When your parents separate or divorce, it hurts. You feel alone and uncertain of how to deal with it all. If you feel that way, the Restored podcast is for you. On it, we feature expert interviews and stories that offer practical advice on how to cope and heal after the trauma of your parents' divorce or separation, so you can feel whole again and become the person you were born to be.
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Husband Help Haven Podcast: Marriage Advice for Men Facing Separation, Affair or Divorce
Stephen Waldo
Are you struggling to get your wife back? Marriage on the brink of divorce? The only one trying to save the relationship and keep the family together? Stephen Waldo from Husband Help Haven shares powerful insights based on his experiences with over 2,500 men going through separation. Advising men going through separation since 2011, he has seen marriages saved from a wife wanting separation, wife having a physical affair (or emotional affair), wife going through a midlife crisis, facing divo ...
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The biggest area of struggle for young people from divorced or broken families is in romantic relationships. Why so much struggle? In short, we were poorly trained in how to love, so we feel incompetent at it and fear repeating our parents’ mistakes. So, how can you overcome that fear and relearn how to love? My guests answer that question and more…
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Whether holidays with your divorced or separated parents are new or you’ve done it numerous times, this episode is for you. In it, you’ll get 5 practical tips to better navigate the holidays in your broken family, so they’re less stressful and more enjoyable. Get the Guide: 5 Tips to Navigate the Holidays in a Broken Family Shownotes Question for J…
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While the rest of the world is filled with holiday cheer, people like us from divorced or broken families usually feel very differently. While you can’t magically make the holidays happy and drama-free, what if there was a way to make them less stressful and more enjoyable? That’s what we’ll discuss in this episode, plus: The challenges that come f…
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Technology certainly has benefits, but there are dangers as well. Sadly, our misuse of technology is causing us to be more depressed, more anxious, less happy, and less healthy than ever before. Perhaps worst of all, it destroys our ability to heal, grow, and build healthy relationships. In this episode, we dive into that with my guest, Andrew Laub…
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Carl Jung once said, “Unless you make the subconscious conscious, it will rule your life and you will call it fate.” In this episode, Dr. Greg Bottaro explains why our untreated wounds and our subconscious rule our lives, often without us knowing it. We also discuss: How his parents’ divorce impacted him and how he found tremendous healing Dr. Bott…
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After 24 years of marriage, Jordana’s parents divorced. Overall, her experience of family felt tense, stressful, and unstable. Once she learned of her parents’ divorce, she went into problem-solver mode, taking on the role of mother for her siblings. In this episode, you’ll hear us discuss all of that, plus: How filling a parent role isn’t ideal, b…
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If you’re like me, you’ve experienced trauma or brokenness in your life which has led you to seek healing. One method of healing used in therapy is Internal Family Systems. But what exactly is it? And how can it help you? My guest today, a psychologist and expert in Internal Family Systems, answers those questions, plus: A healing exercise that you…
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We talk a lot about being healthy and whole, but what exactly does it mean to be healthy and whole? We dive into that topic in this episode with a man who’s been accomplished as a CEO but has also worked hard on himself as a husband and father, plus: Why honesty and vulnerability are essential for healing and growth, and how forgiveness has been ve…
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Emma was 14 years old when her parents divorced, but the dysfunction at home had been happening for years. In this episode, she shares how the dysfunction, divorce, and abuse have affected her. We also discuss: How she overcame victim mentality How abuse differs from bad behavior What helped her heal and how her life is better now as a wife and mot…
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A doctor of functional neurology joins us to explain a new, cutting edge healing science that’s used to heal dysfunction in our bodies and minds, and help us live and perform at our best. It’s already being used by professional athletes and even Navy SEALs. We dive into what it is and how it can help you, plus: Why people from divorced families str…
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126: Former Porn Actress: Over 90% of People in Porn are from Broken Families | Bree Solstad
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Bree Solstad went from being a top-selling porn actress to quitting her job and completely turning her life around. That transformation started because of a trip to Italy. In this episode, she tells us about that and answers questions like: What led you to pornography in the first place? How did your broken family and abandonment from your father p…
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For people like us from divorced and broken families, love and marriage can be extra scary. After my parents separated, I swore, “If this is where marriage leads, I want nothing to do with it.” But thankfully, love and marriage aren’t doomed to fail. Marriage isn’t easy, but it can be beautiful and joyful. More importantly, it can help you grow int…
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For many of us from divorced families, we unconsciously want our parents to resolve their problems and get back together. Even if that isn’t possible due to abuse or other extreme scenarios, we can’t help but want our family to be whole. Today’s guest felt that desire for his parents and family. In this episode, we discuss that and more: How anger,…
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At a young age, Jack learned he had an incurable disease. That naturally brought lots of physical and emotional pain into his life. But through that suffering, the lessons he learned and the transformation he experienced led him to say, “The thing I wish most never happened, I am most grateful for.” In this episode, we discuss what led to that tran…
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With so many marriages and families falling apart, the natural question is: What has caused all these broken marriages and families? In this episode, Dr. John Bishop unveils the surprising root cause, plus: The crisis of masculinity facing our world right now The proper place of happiness within marriage An awesome digital hack to protect yourself …
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So many people from broken families struggle with feeling helpless or needy. Our efforts to heal or grow might even feel fruitless like tires spinning in mud that never gain traction. We put in effort in learning, but transformation isn’t happening. Whether that describes you or someone you know (like a friend, parent, or anyone else), this episode…
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Two years into marriage, Jake found himself enslaved to a sexual addiction. He longed for freedom but felt very stuck. As a result, he lived a double life, hiding his unwanted behavior from his wife. But one random day, it all came to light. At that moment, he thought his marriage was over. In this episode, he shares what happened next, plus: What …
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After her parents divorced, my guest felt abandoned and badly hoped it was all a dream that she could just wake up from. Dealing with all the brokenness that followed led her down a path of feeling stuck and thinking her brokenness defined her. Thankfully, she realized that “‘broken’ is what happened to me, not who I am.” In this episode, we touch …
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If you’re like me, you never saw conflict resolved peacefully in your family. As a result, you might feel a bit lost about how to resolve conflict in your life, especially in your relationships. If that’s you, this episode will help. In it, a married couple joins to share tips they’ve learned on resolving conflict, plus: Why it’s important to let s…
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So many divorces happen because one spouse follows their desires at the expense of their vows. That happened in the family of my guest today. In this episode, we cover: How her family’s dysfunction led to struggles with gender and sexuality The beautiful transformation she’s experienced and even seen in her parents The biggest lie about getting div…
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Today we’re sharing a podcast where I was interviewed by two therapists, Dr. Bob Schuchts and Jake Khym, on their podcast, Restore the Glory. Joey especially opens up about his struggles in his relationship with God, plus they discuss: When we don’t face our wounds, we typically try to outrun them. Since divorce is a wound of broken love, the antid…
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It’s said that Henry David Thoreau once wrote, “Most men lead lives of quiet desperation and go to the grave with the song still in them.” Doesn’t that describe our culture? A culture that’s hooked on comfort and so void of meaning. But thankfully, Dr. Andrew and Sarah Swafford have a solution to that problem. In this episode, we discuss: What hold…
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When your parents divorce, you almost always lose one or both parents physically or emotionally. But as our guest today says, we’re not meant to go through life without the mentorship of a father and a mother. In this episode, Nicole Rodriguez shares the immense healing she’s experienced through parents who were not her own. We also discuss: How he…
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Trauma, such as your parents’ divorce or extreme family dysfunction, doesn’t only affect your emotions. It affects your body too. It quite literally has physical effects. In this episode, Dr. Christopher Genn, a physical therapist and expert in applied kinesiology, explains how our bodies respond to trauma and how we can heal. Plus, we discuss: A n…
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In this episode, you'll hear highlight clips from the podcast in 2023. This episode, and the entire podcast, will help you heal from the trauma of your parents’ divorce, separation, or broken marriage, so you can break the cycle. If you’re new to the podcast, this is the perfect way to sample our content and learn how it will help you. If you’re a …
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There’s an extremely popular lie about how divorce affects the children. In this episode, we discuss that lie with my guest who is an only child from a divorced family, plus: The loneliness, addiction, and social problems that stemmed from his family’s breakdown The anger and even hatred he felt toward his parents and how he feels now A unique thin…
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If there were 10 things you can do to make therapy succeed (or fail), would you want to know them? I know I would. In this episode, a therapist joins us to share those tips, plus: The goal of therapy and the temptation to idealize healing A tool for dealing with troubling thoughts The struggle to put words to your own emotions and experiences of br…
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If you’re from a broken family, the holidays often bring more stress and challenges than joy. After my parents separated, I faced these challenges: A sad, pit-in-the-stomach reminder of my parents’ split and my family’s brokenness Pressure to choose between parents and balance time amid many events A misled desire to make everyone happy, especially…
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If you’re from a broken family and you’ve struggled with OCD, relationships, overthinking, and filling a parent role for your siblings or parents, this episode is for you. In it, Ashton shares how her parents’ divorce has affected her and her relationships. She also talks about what’s helped her heal and even offers some advice for you. Take the po…
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When trauma occurs, it causes you to ask big questions. That’s where my guest found himself after being brutally attacked, almost to the point of death, by people he was trying to help. In this episode, you’ll hear the story of the attack, plus he answers: Has forgiveness been difficult for you? Why forgive? What are the benefits? What happens if w…
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When you’re struggling with unwanted sexual behavior, asking for help is terrifying. The struggle feels so shameful and admitting your weakness feels humiliating. As a result, most men stay stuck for years and years. Thankfully, there’s a way out. Asking for help from the right people is the key to overcoming shame, humiliation, and unwanted behavi…
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If you’re a woman that struggles with unwanted sexual behavior, you are not alone. The myth of porn, or even lust, being a male problem is just that - a myth. More importantly, healing and freedom are within reach for you. In this episode, brave author and speaker Rachael Killackey shares her struggles with unwanted sexual behavior and a valuable r…
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Our world is very sexually broken. The examples are endless: Pornography use, sexual compulsions, addictions, hookup culture, paying for sex, infidelity, sex trafficking, and much more. But how did our world become so sexually broken? That’s the topic we tackle today with famous author and speaker Christopher West. If you’ve wrestled with sexual br…
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What happens inside your brain and your body when you endure trauma? Surprisingly, there’s actually a predictable way that your body and mind responds to trauma. In this episode, we break down each response with a trauma therapist. We also discuss: How her parents’ divorce impacted her Is healing trauma even possible? If so, what does it take to he…
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What if I told you that your sexual struggles could be predicted by your untreated trauma? Today, we’re joined by author Jay Stringer who studied ~4,000 men and women who struggle with sexual compulsion or addiction, such porn, masturbation, affairs, buying sex, and much more. In this episode, we breakdown his NEW study and more: How the sexual fan…
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When it comes to pornography, there are basically two types of people: Those who believe that porn is wrong and harmful. And those who do not. But beyond the arguments, millions of people struggle with a pornography compulsion or addiction. They want to break free, but they feel stuck and hopeless. No matter what they try, it doesn’t work. In this …
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What’s brought the most pain and problems into your life? If your answer (or a top answer) is your parents’ divorce or the breakdown of your family, this podcast is for you. In this episode, we talk about the specific pain and problems your parents’ divorce or family breakdown bring into your life. We also highlight resources to help you heal and b…
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#099: Healing Sexual Brokenness: The Cure to Unwanted Sexual Behavior | Dr. Bob Schuchts, PhD
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Millions of people right now are struggling with sexual compulsion and addiction. It’s a massive problem that doesn’t get the attention or resources it deserves. Thankfully, in this episode, psychologist Dr. Bob Schuchts offers steps and a resource to heal your sexual brokenness. We also discuss: A story of profound healing and transformation Dr. B…
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If you’re a woman that struggles with unwanted sexual behavior, have you felt like you’re the only female that struggles? If so, that’s an absolute lie. In fact, one study found that ~75% of women 18-30 reported viewing porn at least once a month. With more and more women struggling with porn and masturbation, speaker and author Kelsey Skoch joins …
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Are you worried about someone you love or lead from a divorced or broken family? Do you want to help them, but feel unequipped and somewhat helpless? In this episode, you’ll learn 3 tips to help them and a NEW resource on how to help someone from a divorced or broken family, so you can do and say the right things, avoid the wrong ones, and offer re…
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#096: How to Heal from the Trauma of Your Parents’ Divorce or Broken Family | Margaret Vasquez
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If you come from a broken family, did your parents’ divorce or family dysfunction bring emotional problems, bad habits, and relationship struggles into your life? As a result, do you feel unsure how to heal and afraid that you’ll repeat the cycle? In this episode, we unveil a NEW and FREE resource to help you heal from the trauma of your parents’ d…
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You feel broken. You want to heal. But you’re unwilling to ask for help. If that describes you, your ability to heal will be stifled. Nobody ever healed their broken leg without the help, knowledge, or experience of others. Healing only happens with the love and help of other people. In this episode, we discuss that and more as my guest shares : Ho…
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How have you dealt with the trauma of your parents’ divorce or broken family? After enduring her parents’ divorce, her mom’s alcoholism, her dad’s absence, and her stepmom’s abuse, today’s guest tried to outrun her trauma through busyness, accomplishments, and perfectionism. Before long, she went from repressing her emotions and saying “I’m fine” t…
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Two things we’ve learned about divorce from scientific studies and stories of people like us: Almost always, divorce is traumatic and damaging for the children The effects are typically serious and long lasting In this episode, you’ll hear a radio interview I did that elaborates on each point: How divorce is traumatic for the children The specific …
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Is divorce good or bad for children? There’s tons of confusion around that question. In this episode, speaker and author Katy Faust offers answers with clarity and tons of research. She also touches on: How does divorce affect the children? Is divorce really worse than the death of a parent? What do children need that marriage provides? How do you …
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Feeling hopeless, our guest prayed for her husband to die. Earlier in their marriage, she cheated on him. Thankfully, they turned things around and they now have a beautiful marriage. In this episode, Dr. Christine Bacon vulnerably shares about her affair but especially about the restoration of her marriage. She even shares the formula she’s discov…
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How is your parents’ divorce or your broken family affecting you today? If your answer is “I don’t really know” or you don’t understand the depth of it, you’re not alone. That’s actually very common. But in the words of one therapist, “When it comes to experiencing healing, naming how you’ve been harmed is about 70% of the battle.” In this episode,…
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According to research, people like us from divorced or broken families are typically less physically healthy. If that describes you, or you simply want to become healthier, this episode will help. Fitness and nutrition coach Dakota Lane shares how the abuse and dysfunction in his family impacted his relationships and how he’s found healing. He also…
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When William was in high school, his home was riddled with emotional pain and conflict. Eventually, his parents got divorced. That led to struggles in his relationships, especially with handling conflict and breaking up prematurely because he didn’t want to get hurt. But the pain didn’t end there. After suffering from neglect and severe bullying, W…
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If there was a technique used by Special Operators (Navy SEALs, Rangers, Special Forces, etc), firefighters, paramedics, and high performing athletes to stay calm during stressful situations, think clearly, make the right decisions, and avoid overwhelm, would you want to know it? That’s what you’re going to learn in this episode from a firefighter …
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