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351: Men love to be nurtured, too (pt. 2) (ft. Scott Kaltenbaugh) 1:16:11

2d ago1:16:11

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Ever feel like you need to be tough in order to be seen as "masculine" enough? Ever feel like you wish you could just let your guard down and be taken care of? The truth is, it is a deep human need to be nurtured in relationship. It's neither masculine nor feminine, and we need to expand our awareness of and perception of love, relationship, and wh…

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350: Weed, Porn, and Masturbation: The Trifecta! (ft. Jason Lange & Luke Adler) 1:03:09

9d ago1:03:09

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"Porn was the #1 relationship I had in terms of intimacy." So says Jason on his experience of sex, love, and closeness in his 20s. (Fortunately, after engaging in personal growth, including men's work, he's now married to a radiant goddess!) If you've ever struggled with your relationship to porn -- and if that has also impacted your relationship t…

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349: Interested in plant medicine but don’t want to do “drugs”? Try this. (ft. Luke Adler) 57:47

16d ago57:47

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Most of us, on our growth journeys, become aware that we need to heal from some kind of trauma. We also often discover that we need more than talk therapy. Altered states have been used since time immemorial to help us on our healing paths, and can be particularly helpful in trauma healing. And while plant medicine (ayahuasca, psilocybin (magic mus…

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348: ‘I wish we had sex more.’ (ft. Violet Lange) 59:18

23d ago59:18

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A common pattern in a lot of love relationships sounds like one partner (often a man, in a man/woman dynamic) saying things like: "I wish you weren’t so busy with the kids." "You never dress up for me anymore." "I wish you'd flirt with me more." "You hide yourself from me; I never really see your body anymore." "I wish we had more sex." --- What's …

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347: Men’s work isn’t enough. You’ve also got to have this. (ft. Luke Adler) 58:04

1M ago58:04

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Have you ever felt unworthy, less than, or "deeply ugly and stupid," as my guest this week put it? The fact is, we need all the support we can get. We need it from our fellow humans, and we need it from something greater. The word "God" can be very triggering -- for those who experienced religious trauma growing up (which, let's face it, is literal…

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346: When whining is so magical that it generates polarity! (ft. Jason & Violet Lange) [replay] 59:00

1M ago59:00

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Is it painful for you when you feel that your woman is closed? Do you long for more ways to help her open up fully? (Not just sexually, but that is included!) Most dating and relationship advice doesn't include the concept of polarity and the three stages of relationship, but it can be nothing less than magical when worked with properly. According …

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345: The 4 male "types" who partner with Borderline women (Borderline Personality Disorder) (ft. Violet Lange) 1:41:09

1M ago1:41:09

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Ever been with a woman partner who was emotionally volatile? Ever felt like you were walking on eggshells, or that no matter what you did it wasn't enough and she was always disappointed in you? If so, she may have had Borderline Personality Disorder ... or at least traits of it. More people are diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) …

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Weekly Mailbag-Shy Girl Finding Courage to Connect 14:26

2M ago14:26

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Send us a text In this podcast episode The host offers advice to a shy listener, nicknamed "A Shy Girl," who wants to talk to someone she admires. The hosts provide strategies for overcoming nervousness, including preparing a simple introduction, focusing on the act of saying hello, and practicing initiating conversations. They emphasize that even …

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Weekly Mailbag – Decoding His Mixed Signals #2 7:37

2M ago7:37

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Send us a text In this week's Weekly Mailbag, a listener seeks guidance on navigating communication and priority differences with their partner. The listener feels that their partner's withdrawn communication style and differing priorities create distance and misunderstanding in their relationship. They worry about expressing their concerns without…

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Emotionally Unavailable or Just Not Into You? Spot the Signs, Set Boundaries, and Choose Yourself 16:33

2M ago16:33

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Send us a text In This Episode We that dives deep into the complexities of modern relationships. If you’ve ever found yourself questioning whether he’s emotionally unavailable or just not that into you, this is the place for answers. Through expert insights, real-life stories, and practical advice, we’ll help you decode mixed signals, identify unhe…

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344: 3 dating myths to let go of immediately (ft. Jason Lange) 47:56

2M ago47:56

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Are you gettin' out onto the dating scene in 2025? Whether you're newly single, a refugee from the world of pickup, recently divorced, or you've been dating for a while now, there are a few myths we see as obsolete that we wanted to bust. Sex, dating, and relationships can be confusing territory, and there are a lot of dos and don'ts when it comes …

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Crush Your First Date: Best Conversation Starters & Topics to Avoid 15:10

2M ago15:10

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Send us a text Nervous about your first date? Don’t worry—we’ve got you covered! In this episode of Dating and Relationship 101, we’re sharing the ultimate guide to first date success. 🎉 ✨ What you’ll learn: ✔️ The best conversation starters to break the ice 🧊 ✔️ Topics you should definitely avoid 🚫 ✔️ Tips to keep the conversation flowing naturall…

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343: A quality women yearn for in relationship (but rarely talk about) (ft. Scott Kaltenbaugh) 1:39:35

2M ago1:39:35

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There's a certain quality in men that a lot of women long for -- and I mean long for it from the depths of their beings -- but often don't talk about. Why don't they? Because a lot of women (myself included) hold a certain amount of shame around wanting it in the first place. And what is the quality? It's an aspect of healthy masculinity that we do…

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Weekly Mailbag – Decoding His Mixed Signals 8:21

2M ago8:21

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Send us a text Get ready for one of our most popular segments—The Weekly Mailbag—where we tackle your burning questions! This week, we’re diving into a topic that leaves so many scratching their heads: Decoding His Mixed Signals. Ever wondered: Why he texts all the time but avoids making plans? What it means when he’s hot one moment and cold the ne…

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342: Are you scared of her big feelings? This may help. (ft. Jason Lange) [replay] 53:13

2M ago53:13

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Ever felt intimidated when your woman was upset (about something that involved you)? Ever gotten defensive, stonewalled, or made her wrong -- "that's not what I meant, so you shouldn't feel that way"? You're not alone! And there's a high cost; this can be exhausting for you. Whether you're just dating or married, if you're at the mercy of her feeli…

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Ghosting or Busy? The Art of Reading Between the Lines 18:38

2M ago18:38

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Send us a text In this episode of Decoding Him: Text Message Mysteries, we dive into one of the most puzzling text scenarios: Is he ghosting you, or is he just busy? From one-word replies to radio silence, we break down the subtle clues in his texting behavior and explore what they might really mean. Join us as we decode real-life text exchanges, s…

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341: GirlTalk: The most important relationship skill of them all 1:11:32

2M ago1:11:32

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When it comes to love relationships, whether you're dating or in a committed, long-term relationship, there's one place where you need to be skillful or it will all just fall apart. It might not happen right away; you might get through the honeymoon period or even get married and it might be fine. But little by little, if this skill isn't developed…

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340: Top 3 traits we've seen Nice Guys develop to get what they want! (ft. Jason Lange) 46:11

3M ago46:11

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We've worked with a lot of men who fit into the category of Nice Guys (a la Dr. Robert Glover's famous book, No More Mr. Nice Guy). And we've witnessed tremendous grown, the breaking of old patterns and habits, and astounding progress in these men. Here, we discuss the top 3 things we've seen Nice Guys do to get to get what they want -- and how to …

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339: GirlTalk: Does your woman get anxious? How to soothe her skillfully 1:03:55

3M ago1:03:55

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Almost every single woman in a relationship (dating or married) needs reassurance sometimes. Unfortunately, many men don't know how to provide it in a way that really lands for her, which often causes unnecessary strife and disconnection. In one man's words, "I used to be the classic male 'fixer' and thought I would be the one to save the day by gi…

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338: What do you do if sex hurts for her? (And how do you talk about it?) (ft. Z Zoccolante) [replay] 56:08

3M ago56:08

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According to my sex research, women's number one sex problem is physical pain. The truth is, it's painful when sex hurts -- for both people. Not just for the person experiencing it, but for their partner. How do you handle it if she has pain during sex, whether you're just starting out in dating or you're in a committed relationship? And how do you…

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337: GirlTalk: Ever felt like she’s testing you? 1:17:23

3M ago1:17:23

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Ever felt like there was a "right" answer to a question a woman asked you, or a "right" way to respond to a situation with her? Did it feel like if you did the "wrong" thing, there would be consequences? Then you've likely been tested! Testing (also known as "feminine testing" -- or sometimes a term I personally dislike -- "shit testing" -- can be …

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336: Why does your woman poke you sometimes? What’s that about? (ft. Jason Lange) 57:21

4M ago57:21

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Ever feel like you're being deliberately provoked by your woman? Or that she sometimes pushes and pushes until she gets a rise out of you -- often about what seem like tiny things? This pattern can be confusing until you understand the deeper reasons for it. And it's quite a common in dating and relationships, though we don't often discuss it expli…

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335: Ever felt like women had a 'list' in dating & relationships? (ft. Violet Lange) 1:08:18

4M ago1:08:18

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Ever gotten the sense that a woman is sizing you up ... deciding whether you match up with a list she has in her head around her ideal partner? You might be right. Whether you're online dating, speed dating, or meeting someone in real life, a lot of women do have a list, and it can be confusing or even frustrating when you interface with it. Here, …

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334: Are you needy? Here’s the difference between neediness and having needs (ft. Jason Lange) 50:26

4M ago50:26

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What does it actually mean to be needy? We use the term a lot, and sometimes in less-than-kind ways -- both in terms of describing others as well as ourselves. Having needs is a universal experiences. Humans, animals, plants, and every living thing has certain needs. Human beings need food, water, and sleep on a biological level -- and we also need…

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333: Are you addicted to porn? (ft. Jason Lange) [replay] 58:05

4M ago58:05

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Do you ever feel ashamed of your porn use, or wish you could stop or cut down? Ever had trouble getting it up and wondered if that's connected to porn use? Ever compared dating partners to women you see in porn, and wondered if that was negatively impacting your sex or love life? Over 10% of men are addicted to porn, according to a 2019 study in th…

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332: Ever gone into freeze? Here’s what’s actually going on. (ft. Stacy Matulis) 1:16:27

5M ago1:16:27

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If you've ever felt anxious around a woman you were attracted to, gone rigid when you tried to flirt, or completely shut down during a fight with your partner, you know what it is to go into freeze. When we're overwhelmed, we can lock up. This is inconvenient if what you really want to do in that moment is to move, get someone's number, or speak up…

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331: GirlTalk: Relationship lessons, growth work, and memorable men 1:05:09

5M ago1:05:09

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Ever wondered what different women say when they get really real about their last relationship? How about why they do growth work — and what it looks like for them? Here, I take you behind the curtain to give you a peek at exactly that. This is an amalgam episode with responses from over over ten women who answered three questions: What’s the bigge…

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330: GirlTalk: How to go down on her so she loves it! 1:10:58

5M ago1:10:58

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If you love having sex with women and want to be known as a great lover, being good at going down is an important part of your repertoire. ;) But it’s not easy to talk about this with anyone, so here we’re laying it bare. Four of us ladies share openly about what really works for us in oral sex -- what we desire, long for, and what holds us back in…

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329: How do you stay grounded when she's dysregulated (upset, stressed, anxious, angry, etc.)? (ft. Jason Lange) 59:21

5M ago59:21

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When your partner gets anxious or upset, do you feel like it's your fault or that you have to fix it immediately? How able are you to stay grounded and feel your own self, even amidst her storm/upset? Ever found yourself doing anything to calm her down -- because your sense of being OK was contingent upon her feeling OK? (We find this common in the…

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328: Betrayal trauma. How do you recover? (ft. Rosanne Delaney) 1:15:13

5M ago1:15:13

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"For so long I felt like, ‘this is only happening in my marriage.’" If you've ever experienced something dark, difficult, or deeply challenging in your love relationship, *and didn't feel like you could talk about it with others,* you'll relate to this episode. Few topics bring up wounds as deep as betrayal. Whether you've experienced a partner che…

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327: Transforming shame into power. Yes, it’s possible. (ft. Jason Lange & Luke Adler) 1:09:38

6M ago1:09:38

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What are you most ashamed of? Is it your sexuality -- how much you want and need sex, or your deep-down cravings that you fear others would judge if they knew about? Is it your yearning for love, your desire to be held or seen or known in some fundamental way? Many of the biggest breakthroughs we've witnessed in clients have come when they've heade…

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326: GuyTalk: How do you overcome a sexual challenge (like premature ejaculation)? [REPLAY] 46:11

6M ago46:11

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Ever experienced porn addiction (and had that affect your love relationship), contended with erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation, or been worried about what your cock looks like? Then you'll feel right at home with this episode. Here, several men in our community share their unvarnished truth with their own voices. They forthrightly and v…

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325: What if every woman had a self-pleasure practice? (ft. Violet Lange) 1:04:38

6M ago1:04:38

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Do you wish your woman was more open to sex? Not just intercourse, but the fun of the whole sex thing -- kissing, making out, foreplay, getting hot and heavy, doing the dirty. Ever longed for more from your wife/girlfriend/partner when it comes to sexuality -- and not just "from her" but with her? Ever wished she had more fun when it came to sex, t…

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324: What does it mean to open a woman? (ft. Jason Lange) 1:07:11

6M ago1:07:11

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Ever been around a woman who was closed down, shut off, or emotionally unavailable? Ever felt like your partner wanted to say something but was holding back, and if you'd somehow shown up in a different way, maybe she'd have let you in? Perhaps you've felt some version of, "I can’t handle that anger right now so I need to remove that anger from her…

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323: How do 12-step programs connect to healthy relationships? (ft. Mark Wilde) 1:11:19

7M ago1:11:19

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"When I was at my worst, I didn’t know there was a way out." Sometimes in life we get stuck. We don't know how to deal with big feelings, so we self-medicate -- with alcohol, or porn, or weed, or food. But often the self-medication gets in the way of things we really want -- love; intimacy; healthy, connected sex; joy. You may think of 12-step prog…

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322: 5 ways to polarize a powerful woman (ft. Jason Lange) [Replay] 1:10:01

7M ago1:10:01

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Has your woman ever been in her masculine, and you wished she was in her feminine? Here's something that doesn't work: "Hey, could you drop into your feminine already?" ;) So how do you polarize your woman well? Polarity is one of those mysteries in life like electricity: We don't fully grasp why it works, but we can harness its power to make our l…

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321: 'I’m afraid to show interest until I’m willing to commit' (ft. Jason Lange) 47:34

7M ago47:34

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Have you ever been concerned about getting involved with a woman because you didn't want to hurt her feelings if it didn't work out? Ever felt like you shouldn't go deeper emotionally with a woman you were dating because you weren't sure you wanted to put a ring on it? Does it ever feel like all women want a long-term, committed relationship, so if…

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320: From breakdown to breakthrough: how to recover from trauma (ft. Jason Lange) 51:31

7M ago51:31

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If you’ve become aware that you experienced developmental trauma (and/or attachment wounding), you may wonder how to heal from it. Where do you go to move through stuck parts of yourself that are holding you back? How do you get things moving and release blocks so you can finally get what you want in sex, dating, and relationships? Jason was a self…

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319: 'My relationship is war.' (What do I do?) (Ft. Jason Lange) 54:36

8M ago54:36

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Ever felt like when it comes to your relationship, you're constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop? Or that when you come home, you don't know what (or who) you're going to get? Or that every moment is, "Are they OK?" "Are they OK?" "Are they OK?" Reality check: It is not normal to be constantly on guard or anxious in your relationship. That k…

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318: GirlTalk: Role play in sex. What's it like!? 1:21:46

8M ago1:21:46

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Ever wanted to explore role-play in sex? If so, you're not alone! According to research, one in three people in North America alone wants to try some kind of role-play in the bedroom, whether that's doctor/patient, professor/student, cop/detainee, pirate/wench or some other sexy dynamic. Why is sexual role-play so intriguing? Is it different from k…

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317: What exactly IS codependency? (How do you know if you’re codependent?) (ft. Jason Lange) 1:00:55

8M ago1:00:55

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"It felt kind of like a trap, but at the same time felt like a soothing warm blanket to feel safe and ruminate within." "The codependent relationship is filled with drama. There is blaming, a victim and the rescuer/protector. That rescuer is filled with needing to be needed. That’s where it began for me." "It was years of trying as hard as I could …

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316: Where do you find quality masculine role models? (ft. Jason Lange) [replay] 1:06:26

8M ago1:06:26

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Did you have a deeply present, emotionally aware father who took the time to attune to you and teach you how to be a trustworthy, integrated man? If so, you're in the minority. ;) Most of our clients had far-less-than-ideal role models when it came to the masculine -- which makes becoming a trustable adult man challenging. For example, do you feel …

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315: What happens once you’ve recovered from Nice Guy Syndrome? (ft. Dr. Robert Glover) 1:15:29

8M ago1:15:29

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There's a lot out there about Nice Guy Syndrome. But what happens after? What is the magical land of Boundaries, for example? If you’ve figured out you’re a Nice Guy, you’ve likely been in a love relationship or two (or five) where you felt like your partner walked all over you, or where you developed resentment after overextending yourself. Or per…

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314: Can microdosing help you develop better relationships? (ft. David Romero) 1:02:02

9M ago1:02:02

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Ever contended with anxiety, depression, chronic pain, ADHD, or OCD ... and had that affect your sex or love life? Ever suspected that you have generational trauma, or thought you were broken? Ever felt like there was something wrong with you because you just can't seem to get it together when it comes to relationships? Spoiler alert: There is noth…

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313: GuyTalk: Life after being with a BPD partner (Borderline Personality Disorder) 1:31:06

9M ago1:31:06

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"I took responsibility for things that wasn’t mine to take." So begins the brave stories of four men who share their personal experiences of what it was like being in relationship with a woman with Borderline Personality Disorder (or with traits of it). If you've ever been unsure about whether your partner may have traits of BPD, this is a good one…

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312: GirlTalk: How much money do you make, and how much does that matter? 1:06:38

9M ago1:06:38

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Have you ever felt like you needed to make a lot of money to impress women? Ever had a dynamic shift around money in a relationship, and not known how to deal with it (for example, she starts making more than you, and you have unexpected feelings about that)? Have you wondered who should pay on a date (do you offer to? Is that considered sexist now…

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311: What does it really mean to be emotionally available? (ft. Violet Lange) 47:38

9M ago47:38

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Ever chased emotionally unavailable women? Ever dropped a connection because you felt overwhelmed, or like something was "off" but you couldn't quite name what it was? Ever been uncomfortable with the "mess" of dealing with someone else's emotions, or been hesitant to share your own out of a fear of rocking the boat? Then this episode will resonate…

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310: How do I initiate sex without coming off as demanding? (ft. me) 28:46

10M ago28:46

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Sexy time, pickers, and dating, oh my! Here I answer the following three common client or listener questions: "I’ve heard women say it’s a red flag if the man has not had relationship experience. What do you say?" "One issue I've had is selecting the right female partner. What is a good way to guide myself to go about doing this?" (My picker is off…

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309: How do you know when it's time to get a divorce? (ft. Jason Lange) 1:13:48

10M ago1:13:48

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When is it time to stay and work on things in your marriage, and when is it time to let things go? Perhaps you can relate to scenarios like these: You're worn out and exhausted because you're always the one reaching out to your wife and never getting anything back You're great co-parents but your sex life is DOA As a couple you rarely or never open…

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308: Are you staying together for the kids? There may be another way to go. (ft. Jason Lange) 53:20

10M ago53:20

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If your marriage isn't working, you're suffering. Maybe you're fighting all the time (whether aloud or not). Maybe you're great co-parents, but you don't connect in an intimate way anymore. And when I say "intimate" I'm not just talking about sex; I'm talking about warmth, closeness, and connection. Should you automatically stay in a relationship b…

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