Sharing stories of force-free dog training journeys with challenging, reactive and aggressive dogs and the impact living with those dogs has on our daily lives and our mental health. I hope that hearing these stories can help to make people feel less alone. We love our dogs to pieces but sometimes it's hard and then it's simply nice to hear from others going through something similar. This podcast is about us trying to teach our dogs, but more importantly, it's about what our dogs are teachi ...
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Claire describes such familiar themes. Like what it’s like to look back at how her childhood dogs were treated with the knowledge she has now. How she thought she knew quite a bit about dogs until Ozzy came along. Ozzy was adopted from a charity, who had done a pretty great job preparing prospective adopters for what it’s like to bring a new dog in…
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Warning: this episode references euthanasia What do you do when you have been dealt an emotional blow, and need time to process that, but time is the one thing you don't have? Because you have to get back to work so you can make rent for example? Or because you're parenting small children and you're happy to get 5 minutes of quiet time on the toile…
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Leah Lykos, a dog behaviorist out of Chattanooga Tennessee and guardian to three dogs, Eva, Biggie, and Mia explains how her focus is on movement and somatic work. That makes sense given that she operates from the philosophy that for dogs even more so than for humans there is no separation of mind and body. We discuss something new to me: resistanc…
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035 | Matilda Kelsall & Rafiki and Nala on dog-sparked personal growth in leaps and bounds
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[The audio of this episode is a bit wonky, but I hope you'll put up with it because the content is great] Matilda is a canine coach who creates all the things she wishes she would have had available when working with her dog Nala for her clients. We talk about how Rafiki, her second dog, helped her grow into the person she is now. (and what on eart…
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When you have to train something you don't know how to identify, where do you start? Can you even start? I share the experiences a friend of mine and myself have had doing physical therapy, the lessons I learned from it and how they apply to life with our dogs. How do you find which dials to tweak?由Kajsa van Overbeek
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034 | Aimee of Pawfect Behavior on everything mindset and dogs and leaving the UK to be a Dubai dog trainer
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How does a UK national end up a dog (and other animals) trainer in Dubai? Just listening to Aimee's backstory will have you in awe of the way she has stayed true to herself making big life decisions. We talk about how she tries to make clients feel like they can share everything with her as a trainer so that they don't have to hide their feelings a…
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033 | Agnieszka Janarek of Tromplo on errorless learning, (lack of) perfectionism and resilience in both humans and dogs
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This episode is for you if you identify as a perfectionist. Simply talking with Aga, the short version for Agnieszka about the concept of errorless learning has given me another way to look at perfectionism and how it can (often but not always) be unhelpful. Aga talks about training behaviors to fluency which is different from perfection, and about…
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032 | Ninke Lemmens & Luka en Ellie over buitenlandse adoptie honden, de zoektocht naar hulp, en de rol van pijn
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Als Ninke Luka adopteert heeft hij al twee jaar lang in een Russisch asiel gezeten. Eenmaal thuis in Belgisch Limburg durft hij niet eens binnen te komen, zo ontzettend moet hij wennen aan zijn nieuwe leven. Goedbedoelde adviezen als "da's een een scheper, die moet u wel bezig houden" blijken voor Luka helemaal niet te werken. Ninke vertelt over de…
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A spontaneous unscripted ramble about my new Mind's Best Friend group coaching program. If you like what you hear on the podcast and you have been wanting to dig deeper, now is your chance. You can find more information here: https://kajsavanoverbeek.com/november-2023-group-coaching/ Or send me an email, or contact me on social media. I'll be happy…
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Mindset Episode 22 | Thinking about changing is changing, so is relapsing, so is not thinking about changing.
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Beating yourself up about being stuck in the "I kind of want to change, but I can't get myself to change, so I must not want the change bad enough" is one of the most counterproductive ways to talk to yourself. Change isn't all about action. It starts with you (and your dog) just living your life (or lives), followed by as much time as necessary to…
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031 | Georgie of Trickwoofs on compassion fatigue in the dog training world, the parallels with raising a human child, learning to love frustration and more
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If you follow any kind of dog related social media, then you will know Georgie, where she posts under the handle @trickwoofs. You will have seen the lovely whimsical cartoons she draws about life with a reactive dog, which are so extremely on point they always make me laugh. A particular cartoon comes to mind that has the guardian and their dog nav…
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Mindset Episode 021 | Considering where the other person's coming from, when you feel triggered
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Does your partner brush off your dog's reaction like it was nothing? Don't they understand the concept op threshold and the importance of limiting reactions? It's enough to make you fume! What could be going on on their end though? Is your partner shouting at the dog? Do you so want to get in their face and tell them that's not acceptable? What cou…
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🇳🇱🇧🇪 030 | Isabelle Schippers & Thiseas, over omgaan met kritiek en trainen van probleemgedrag door er niet op te trainen
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This 50th jubilee episode of Ruff Around the Edges is in Dutch! Come back next episode for more English language content. [Waarschuwing: Rond de 20 minuten horen we Thiseas even blaffen] Maak kennis met Isabelle, het baasje van Thiseas, een adoptiehond uit Griekenland Na een stressvolle start in het leven (Thiseas wordt met 6 weken met een gebroken…
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If only you knew you would get there in the end, then the setbacks wouldn't be so hard to bear. If you just had someone who could guarantee you that, yes, your dog's going to go after a couple more cyclists and there will be 4 more periods of regression, but for sure 100% guaranteed they're going to get there, then that would probably make it easie…
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Ali was from London but now lives in Maryland We talk about how she got into the business of dog training, which has a little something to do with her German Shepherd cross Indie. We talk about the widespread misunderstanding that all dogs should love all dogs and I may or may not tell an anecdote of me hugging a stranger to try and show them that …
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Do you ever have a hard time relaxing after something stressful happens? You want to be in control of your emotions so your bad mood doesn't rub off on your dog or others around you. If you're angry at something, you want to calm down so you don't accidentally start a fight by lashing out at another person or so that you don't end up being unnecess…
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Jumy is a positive reinforcement horse trainer from the U.A.E. who opened her own livery yard, malath paddock paradise, 3 years ago, but she’s been in the industry for 13 years already. I ask lots of no doubt cringe worthy questions, as I know nothing about horses, and we touch upon a ton of things. Of course I want to know how Jumy ended up in the…
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Mindset Episode 018 | When something or someone always suffers because you're juggling too many things
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This podcast episode is a reply to an email I received from someone on my email-list. They wrote: I was constantly trying to manage between work, my dogs, my almost adult kids, my house, a big yard with a lot of plants, my husband, my extended family, and some time for myself! Sound familiar? You're juggling all the things, but no matter the effort…
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027 | Haley & Scout (and Sean), on finding out where you and your dog fit in the (dog)world
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Grab your dog and plan a dog walk or two. Better yet, sit down, grab pen and paper and take notes. This episode is long and chock-full of wisdom. Here are just some of the things Haley of @paws.andreflect talk about: Why we choose to train the behaviors we train Choice points: recognizing what you’re feeling and choosing to do something about it in…
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Would you categorize stress as a negative emotion? Are you willing to feel it? What do you do when something stressful happens on a walk? The answer to that question might already give you the answer to the first two questions. Do you compound your stress with anger at the dog guardian of the out-of-control dog accosting yours? Or do you blame your…
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UK veterinarian Grace and I talk about her Romanian Rescue dog Piper and how being the guardian of a challenging dog has impacted her work as a veterinarian. What were the advantages she had, being a vet already, in dealing with her dog? We also talk about all the terms and certifications being thrown around that relate to animal behavior and train…
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Are you going after the wrong goal? Is your goal to be able to trust your dog? Is your goal to not want to be afraid of something bad happening to your dog or because of your dog? Is your goal to be able to have relaxed non-training dog walks? Or is it to be able to be calm under all circumstances? You might be chasing after the wrong thing. You wo…
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025 | Marissa Martino & Sully, on why “fixing” your dog’s behavior as a way out of discomfort won’t work
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After she had gotten several shoutouts on the podcast already, it was about time I interview the one and only Marissa Martino of Paws and Reward herself. Or rather, I got lucky enough to have her on the show. If I were you, I would listen to this show twice. There are so many gems in there. Listen to it once, just to absorb what Marissa is saying, …
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If you agonize over decisions, research purchases to death before buying, and weigh the pros and cons seemingly endlessly, then this is the episode for you. There’s a reason your brain does this. It’s trying to be kind to you. And its kindness often hurts more than it helps. All is not lost though. We’re not at the mercy of our brains. We actually …
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024 | Marijke Riddering (and Scott) & SupDog, a 1600-mile decompression walk on the Pacific Crest Trail
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You’ve heard of decompression walks, letting your dog enjoy nature and sniff away from the hustle and bustle of urban life. How about a 1600-mile decompression walk? Luna (Marijke) and Werewolf (Scott) hiked the Pacific Crest Trail (2650 miles) for their honeymoon and after clearing the desert section in Southern California, their dog SupDog (“real…
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This episode is all about how staying curious can help your dog, your relationships, and yourself. It was triggered by a conversation I had with a friend who wanted to know why I didn't use Caesar Milan's training style, because it seemed to be working for her. My conversation with her once more drove home the point I always try to make, which is t…
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Megan and I talk about all things complex dogs: - Labels and when to use them. Is Luna, reactive, aggressive, complex, or "simply" a dog dealing with health issues? -What are her health issues? What's causing her extreme pica and food indiscrimination? -Is pica a cause or symptom of Luna's anxiety? -What's behind her resource guarding of her own vo…
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Being perfectionistic is a badge we often wear with pride, but perfectionism mostly doesn't serve us. It doesn't serve us if we're learning new languages and it doesn't serve us when we are training our dogs. Have you ever refrained from saying something or asking a question because you didn't know how to word it quite right? Do you know you would …
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022 | Logan, Nobu and Mona, on getting a new puppy after going through behavioural euthanasia
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TRIGGER WARNING: behavioral euthanasia There are so many different ways I could have titled this episode. The title could have said: on dealing with haters and threats, or on processing grief, or on the power of friendship and love from both friends and strangers, or on paying it forward and helping others by sharing their story. Logan, like so man…
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Do you sometimes feel yourself end up living in a place of regret about things you wish you had done differently for and with your dog? Are you extra hard on yourself for having made mistakes? Do you go to the place of what ifs a lot? Then this episode is for you. I talk about what regret is and most importantly about the thought error you are prob…
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What do most guardians of our podcast dogs have in common? They go down the dog training rabbit hole, learning all there is to learn about dogs and dog training. At some point most of them have the thought: “I might as well become a dog trainer now!” Sara is no different. We talk about that, but also about the importance of communication in her jou…
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020 | Life Coach Rachel Hudson interviews Kajsa van Overbeek (me) on everything coaching, family and dog
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Bonus Episode 010 | Weaponized incompetence, when you believe someone is sabotaging your training on purpose
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Weaponized incompetence, had you heard of it? Until recently I had honestly never heard the term. It’s when someone pretends to be really bad at something in order to not be able to do it, like training or walking the dog… In this episode, I examine how mindset plays into that. Can incompetence be a weapon if we choose to not let it be? https://kaj…
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Imagine living in New York City with an anxious dog. I was pretty curious as to that experience and so when I found Lauren and Stella on Instagram, asked them to come on the podcast, and were there stories to tell. First of all we talk about how Lauren ended up choosing Stella, who is a she when she had set out to adopt a male dog. This had everyth…
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There’s nothing more maddening than working off of a recipe that doesn’t properly specify the ingredients, or their quantities. It’s like when someone tells you to add a “dollop” of something and you wonder: Big dollop? Small dollop? Teaspoon full? Ladle? Internally you. are screaming for someone to please just give you an exact measurement already…
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018 | Jay Gurden & Finn, how an anxious dog turned their guardian into a canine author who rallies to create awareness around imposter syndrome
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Very fittingly. I learned about Jay, whose a canine author, blogger and freelance Writer, and her dog Finn through a piece of her writing. It was an article that Jay wrote for Dogs Today a while ago, but that still makes the rounds among guardians of challenging dogs. What she wrote resonates deeply with most of us. You can read the full article he…
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In this episode, I address the concept of passing stress down the leash to your dog and all of its variants. I ask you to question what's the chicken and what's the egg? Which came first? Your stress or the dog's behavior? Is your stress the result of your dog lunging or the cause? What does worrying about your stress, sensitivity or emotionality d…
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017 | Airen & Pili, on the intersection of life as a trans and queer person and life with our challenging dogs
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Do you have to deal with comments from others when you’re out and about with your (challenging) dog? Do you get remarks on working with food rewards? Made fun of for “rewarding” your dog for lunging or barking? Imagine going through that and getting snide remarks about your sexuality thrown into the mix. Like how of course it’s the dyke who brings …
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If you’re someone who comes home from a dog walk to then classify it as good, bad, great, a disaster, or only a step shy of Valhalla, then you want to listen to this episode. Consider that it is actually you who makes your dog walks “bad” or “good”. And I say that very lovingly. Because it’s good news. Awareness is everything. I explain some strate…
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016 | Jennifer Cook & her motley crew of her own, foster and dog-walking dogs, a laid back Aussie attitude goes a long way
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I loved this interview with Jennifer. Talking with her I understand 100% how she manages to work with all of her canine companions (and their people) so well. We talk about how she went from IT specialist to having a dog walking service and how she hasn’t regretted it at all. She talks about what it is like to foster dogs (and mentions that all of …
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Sometimes we imagine that doing our utmost for our dogs has to feel like we are making a real effort. In other words, it has to feel hard. But does it really have to? Are we stressing ourselves out unnecessarily? Is it simply because we are not used to the fact that doing our best can feel like smooth sailing too? That’s what this episode is about.…
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015 | Meaghan Marton, Sunny & Puppy, on setting Sunny free from his troubled life on earth, and celebrating all that he was.
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Trigger Warning: behavioral euthanasia This episode is full of amazement, wonder, celebration, grief, sadness, guilt, love and I want to say almost any and all of the emotions from all over the spectrum. It’s long and unedited because a story like that of Meaghan and Sunny, which unfortunately does not have a happy end, needs to be told in full. As…
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014 | Annie Phenix & her dogs, the shifts in our thinking about dogs and the sad topic of behavioral euthanasia
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Trigger Warning: Behavioral Euthanasia Many of you will know Annie as the author of the book “The Midnight Dog Walkers” and as a dog trainer who specializes in dealing with reactivity and aggression cases and we do talk about that, but in this episode she also talks about life with her own dogs, Radar, Echo , Zimmie , Cooper and Finn (the latter tw…
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Remember the star charts for kids? You only add stars for good behavior and never remove any for bad behavior. How come we don't treat our dog training "star charts" with the same respect? When we are working with our challenging dogs, every setback makes us tear down the star chart and start from the beginning again. Why? And, also... stop it! Wha…
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A travel souvenir from Nicaragua Imagine falling in love with two abandoned 5 weeks old street dog puppies whilst abroad in Nicaragua. The second you lay eyes on them you know you’re in trouble because you’re not going to give these dogs up. So you crowdfund in pre-crowdfunding days to get the money together to bring these dogs to the Netherlands. …
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Are you always trying to keep everyone in your household happy? I was. In this episode, I talk about how that can backfire and create the opposite of what you want with examples from my own life. Fair warning, it was recorded on the fly, while walking Rusty, so the audio is not awesome, but the message might resonate. If you want to learn how to ha…
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So much good stuff in this episode! I want to turn half of the quotes in this episode into memes. Like, how learning how to do agility with a border collie is like learning to drive in a Lamborghini. Meet Tara Stillwell and her dogs Eva, the red and white border collie, Curri, the sable border collie and Duke the mini-Aussie. It’s absolutely clear …
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Do you have a drop it cue? Not your dog, you… Can you drop your expectations? Can you drop your frustration? Can you drop your anger? Can you drop your schedule and improvise when something doesn’t go according to plan? I know that you can. That you can be a champion at “drop it”. What if you could drop the idea of what life with your dog is suppos…
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