21. Dating N.A.T.O. (Not Attached to Outcome) with Erika Ettin

Flirtations! with Benjamin, the Flirt Coach

On this episode of Flirtations, we're dating N.A.T.O.!

Standing for "Not Attached To Outcome," I'm excited to have a conversation all about this dating strategy with dating coach extraoridinaire Erika Ettin (@alittlenudge)!

What does dating N.A.T.O. mean, exactly?

Well, if you've ever attached quickly to someone you just started dating, or put pressure on yourself, or seen dating in black and white terms as a success of failure, or felt like you just have all these expectations that have made dating tricky ... I think you'll like this strategy!

Erika explains what dating N.A.T.O. is all about and how it will help you date with more ease, clarity, and confidence!

We'll also talk about detachment and expectations, communication in dating (including asking for clarity when there's uncertainty), and heartbreak. Erika has a several beautiful messages for the tough times when your heart may be feeling heavy and wonder if it's "all worth it."

I hope you love this episode as much as I loved recording it!

About our guest: Erika Ettin is the Founder of A Little Nudge, a consulting company that helps people navigate the world of online dating, from first click to first date. She is also the author of the book Love at First Site and the co-host of the dating podcast So, We Met Online…

Erika studied economics at Cornell University and received her MBA from Georgetown. She started A Little Nudge in 2011 (after a seven-year career as an economist). She is responsible for many relationships, marriages, and the confidence some people simply need to “get out there.”

A Little Nudge has been featured in media around the country, including The New York Times, The Washington Post, NPR, CBS, and Ask Men, and she currently writes a weekly syndicated dating column. You can connect with Erika on Instagram, @alittlenude.

About your host: Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!

As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.

You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Happy flirting!