INVINCIBLE YOU: THE THREE TRIES--YOUR ROADMAP TO EXCELLENCE

Love University with Dr. Alexander Avila

Are you trying too hard and not getting the results you want in life? Are you constantly running into roadblocks when you try to improve your relationships, career, finances, health, or happiness? If so, then there is good news for you. As we discussed on Love University this week, you can apply scientifically proven ways to accomplish what you desire. Here are 3 powerful and effective ways to exert the right effort to achieve your dreams.

*Meditate on Greatness. If you’re not achieving your goals, a good remedy is to study and reflect on the lives of people who have already achieved what you desire; individuals who have lived happy lives and have contributed to the world. You can start by finding a person you admire in the field that you’re interested in. Once you pinpoint the person you would like to learn from, reach out to them. Call, email, text, or write them a letter. Tell them that you admire their work and have a few questions for them about achieving success in their field. Many will be glad to help you because they want to give back to those who follow in their footsteps. When you find the right mentor, listen carefully to the advice they give you. As you study what they offer you, you will incorporate the parts of them that resonate with the essence of you, while maintaining your own mindset and integrity in the process.

*Reverse your trying. When you reverse your trying, you will do the opposite of what you’ve been trying to do so you can get the opposite of what you’ve been receiving. For example, let’s say that you’ve been frustrated in trying to find a soul mate—the one you want doesn’t want you, while you often attract the individuals that you’re not interested in. At this point, you will do the opposite of searching for your soul mate: You will take a break from dating, and you will focus on yourself for a while. You may pick up a hobby, make new friends, travel, adopt a pet, or participate in a new spiritual/exercise/meditative program. Paradoxically, when you stop chasing others, you will develop a sense of peace and contentment, and you are more likely to attract the right person who resonates with your authentic and relaxed nature.

*Try for your Don—your God-given talent. Your Don is your God/nature- given talent, whether it’s teaching, writing, caretaking, selling, inventing, organizing, working with your hands, and so on. When you put effort into developing your Don, you will see positive results in many areas of your life, including your relationships, finances, career, health, and happiness. Unfortunately, many people shy away from their talent. They may think that they can’t make money from it, or that they’re not really good enough. If you feel drawn to a particular talent or ability within yourself, go ahead and develop it. Start today. Take a class, read, or listen to podcasts about your Don. Practice it, perfect it, offer your Don to others, as much as you can. You can even give others free samples of your Don. For example, if cooking is your great talent, give some of your delicacies to friends who will enjoy it. The truth is that, when you fully develop your Don, you will accomplish more in less time. You are more effective because you are tapping into your natural strengths, instead of forcing yourself to do things that you’re not good at. As you share your Don with the world, your confidence and ability will grow. You will be able to do more because you have become more.

Always remember that achieving your goals is much easier when you focus your energy on the things that truly matter. Make sure that you meditate on greatness, reverse your trying, and try for your Don (talent/gift). When you do this, you will no longer just be trying; you will be doing and succeeding. Your intention will become reality because you are on your own side.

Nothing will be able to stop you.