachment style, as well as steps you can take to shift these patterns and learned identity.—————1:1 Attachment Coaching - https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2…
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In this week's podcast episode, I share my personal experience with navigating the distance in my relationship, as we tend to spend long periods apart due to the nature of his work. I also talk about the challenges of anxious-avoidant dynamics and how we make it work.—————1:1 Attachment Coaching - https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-m…
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Relationship ambivalence (aka, confusion or indecision) is very common for those of us who have an anxious, dismissive avoidant, or fearful avoidant attachment style. In this episode, I help you understand your ambivalence and give you steps to take on how to navigate these complexities with more clarity.…
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Today on the podcast we have a special guest. Alicia is a former attachment coaching client of mine sharing her experience with having an anxious attachment style, learning to let go of control, prioritizing herself and her needs, healing from heartache and abandonment trauma, and understanding how her attachment style impacts so many significant a…
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Dismantle misconceptions about developing a secure attachment style and learn how to measure your progress accurately.———Coach with me: jessicadasilvacoaching.com
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Learn about how each attachment style moves through the 5 relationship stages. This episode focuses highly on the insecure attachment styles (anxious, dismissive avoidant and fearful avoidant).———Coach with me: jessicadasilvacoaching.com
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Today on the podcast, we have Kelsey Wonderlin. Kelsey is a licensed therapist and a dating and relationship coach. She helps women who struggle with anxiety attract & HOLD ONTO a healthy relationship. She is also passionate about debunking the myths many of us have been taught about what a healthy relationship looks like.In this episode, we dive d…
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Navigating a Break-Up As Someone With an Anxious Attachment Style with Alexa (Client Stories)
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Today we have a special guest, Alexa. She is a mother, a humanitarian, a leader, a former client of mine, and just a beautiful soul who was willing to come onto the podcast and share her story of navigating love with an anxious attachment style, how understanding attachment theory brought so much clarity to her marriage, the challenges that come wi…
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In this episode, I share what research says about whether we can actually change our attachment style.———Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
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In this episode, I share some hard truths about how insecure attachments (anxious, dismissive-avoidant, and fearful-avoidant variations) experience relationships in hopes of cultivating more self-acceptance and realistic expectations for themselves and others.———Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com…
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In this episode, I share my experience with relationship anxiety in hopes of normalizing the ebbs and flows that naturally occur in relationships, especially those with insecure attachments.———Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
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In this episode, I share why anxious and avoidant attachments are attracted to each other from an attachment lens, and how they can work towards creating a secure bond.These tips apply for all attachment style dynamics.———Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2/
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In this episode, I share how understanding attachment styles can help your relationships in a multitude of ways. This includes relationships with partner, friends, family, and colleagues.———Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2/
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In this episode, I share some major differences between coaching and therapy, in order to help you identify which approach is best for you. I also share why I transitioned from working as a Mental Health Therapist to an Attachment Coach.———Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2/…
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What you'll learn…* The challenges of co-parenting and how to navigate it in a secure way* The importance of setting boundaries to reclaim your power* How to identify red flags in a relationship* Overcoming toxic relationships* Dating as a single mom———1:1 Attachment Coaching - www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com…
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What you'll learn…* Defining relationship self-sabotage.* How each attachment style (including secure attachments) may sabotage dating and relationships.* Why they behave in these unhealthy ways.* How to stop pushing those you love away.———1:1 Attachment Coaching - www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
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What you’ll learn in this episode:-Why we have difficulty communicating our needs.-The consequences of not communicating our needs directly.-How each attachment style communicates their needs.-Healthier ways of communicating your needs to create relationship satisfaction.———— 1:1 Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me…
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What you’ll learn in this episode:-How each attachment style parents their children.-How to form secure bonds with your children.-Why you shouldn’t feel bad about your parenting style.-Why it’s important to break these generational patterns.———— 1:1 Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2/ My Secure Self E-Course: ht…
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Navigating Relationship Anxiety For Fearful Avoidant Attachment with Bouket (Client Stories)
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In this episode, former client, Bouket, shares her experience navigating her fearful avoidant attachment style. We touch on relationship anxiety, intuition vs. fear, finding secure love, managing triggers, balancing the masculine/feminine, and so much more.————1:1 Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2/My Secure Sel…
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In this episode, I share how common it is for our relationship needs to change, how that impacts our life, how to identify what those needs are, and how to navigate those insecurities in a healthy way.1:1 Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2/My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-se…
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Why did I move away from my fiancé after getting engaged? In this episode, I share my personal experience with saving my relationship through saving myself. Also, how to know the difference between self-sacrifice versus self-neglect.______My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course—— 10% discount code: MEETM…
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Free 5-Day Series Attachment Style Guide: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.lpages.co/attachement-guide/ My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasi…
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Free 5-Day Series Attachment Style Guide: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.lpages.co/attachement-guide/My Secure Self E-Course:https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-courseFind me at:Instagram: @thejessicadasilvaTiktok: @jessicadasilvacoachingCoach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.comFree Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoac…
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Today's guest is Chris Rackliffe. Chris is an author and Anxious Attachment Coach who shares his personal story, wisdom, and tips to guiding anxious attachers into more joy and fulfillment.Book: It’s Good To See Me Again Tiktok: @crackliffeInstagram: @crackliffe-------------My Secure Self E-Course:https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-…
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My Secure Self E-Coursehttps://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-courseFind me at:Instagram: @thejessicadasilvaTiktok: @jessicadasilvacoachingCoach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.comFree Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
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In this episode, I talk about how the insecure attachment styles (anxious, dismissive avoidant and fearful avoidant) cope with relationship anxiety.----------------My Secure Self E-Course:https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-courseFind me at:Instagram: @thejessicadasilvaTiktok: @jessicadasilvacoachingCoach with me: www.jessicadasilv…
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In this episode, I talk about how (and why) anxious and fearful avoidant attachments identify as “caretaker”, “savior” and/or “fixer” in their relationships and how to shift these roles in order to promote more balanced relationships.----------------My Secure Self E-Course:https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-courseFind me at:Instag…
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In this episode, Relationship Anxiety Coach and founder of Anxious Love Coach, Natalie Kennedy, shares her personal experience with relationship anxiety, her process for managing this anxiety, the multidimensionality of attachment styles, as well as how she uses feminine and masculine polarity to create balanced relationships.______________Natalie …
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In this episode, writer and content creator behind @anxiousheartsguide, Rikki Cloos, shares the healing power of owning your anxious attachment style. She also gives tons of helpful insights and tips on how to become more securely attached yourself.______________Rikki Cloos: Instagram @anxiousheartsguideBook: The Anxious Hearts Guide---------------…
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In this episode, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Mindfulness Expert Gabrielle Gonzalez shares her challenges with having an Anxious Attachment Style and how self-soothing has helped her cultivate more security within herself and her relationships. Gabrielle shares the benefits of emotional regulation on the brain overt time, as well as som…
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How We Restored Our Fearful Avoidant Mother/Daughter Relationship with Jessica and Denise Da Silva
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My goal with this podcast is to give you guys an inside look into my relationship with my mother. If you’ve been listening for a while, you know my mom has played a huge role in my prior fearful avoidant attachment style. Even though we have our rough patches till this day, we’ve both learned to become more secure in our own ways, thus helping us m…
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