"It Felt Like There Was Only One Way To Be Queer" - with Natali Caro

Lost Spaces: Memories from Gay Bars, Lesbian Clubs, and LGBTQ+ Parties

So it's fairly well established that I think queer spaces are really significant and an important way to explore your identity and dip your big toe into the queer lake of fabulosity.

But, what we don't talk a lot about on this show is the importance of queer performance spaces, where people who are just starting out - singers, comedians, jugglers - have the chance to perform in front of an understanding audience (even if they do occasionally heckle and objectify you - somehow it's ok when it's a queer audience!).

Anyway, that was my way of introducing this week's guest, comedian extraordinaire, Natali Caro, who found a queer comedy night at Giant Dwarf in Sydney early on in their career, and says that it helped them to be brave and try different things that helped them step into their comedic excellence.

So much so, in fact, that it inspired them to set up their own night - Gag - that we will find out more about during this episode.

Do you have any memories of Giant Dwarf, or clubbing from your own scene that you want to share? Well, if you have please get in touch - I want to create the biggest online record of people's memories and stories - go to www.lostspacespodcast.com and find the section 'Share a Lost Space' and tell me what you got up to! Bonus points for embarrassing photos!

You can also find me on Facebook (www.facebook.com/lostspacespod) and Instagram (www.instagram.com/lostspacespod).

Find out more about Natali by following them on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/nati_daddy_/)

Takeaways

1. Performing to a queer audience is often more rewarding and understanding than performing to a non-queer audience.

2. Comedy can be a powerful tool for self-expression and reaching people with important messages.

3. Overcoming shyness and pursuing comedy can be a transformative experience.

4. The first solo performance can be nerve-wracking but can also lead to personal growth and confidence. Queer comedy festivals provide opportunities for performers to showcase their work in a supportive and inclusive environment.

5. Inclusive comedy spaces are important for marginalised communities who often feel excluded from mainstream comedy.

6. Queer clubbing can be challenging for individuals who don't feel like they fit into the traditional party scene or who prefer non-clubbing related entertainment.

7. Creating an inclusive space requires intentional programming, representation, and a welcoming atmosphere set by the host or organiser.

8. The intangible element of 'vibes' plays a role in the overall experience of a comedy night or event.

9. Measuring self-worth based on output can be detrimental and it's important to let go of the need for validation.

10. Living in a cave may sound appealing at times, but human connection and applause can bring joy and fulfillment!