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This conversation is about Divorce, specifically the first six months. It's about understanding the emotional and physical spaces the guests have gone through. You will listen to and observe what people have experienced and the decisions they made to navigate their divorce. They talk about what happened, what they did, and what they would do differently. The conversation is unique because it provides insights into what happens in divorce within the first six months. Learn what we did, so tha ...
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in this episode, a deep dive into what this means on both sides of the spectrum is shared. Looking into the cost versus the payoff of being a victim or victimizing. Identifying some of the patterns in which it exists and also exploring some of the solutions available to us now. This topic is a very serious one, and many of us who have experienced i…
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In our final episode with Segev, we begin with a mantra he follows. "I am man and I serve love." He shares how this helped him, how it shaped him and how he just more of that now. As we begin to realize that we are completing our conversation, we get a side of Segev that shares insight into what it was like to be divorced with children and how expe…
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In this episode, Segev shares how uncomfortable it is to go against the grain, to risk self-expression. How within his life he has maneuvered to gain acceptance and love out of others expectations. He speaks about how much he cried during his first six months and how he grew to love the process.由Segev Perets
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How to manage fear is not exactly what the title means. I say this because each of us is different and fear is a much larger thing to manage than a 10-minute podcast. But, do not be discouraged, I do offer up some insight into the world and you will have some solutions presented to you. The important thing to know going into this episode is that we…
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In this episode, we look at the elements that made his life liveable. How finding himself again began with a choice and how the actions of that choice led him here. We learn the importance of reconnecting with one's self and how Segev discovered that. We also learn the perspective he nurtured to achieve the freedom around remembering who he is and …
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In this episode, we look into expectations and the many things that showed up around it with Segev. From being obese with skin issues and diagnosed with an autoimmune deficiency disease to the start of his healing, which began when he stopped giving a shit. Learn how he began to honor himself and stopped being guided by expectations. Find out how h…
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In this Weekend Nugget I reflect on all the things 2021 and make a request of you, the listeners. Something new is brewing in the horizon and I am eager and hungry to share it with you real soon. In the meantime, enjoy another Nugget for the weekend and thank you for keeping me in your ears while we create another year of insights into divorce. Hap…
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In this episode, we listen to Segev speak about how important it is for him that his kids know that they are loved. He shares how he used to think that being in their lives all the time meant being a good father, especially during the first six months. He shares how being present for them, Chaperoning field trips, picking up, dropping off. Parent-t…
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Segev is the first person we have a conversation with within DTF6M that is technically not divorced, but has gone through or is going through what a divorced person goes through. He has two boys, the youngest with special needs and he is a Masculine Embodiment Relationship Coach. What I learned from Segev in this episode and the ones to come which …
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Daniel Herrold - Ep. 30.6 - Say something about how you feel, don’t keep all that bottled up.
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In our final episode with Daniel, we close this series by looking back at the beginning and saying out loud what most don’t admit. We don’t know how to navigate a divorce. No one goes into it a marriage thinking about this ending as an option. We don’t prep for the process, or the life that comes after divorce, it’s new territory. He also talks abo…
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In this episode, Daniel talks about the importance of finding your tribe. Describe what that looks like, what qualities they should have to understand your situation, and how important it is for them to have been divorced. How having that common ground makes a difference. He talks about dating right after the divorce and how that is not the best id…
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In this episode of the Nugget, we explore what the Unicorn Divorce is, how to create it, and I also share some tools that you can apply today. From the moment you decide this is something you want to consider, all the way through to the day-to-day management. Please understand that the Unicorn divorce begins and ends with you. Having this kind of d…
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Daniel Herrold - Ep. 30.4 - What I really care about is investing in the people that I love.
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In this episode, Daniel shares how he discovered himself and what that process looked like for him. From living in a 600 sq. ft. apartment to driving a beat-up car with 180k miles on it. He speaks about the different phases one goes through in the beginning and how taking actions plays an important role. He shares how he invested more time with the…
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In this episode, Daniel shares about his relationship with the ex during the divorce. How they agreed on things and how they communicated instead of lunging towards representation and pettiness. He reveals how they kept the same parenting styles, shared time with the kids together, and did it all against the advice of legally inclined relatives and…
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In this nugget, we travel to the reasons for the topic. Where did it begin, how has it evolved, and why it is so important that we understand it. Marriage is a beautiful union of two souls into a commitment that ends in death do you part. Pretty heavy stuff. This conversation, I believe, brings some clarity to the bigger picture, which is why did w…
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Daniel Herrold - Ep. 30.2 - I did everything to kind of numb my mind so that I wouldn’t have to embrace the loneliness.
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In this episode, Daniel speaks about what it was like living alone. The moment when the eerily quiet arrived and the feelings started to come in as he settled into his new apartment. He shares how he watched a lot of Netflix and did anything he could to not embrace the loneliness. He also shares what it was like when he realized all the responsibil…
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Meet Daniel Herrold, father of 3 young women, and a divorce conversation active participant. Daniel is a successful man, both on and off the divorce platform, and in this series of episodes, you are going to see what it was like for him to embrace the challenges that he faced during his divorce. From learning to cook for himself, the kids, to datin…
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In this episode, we look at fear from a different perspective. Distinguishing what it is by definition, what it could look like inside of a divorce, and what can be done to not have it be so consuming. Anything that stops you from moving in the direction you want to move towards, or inhibits you from being the person you want to be, usually carries…
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In our final episode with Amy, we begin with the conversation with what the common link between domestic survivors often is, and then complete our episode with happiness is possible. An arc worthy of a rainbows path is how I would share this episode. Amy shares how when you go through one aspect of abuse, it often has more to it, that is hidden dee…
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Amy Hill - Ep. 29.5 - Trust is very important to me. Once that is gone you don’t really have a basis to move forward
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In this episode, we start with what’s important, which is the values you live by. Amy shares how being guided by those values gave her something far greater than the reality of the situation. For example, in her story, she has spoken of what it was like to be abused. How it looked like and what she did in the process of when it was her reality. Bac…
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In this episode, I look back at when this started, what happened, and where am I today. Taking in the many conversations that have occurred and how things have grown and developed as a result of this podcast. In looking back, one begins to ask themself where is the finish line, did it serve its purpose, and is it time to pass on the torch. The proc…
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In this episode, Amy raises an important question. The importance of knowing what a healthy relationship looks like. What are the green flags? She explains how she is grateful for her journey and how it has left her humbled in the process. How she holds no resentment towards her ex. She talks about how she learned that it was her who needed help fo…
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Amy Hill - Ep. 29.3 - Being a single mom, I wanted to do what was best for them, and for me.
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In this episode, Amy explains a bit more about what it looks like to be gaslighted. She shares how you simply don’t know, especially if the other person provides positive reinforcement that has you believe it will be okay. She gives us personal examples that explain what it looked like for her, what she went through, and how she persevered. At the …
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In this episode, l take a moment to look at shaming from a different perspective. I look at it from all the conversations that have taken place since the divorce. The commonalities we all share and the resemblances, of which, shaming is one of them. I shared how it affected me once my divorce was known. The price I had to pay emotionally when I fou…
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Amy Hill - Ep. 29.2 - Things didn’t change when I was pregnant. In fact, they got a whole lot worse.
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In this episode Amy speaks about what it was like to be pregnant, and how the toxicity of the relationship affected her breast feeding, as well as overall health. How things didn’t change with him as a result of her pregnancy, they actually became worse. His sense of entitlement grew. Creating more fear on her part, which began for her daily upon w…
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Say hello to Amy Hill, a native Australian. A mother of two, an author, a speaker, a wife, and an empowerment coach. I learned about Amy through her instagram @TheFreedomMentor where she was speaking about gas lighting. Shining an important light on the the darkness that gas lighting is. She was exposing what it looks like, and how we can do someth…
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In this episode I share about how I felt I was not good enough, and what I did to acknowledge it. I even go on a bit of a rant towards the end, not a big one, but enough to notice that the topic had an affect on me. Like so many of us when we are lost, not feeling good enough played with me. For a short while it made me believe things that only exi…
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We have reached our last episode with Tracy, and in doing so she leaves us with an important message. Nothing is impossible. It may seem like it is, but there is no worse case scenario you can’t overcome. She even goes on to give you insight into self worth, from her perspective of course, and then supplies you with supporting evidence of how it wo…
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In this episode you will hear Tracy speak about how she is an optimistic person. How she tends to see the funny side of every situation, and how she made excuses for him. How she overlooked things, and adapted to what she didn’t want from her life. It is there that she will begin to talk about her new life, the new her. She will share how her weakn…
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In this episode I speak about dating, and dating apps. What it is like to participate when you are not a stud muffin, just an ordinary guy, a strong six in my mind. I only say that because I hear stories from my lady friends, and it seems the nice guys finish last statement rings true when you are too nice and not good looking. Dating in today's ag…
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Tracy Poizner - Ep. 28.4 - I believed that no one else wanted me. That was my connection to myself.
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In this episode with Tracy, she digs deeper within her story to learn that what it was really about was having a relationship with herself. She explores how much is invested into the actual partnership of being married, without us being complete first. She distinguishes how her parents' relationship was something she had wished to model, but the ma…
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In this episode Tracy begins with sharing how she had no idea how to get through it. The steps to move forward, or how to handle a divorce were not something she had access to. So, she did what she knew she could do. Things like seeing a therapist and working through what she could. Although she wasn’t completely convinced that it was working, that…
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In this wonderful episode I look at what it is that these two words represent. We begin with what webster defines them as, and then I share my two cents on what it represents to me. This episode does not approach the topic from a first six months perspective, but had I heard this within the first six months of my story, I believe I would have been …
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In this episode we travel deeper into what happened to get to the divorce. How Tracy began to understand, and what she did to get grounded, physically and mentally. She explains what it felt like to be confused and then gives us a clear picture of when she realized she was being emotionally abused, and how she refused to see it for what it was. She…
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Say hello to Tracy Poizner, Holistic Practitioner, Certified Life Coach, Podcaster, Writer, and so much more, as you will soon discover over the next few weeks. Overall, she is an accomplished woman who at one point did not think divorce was an option. She wasn’t happy in her marriage, but no one around her was divorced, and divorce was not a readi…
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In this episode I talk about how my story had me without sex for almost 2.5 years. I talk about why that happened, and why I chose to go so long without. I share what it is that had me be intimate with someone after such a long time, and what that looked like. I talk about fucking and making love, and what I find to be the difference between the tw…
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In this last episode with Dawn Alyse, we talk about what she wants for herself, where she has set limits, and what she doesn’t want to be known for. From the time we began this conversation with Dawn till this very last episode, we learned so much about her, but nothing will prepare you for what she reveals at the end of episode 27.6. As a listener…
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In this episode we talk about some seriously unnerving things. Dawn creates what it was like to live with an abusive person. Not physically, how it started, but mentally. She talks about how it began with him stalking her, and her believing that he was just showing interest in her. She talks about what she did when learned she was pregnant, how she…
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In this episode, we are once again joined by Michele Traina as we discuss "How to be alone" during a divorce. The emotions that come up, the obstacles we encounter, and who we become in the process, as we learn new ways of being. Michele and I examine what it was like when we experienced it, and share some insights into what we did, and how we did …
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Dawn Alyse - Ep. 27.4 - It’s not like he was this great guy that then started to not be a great guy.
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In this episode, Dawn examines her previous relationships to realize that there was nothing wrong with them now, they were part of being young, and falling out of love. Whereas, her most recent marriage was trifled with a lot of darkness. Her ex was not a good person from the start. As we continued our conversation, you can hear the trauma that sti…
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Dawn Alyse - Ep. 27.3 - From the first day I met him, I knew I shouldn't be in this relationship.
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In this episode we talk about Dawn’s business, her employees, and the value of meditation. We talk about some techniques that she has implemented into her life to create balance, and the trauma’s still present for her, like sleeping patterns, and her way of naturally being post divorce. The gold in the episode is how she reveals the release of havi…
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In this week's episode we share the mic with Michele Traina (Episode 22) to talk about how to manage the first week of a divorce. We get into what that was like for us. We talk about what happened, what we did, and what we suggest is a good idea to do if you are in that situation. It was an absolute pleasure to have michele with us inside this conv…
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In this episode we learn about the beginning of a divorce and the effects of it. For Dawn, it was normal to share everywhere she was going, with everyone, all the time. Having the feeling that she needed permission to do things was the first thing that became apparent to her when the relationship was complete. She recalls how she had said to her ki…
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Dawn Alyse - Ep. 27.1 - I’m 51 and I don’t remember a time in my life, ever, until now. That I was allowed to have real emotions.
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Say hello to Dawn Alyse, mother of three grown children, an entrepreneur, and recently divorced from a 22 year marriage. As you tune in to each episode, prepare yourself for what you are about to endure. Dawn has gone through some serious obstacles to get to where she is today. Currently in debt., in court, and in love with herself again. She tells…
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In this episode I talk about something personal and what it means. I read you something I wrote and then reflect on how that makes me feel. I shed a layer of thoughts that I believe makes my situation transparent. As I listened to it prior to posting, I was thinking if I should release it, then moments later chose to do it. I chose to do it because…
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Sadie Marie - Ep. 26.6 - The best investment that you can make into any relationship is the one with yourself
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In this last episode with Sadie I find myself talking more, which is rare for me. I normally listen and ask questions that relate with the conversation. Something happened over the course of our conversation where it just felt like we were old buddies shooting the shit together. That is a priceless experience. As an audience you should still expect…
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In this episode we look at what could have been done differently through Sadies eyes. What that looks like, and what it looked like for her. For instance, Sadie admits that she would’ve been braver and bolder, and less pleasing. Stating the importance of how ,if she had done that for herself back then, she would have had freedom much sooner. She ad…
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In this episode I talk about our default saying of I'm sorry inside my context. What it made me feel, what I did, and what I would do differently knowing what I know today. I experienced an abundance of freedom when I spoke to people during my process when they shared those words with me. 9 out of 10 times whomever spoke with me understood why I wa…
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In this episode we look at the past and begin to see where it can be altered. Sadie and I just talked about what it looked like to live for someone else, as women have done for hundreds of years. We explore the root of how women were conditioned to take care of everyone else except themselves, and we both say FUCK THAT! It’s 2021 and although it is…
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In this episode we start with Sadie distinguishing how she was conditioned from childhood to be fearful. To think that everything was going to go wrong. She explains how it carried over to her marriage, waiting for the next thing to go wrong. She talks about the ripple effect of that thought process and how it affected her health, and everything el…
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