This is OhMyGoodens, from high school sweetheart anomalies of 14 years+, turned murried millenials Tiff & Drew. Every other week, tune in as we discuss the ins-and-outs of long-term blackity black love, living your best life in this scam called adulting and all the crazy shit in between. Don't forget to comment, rate, SHARE and subscribe. Follow us on Instagram @ohmygoodens and if you have questions or wanna hear some shit, shoot your shot in our inbox at ohmygoodens@gmail.com or if you real ...
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As much as we advocate about not pouring from an empty cup, we have to practice what we preach and take a hiatus! While we had some Dylan-fiyah loaded in the chamber for Season 5, life has been throwing more slots on our bingo card and we'd be remiss to not shift our bandwidth and energy. Catch up on past episodes in the meantime - this is just a s…
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Join us as we open season 5 with a discussion on mortality and grief (literal and metaphorical) - our individual relationships with it, how it's shifted/shaped us, and what we've learned in knowing all this shit eventually ends. Follow us on Instagram @ohmygoodens or drop some shit in our inbox ohmygoodens@gmail.com …
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If you ain't growing what you doiiiiiin?! To close out season 4, we wanted to dig beyond just the idea of [GROWTH 🌟🤏] to truly examine what's contributed the most to ours. Have you ever really given thought to the things, experiences and people that have been major seeds for your growth? Follow us on Instagram @ohmygoodens or drop s…
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Against the backdrop of both of us entering new job chapters, Drew came through with another bangerrrrrr, yall - the concept of control and how we honestly have VERY little of it in the grand scheme of things. If you're like us, the negative self-talk can get pretty loud when life be LIFING, so we sat down to chat about our relationship w/ control …
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Have you ever given thought to how different summers are now from when we were kids?! Drew was reminiscing hard after last episode so he did some Gooogles on why summers of the past were so top-tier and he stumbled upon a pretty dope article. Take a listen while we talk about some of the ways we can bring those old school summer vibes back, adultin…
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Fresh off a "Black Mirror" binge, we started thinking about how trippy it is existing at the intersection of a past w/ minimal technology to an obvious future fueled by it. Everything from our phones, to gaming and how we get chores and errands done have shifted immensely as we see technology continue to evolve. And don't get us started on A.I - TU…
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We're back from vacay!! Scrolling through the interwebs, we stumbled upon a pretty interesting concept developed by Dr. John Gottman -- one which was able to predict stability in relationships with 90% accuracy -- the 5:1 rule. While developed for intimate relationships, we wanted to chat about how this "magic ratio" can be applied as a formula in …
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In another venture into what we clearly didn't talk about when getting into a relationship (cause we were whole ass kids outchea), we discuss MOOLAH..BREAD...COIN...DINERO - thaaaa BAG. From avoiding bank statements to inheriting debt to hiding purchases, we chat about how we've navigated (and are still navigating) the topic of money, our individua…
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Yall could NEVA say we don't love yalllll! Kiddie germs nearly took us out but we STILL back with some fresh hot Gooden fiyaaah. In this episode, we examine our relationship w/ the butterfly effect - where it's shown up in our lives (IYKYK) and to what degree some simple decisions could've affected us even being here today - figuratively, literally…
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In the latest venture into what we clearly didn't talk about before we got into a relationship (and yall prolllllllly aint either!), we examine the baggage we can retrospectively acknowledge carrying in. From people pleasing to level 10 tempers and phone throwing, we chat about our respective luggage, the whys and whether they're still in our carry…
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Drew is mighty morphin' into a boundary gawd, which lead to a conversation about the benefits of disconnecting -- from family, friends, gadgets, settings, etc. We chat about how we know we're nearing a point where we need to disconnect, the ways we honor that need and how important it is to listen to your bawdy & mind. Fun Fact: Tiff ain't answerin…
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Welcome baaaack! We open season 4 with a chat about body-ody-ody-ody. Life been lifing and parenthood been hood af so we wanted to take a second and make space for an exploration of our respective relationships w/ our bodies - are they an ornament or an instrument?! Which have we allowed to navigate how we see ourselves and how are we balancing gra…
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We cap off season 3 with a conversation on surviving the inevitable shifts and seasons that come and go in relationships - romantic, platonic and all in between. From picking your battles to learning when to let go, we discuss some of the ways our relationships have shifted and how we pivot when life realllly be LIFING. Black Movie Quiz: https://ww…
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As we near a close to season 3, we wanted to chat about what it means to be black and vulnerable - what a paradox huh?! We discuss what vulnerability is, what it most certainly is NOT plus how it's been taught and balanced in our lives. TLDR; vulnerability is strength - you get to be both! Follow us on Instagram @ohmygoodens, send us a voice messag…
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They say everyone is toxic to somebody. You believe dat?! We examine the hyper-focus on that word but more importantly dissect a few ways we all may be showing up as an unintentional antagonist - impact OVER intention, yall! RESOURCES: Article on how to recognize the role you might play in creating an unhealthy dynamic Follow us on Instagram @ohmyg…
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Following one of our pregggo homies questioning whether guys TRULY feel the pressure of parenthood, we took a deep dive into the current standard/bar set for fathers and how to redefine it - with the amazing input of some of our fam and friends, both realized and via the socials. P.S. Yara was cheffing it up in the background and her commentary was…
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Fresh off his guys trip to Miami, Drew wanted to revisit last week's topic surrounding alcohol. He drove the boat right into some DEEEP reflection as we discussed alcoholism and the various ways it can affect one's life. RESOURCES:Treatment for Alcohol Problems: Finding and Getting Help - https://www.niaaa.nih.gov/publications/brochures-and-fact-sh…
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Fresh off breastfeeding for 27 months (WE IS FREEEEE!) + the no-alcohol life of TTC before Yara, Tiff wanted to examine drinking culture and all the things that contribute to our collective and individual relationships w/ alcohol. From bottomless brunches to mommy wine culture, have you ever really analyzed how you navigate alcohol - and why? Kendr…
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Just call us the mythbustaaaas as we chat about our take on some of the most common myths and misconceptions we've heard (and gotten) about marriage. Yall really out here thinking murrrried folks don't live life huh?! P.S. Yara's commentary was lit too, IJS! Follow us on Instagram @ohmygoodens, send us a voice message at https://anchor.fm/ohmygoode…
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With the ghetto that is Amurrrrrica, we wanted to keep it light this week. Take a listen while we chat about how we de-stress and protect our energy in spite of the dumpster fire that is this country; from hacking the happiness chemicals in our brains to restore our peace and joy to bubble baths, yoga, love f*cking and all things in between. Follow…
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With Father's Day around the corner, we sit down to talk about dadding and Drew's experience so far; influences, experiences and the balancing act of it all. It goes without saying that dads are just as influential and essential, so stop with the ties and sock, yall. They might want a bottomless brunch too!! Follow us on Instagram @ohmygoodens, sen…
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Have you ever given thought to whether you were raised on love vs survival? What does that actually look like? Is it possible for the two to have a healthy relationship?! We're joined by Tiff's best friend Al (Jasmyn to yalllll) to discuss which we identify with, why and how it affects us today! Follow us on Instagram @ohmygoodens, send us a voice …
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Seeing Dr Strange 2 got us to thinking -- if you could turn back the hands of time, what would you change? Would you relive, repair or remove some thangs and why? And are your regrets typically about inaction, or making a different choice entirely? Take a list while we discuss and share some of ours. P.S. Yara (aka princess of bg noise) was at it a…
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Errrbody needs a break every now and again but how would you feel about your partner dipping for alone time for 3 days skraaaaaight with NO contact?We discuss our take, what our ideal sabbatical would look like and examine why people feel like parenthood, marriage, etc means you gotta throw in the towel on your own life, individuality and turn-up.P…
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Whitley said it best: "a man who's educated, enterprising and ambitious ....That kind of man is never poor." So, why does the trending dating standards convo always start and end with at least 6 figures regaaaaahdless? Timely enough, Think Like a Man popped up on our television this week (a whole week after last episode on mama's boys). So, we ran …
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Take a listen while we dive into how relationships with parents, both one's relationship with them and theirs with each other, play a vital role in relationships. We examine the cultural definitions of what it means to be a mama's boy/daddy's girl and places in our relationship where those standards have popped (and sometimes caused friction). Foll…
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We been gone for a minute but we baaaaaaack! Join us as we chat about what we have in store for season 3. For our main topic, dique money make the world go round but it can't buy happiness - how dat work?! So, we dig into how/why we define success the way we do and having a healthy balance between literal and figurative currency (time is currency t…
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Instead of taking on the new year, new me mantra of the socials, we decided to take some time to think about some ways to round out the year on a high-note. We thought about failures, reflected on what we’ve achieved (sheiiiit, SURVIVING counts) and really got down to what was truly important in an otherwise craaaazy ass year. P.S. Need a NYE drink…
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With the end of the year around the corner and our inner critics likely running amok, we wanted to chat about that little wench called comparison. Apparently, there's three forms of social comparison (and yes, we ALL do it). How have we compared ourselves to others this year in particular? How have we compared ourselves to...ourselves? And, how do …
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We decided to let the innnanets lead the way this week and saw yall were DEADASS arguing about kitchen sets being gifted to little boys -- which got us to thinking... what's the deal with sexualizing and gendering child-play?! Household dynamics further advance gender role expectations on children and yall out here showing ya whole asses. Go figure…
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Take a listen while we discuss whether there's a fine line between sharing relationship details as a form or education vs just airing your dirty laundry; if these conversations need a seat at the table (Will and Jada, we're looking at you), and how not having them at all can translate to the unfeeling/numbness and unrealistic representations runnin…
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Our parents are in the co-parenting VIP league (and ppl always say their friendships are weird as fudge). This got us to thinking....can and should you truly be offer friendship when a romantic relationship doesn't work out? Apparently, there are 4 reasons why people typically try to remain friends with their exes - where on that scale would you fa…
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Would you time travel to 10 and relive your life with all the knowledge you have now or fast-fwd to 45 with 50mil in the bank? This trending question sparked a larger conversation about regret vs wisdom, and what some the things are we wish we'd known or know better now in our three HOODS (adulthood, parenthood, manhood/womanhood) Follow us on Inst…
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This episode we dive back into the world of social media and how it affects your outlook and standards in relationships, friendships, body image and overall life. We touch on why it's important to unplug and consume it with a conscious understanding that this ish ain't reallllllly real. Your value lives outside of your likes, we promise! Take a sho…
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This episode we take a look at what's not talked about enough from the male perspective - the balance between masculinity/manhood and being a friggin human with emotions, feelings, stresses, etc. We touch on the difference between aggression and being assertive, how this focus on being hard/strong just begets violence that perpetuates hyper-masculi…
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Apparently there's a whole approach to all them red flags folks be ignoring - it's called a personal flag system and involves its siblings yellow and green. Go figure! Take a listen while we chat about all dem flags when it comes to relationships (both romantic and platonic), some of our tried and trues and why paying just as much attention to gree…
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Fresh off a much needed family vacay, we just wanted to sit back and really shoot the shit this episode. Take a listen while we discuss everything from who was realllllly the chosen one in this thang, if we really thought we'd make it and be married and why gratitude and mortality have been the running theme for us this past year. P.S. Drew drops a…
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The innanets are torn on whether your created family takes priority over the family you come from. What ya'll think?! Take a listen while we chat about our takes on this and overall boundary setting between the family you're building and the family you come from! P.S. Drew still can't stay in front of the mic and Yara bout dat action! Follow us on …
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Apparently Chris Rock (and Drew) think men are the only ones who don't experience unconditional love, but wtf is it anyways -- like frfr? Take a listen while we shoot the shit about the mystifying concept of unconditional love - and nah parental love don't count! P.S. Drew even threw a second quote up in dere - ayeee! Follow us on Instagram @ohmygo…
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Everyone say hi to the ladies of @winealittlepod, Abby and Rosie!! We recently pulled up to their neck of the woods to talk all things healthy relationships ... TLDR love ain't as high as ya think pfft. Take a listen while we go through our three C's, some common misconceptions and take a trip down memory lane on Drew's first trip on edibles. Follo…
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Take a listen while we explore the meaning of happiness and joy, as well as how to intentionally choose and navigate it. Our elders are lightyears ahead in happiness according to a Stanford study. So, us young folks have a shit-ton to learn. After all, they’ve all been your age — we haven’t been theirs. TLDR... start investing in yourself and your …
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Take a listen while we take another dive into friendships, this time through the lens of our recent level up to the craziest hood in history - parenthood. Has our perceptions changed and how are we practicing intentionality in the energy we keep around us? TLDR... spring-cleaning your relationships is a thing and should be your thing, whether proac…
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Take a listen while we dive into some of the shit floating around the socials on this "modernized" age of marriage. Marriage vs weddings, knowing better vs doing better, cheat days, the elders setting a low ass standard, etc -- and we somehow started debating about Soul Food again 🤣 Follow us on Instagram @ohmygoodens, send us a voice message at ht…
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Take a listen while we discuss the most common mismatches in relationships (applicable to platonic friendships too!) TLDR - starting in high school meant we saw our fair share of mismatches over these 13 yurrs, yall. Check out Britt's baked gooooodies on IG @b.frostedit PSA: Yara is full blown talking and still heaaavy on her hear ye hear ye stuff …
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TLDR...We're tired and we're exhausted. SIP Daunte Wright and the countless others taken at the hands of an unjust system. Follow us on Instagram @ohmygoodens, send us a voice message at https://anchor.fm/ohmygoodens/message, or drop some shit in our inbox ohmygoodens@gmail.com and let's discuss this week's episode, how ya'll are hanging in there w…
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Take a listen while we sit with Clinton aka Budd oka one of our favorite humans and discuss submission and the hangups attached to all of the selective tradition running amuck in these "modern" times... TLDR; get in where the fudge you fit in and highlight your hard no's early. Ain't nobody got time for wastin' time! PSA: Yara is currently fascinat…
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Take a listen while we shoot the shit about how this lockdown (that we're still in smfh) been killing love (and not in the good way). Everybody breaking up left and right - but for why tho?! Follow us on Instagram @ohmygoodens, send us a voice message at https://anchor.fm/ohmygoodens/message, or drop some shit in our inbox ohmygoodens@gmail.com and…
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In honor of the 3rd annual Day of the Goodens, what better gift to ourselves (and yall) than a custom song in the tune of Boobah. Yes we are THAT extra (or at least Tiff is 🤣) Btw, this week's episode will be released Saturday, March 20. Big shout out to Jul Big Green and Songfinch!--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/o…
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Take a listen while we dive into the latest in toxic masculinity in social media o.k.a Kevin Samuels and this concept of high value in dating. Do men want an equal or a servant? Do women want an equal or a sponsor? There's soooo many questions that need answers (QTNA) with this one, so show us the light yall. B. Simone Clip: https://www.instagram.c…
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Take a listen while we try to figure out why Cornbread, Earl and 'em despise Russel Wilson and Lori Harvey soooooooo much. TLDR - it's hypermasculinity, yall. What's a simp/cornball and why do the visible (partial) facets of Russ and apparently even Kawhi Leonard mean yall get to dictate their manhood, or "lack thereof"?! So, yes, hellllla F-bombs …
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