66. Attachment Theory and How to Develop Secure Attachments in Dating with Lauren Zamora

Flirtations! with Benjamin, the Flirt Coach

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we have licensed marriage and family therapist and dating coach Lauren Zamora to talk about one of the hottest topics when it comes to dating and relationships — attachment theory.

We’re breaking down what attachment theory is, how our attachment styles develop and the different types, and what it truly means to feel secure in love and relationships.

We’ll also explore the core wounds behind both anxious and avoidant attachment styles, how these wounds show up in dating, and why the anxious/avoidant dynamic plays out so often. Why does this duo seem to attract each other?

Plus, we’ll discuss communication, whether attachment styles follow gender roles, and perhaps most importantly—how to start healing attachment wounds and build a more secure, connected relationship with both yourself and others.

If you’re ready to deepen your self-awareness and create more secure, fulfilling relationships, this episode is for you.

Let’s go flirties, time to meet Lauren!

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About our guest: Lauren Zamora is a licensed therapist and dating coach passionate about helping women in their 30s heal attachment wounds, overcome dating anxiety, and find healthy, fulfilling relationships. With a direct yet empathetic approach, Lauren blends inner child healing, attachment theory, and practical strategies to guide her clients in breaking free from old patterns and embracing secure, confident love.

Having personally navigated years of toxic dating cycles before meeting her husband, Lauren understands the struggles of modern dating firsthand. She now dedicates her work to empowering women to rewrite their dating stories, feel less anxious, and become attracted to partners who truly honor them.

When she’s not supporting clients through her virtual therapy practice, Therapy with Lo, Lauren creates engaging content on her Instagram account Dating with Lo , where she shares insights, tips, and real talk about dating, relationships, and self-worth. Her brand voice—warm, caring, fun, and a little bold—resonates with women (and all genders) who are ready to step into their most empowered selves.

You can connect with Lauren on Instagram!

About your host: Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!

As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.

You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

💗 Happy flirting!