真相：有什么人们不愿接受的刺耳真相

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What are straight-up facts people won’t swallow?

Jacinta Mooney, Texan, pianist, part-time ninja

When most people say to a depressed friend, “I'm here to talk anytime you need me”, they're only saying it out of courtesy and don't have the slightest idea what they're getting into. Then when their friend takes them up on the offer, they suddenly freak out and realize they can't handle it. And if they're immature they'll eventually start blaming their friend for “not trying hard enough” “looking for attention”, or “not wanting to get better”.

People with real talent, artistry, and integrity get overlooked all the time or made fun of because they're not loud, charismatic, rich, or “in” with popular groups of people.

If you aren't comfortable with being alone, you probably shouldn't be in a relationship.

The amount of people who cannot recognize emotionally abusive behavior/relationships is staggering. This is usually because they grew up in homes where such abuse was considered normal.

People will always find ways to divide themselves into groups and fight each other.

Gun control doesn't stop murder because people who want to kill will find a way to do it, weapons or no.

Obedience is a virtue, not a weakness.

Religion will never disappear.

Restraining your desires leads to greater happiness than gratifying them constantly.

Who a person is and what they choose to do are not one and the same. Hence why the phrase “hate the sin, love the sinner” is true. Actions and identity are not synonymous.

Forgiveness doesn't mean you forget what they did or you have the warm fuzzies for them; and it doesn't mean you never suffer effects from trauma. It means you don't hold a debt against them or expect them to repay what they took. Forgiveness is a decision. It's when you say “they did me wrong, but I'm not demanding payback or revenge.”

If you have even 5 true friends during your lifetime, you are truly blessed.

No one is going to hand you success, respect, education, or other nice things on a silver platter just because you exist. Hard work and competence is required to achieve anything, especially respect.