Ep# 185: Vent Hide and Eat

Coffee With Dr. Kashey

In this episode, Dr. Kashey talks about the complicated relationship between frustrations, feelings, and rational thinking. He explores the concept of "provocation" and how it relates to motivation, explaining that feelings are the primary drivers of behavior and urgency. Dr. Kashey emphasizes the importance of integrating rational thinking with feelings, as relying solely on one or the other can lead to either impulsivity or inaction. He introduces the STFU model (Stimulus, Thinking, Feeling, Urging) and explains how feelings generate the urgency or motivation to act, while rational thinking helps direct that motivation towards smart or dumb actions. Dr. Kashey highlights the need for appropriate sensitivity to frustrations, where feelings are in a reasonable range, allowing for the calibration of urgency levels and deliberate, purposeful responses aimed at resolving the frustrating stimulus and achieving constructive outcomes.