23. "I Am Done Worrying About You Or Anything Ever Again"

Deep Thoughts W/The Dixons

Ever wonder why we worry? Where does worry come from? Anxiety? A neurological disorder? Is it Pessimism? Nina & Brian share some of their research on this topic and explain the human psyche behind worry, why we should stop and how to get rid of it for good.

Does anything good ever come from worrying? Think about this for a second. Why worry? For what? It clouds judgement, it debilitates solutions, causes disdain, depression and mood swings, and then parlays into other areas of your life like a leech…. Is anything really THAT worth it? NO.

Two types of worrying people:

1. Always make things up. Believing that something bad will happen, all based on past experience or absorbed from the content they consume so they worry and think the worst; negative Nancys, always quick to stop you from doing something your way.
   
2. Something happens, not as planned, and they project how it negatively affects the next day week and entire year now which throws off everything for them

The Science Behind Worry- The Human Psyche:

1. Control: It’s a craving for control. And the more we worry the less able our bodies can deal with something when it doesn't go our way or something happens we didn't expect.
2. Programmed hereditary : In doing some research, I learned that worry is a habit of anxious or anxiety disorder. I learned that people who have a parent or parents who constantly worry are more apt to slowly pick up on these behaviors as well, as they get older they tend to fall onto the more serious side of anxiety disorder than their parents who were just chronic worriers. If that doesn't make you want to stop worrying, I don't know what will. How dare we take on the negative traits of our families and live in never ending turmoil?
3. Believing in worst as opposed to best; aka pessimist v optimist. Default thinking.
4. Confusion between attachment to past and the lesson learned
5. Feeling lack as opposed to abundance
6. Fear
7. You want something or someone out of pressure. External pressure, judgement and/or need of acceptance

4 Ways to Stop/Worry Less:

1. Accept it Objectively
2. Allow and Be Happy with Uncertainty
3. Let Go of Perfectionism
4. Externalize the Worry

Books:

1. The Worry Cure by Robert Leahy
2. Anxious For Nothing by Max Lucado
3. How To Stop Worrying And Start Living by Dale Carnegie

Quote: “Our fatigue is not caused by the work but by the worry”

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