Ep 64: Shadchanit Tell-All Ft. Hindy Laster A.K.A. Queens Shadchan (with Yonah And Chani) Nobody Talks Shidduchim

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100: Our Very Last Show - The End Part 2 - Everybody Talks Jewish Matchmaking Nobody Talks Shidduchim Podcast (2019 - 2023) Thank you to our amazing listeners! IJ (Izak) and Avery (Avigdor) retire after 4 years. They discuss Netflix's Jewish Matchmaking. It’s a big one folks! Izak and Avigdor pull down the curtain, it’s not goodbye son, it’s I’ll see ya later. 1) Avigdor Wolf as Avery 2) Shevi Lipschitz as Rosie 3) Fagie Strom as Paige 4) Avromi Meyer as Rabbi AY 5) Yona & Chani Laster as The Lasters 6) Ahuva Shandelman as Holy Shid 7) Izak J. Held as IJ Guest Cast: 1) Yona Laster 2) Chani Laster 3) Devora Kahan aka Miss D 4) Shevi Lipschitz 5) Faige Strom 6) Avromi Meyer 7) Rachel Vaynberg 8) Holy Shid aka Ahuva Shandelman 9) Cousin Malc aka Michael Max 10) Serena aka Rikki Yarmish 11) Alexis aka Blimi 12) Tamar 13) Lakewood Michal 14) Lakewood Tami 15) Felix 16) Shlomo from Nashville 17) Missy aka Samantha 18) Emm aka Malya 19) JoJo aka Isaac Nahon 20) Yosef Feldman . #shidduchim #jewishmatchmaking #shadchan #jewish #jewishdating #choson #chatan #Kallah #simchas #mazaltov #mazeltov #shaitels #sheitals #yeshiva #podcast #monsey #simchas #weddings #jewishweddings #datingpodcast #jewishlife #5Towns #jewishpodcast #shadchanit #modestfashion #jewishfashion #jewishlife #shabbos #kosher #kosherfood #kosherfoodie #tznius #singlesevents…

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99: The End Part 1 - We Talked Shidduchim 44:04

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After 4 years of talking shidduchim, Izak and Avigdor retire. --- Our goal is to help guys and girls navigate the 2023 American Jewish dating scene aka #Shidduchim. 💻 Linktr.ee 💻 ➜Linktr.ee: https://linktr.ee/shidduchim --------------------------------- 📷Instagram📷 Nobody Talks Shidduchim➜ https://www.instagram.com/nobodytalksshidduchim --------------------------------- 🎵TikTok🎵 ➜ https://tiktok.com/@shidduchim --------------------------------- 📺Videos📺 YouTube➜ https://www.youtube.com/@shidduchim Rumble➜ https://www.rumble.com/shidduchim --------------------------------- 👕Purchase Our Merch👕 ➜ https://www.bonfire.com/shidduchim --------------------------------- 💰Send us Ca$h for our dates ;)💰 ➜ https://anchor.fm/shidduchim --------------------------------- 🎧Podcasts🎧(Spotify, Apple, Google and MORE) https://anchor.fm/shidduchim --------------------------------- 🧑‍🎓Studies🧑‍🎓 https://linktr.ee/nobodytalksshidduchim --------------------------------- 📱Twitter📱 ➜ https://twitter.com/NShidduchim --------------------------------- 📧Collaboration/Sponsorship Inquiries📧 ➜ shidduchim@icloud.com --------------------------------- 💎Join The Community💎 Patreon➜ www.patreon.com/shidduchim Locals ➜ https://shidduchim.locals.com . #shidduchim #shiduchim #shadchan #jewish #jewishdating #jewishmatchmaking #choson #chatan #Kallah #simchas #yiddish #mazaltov #mazeltov #shaitels #sheitals #yeshiva #podcast #monsey #rocklandcounty #simchas #weddings #jewishweddings #matches #jewishlife #5Towns #jewishpodcast #shadchanit #modestfashion #jewishfashion #jewishlife #shabbos #kosher #kosherfood #kosherfoodie #fashion #tznius #shadchanim…

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98: Myths of Marriage After Singlehood (ft. Ahuva Shandelman LCSW aka Holy Shid) & Return of The Shid Queen & Avery 1:36:53

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Episode #98: Myths of Marriage (ft. Ahuva Shandelman LCSW aka Holy Shid) & Return of The Shid Queen and Avery Ever think it’s all going to be solved after you tie the knot? Well the good news is that a bunch of it is but the journey doesn’t stop there. NTS co-host & Holy Shid creator Ahuva Shandelman leads us in Shidduch Conjugation. 1) Thoughts about Gedale Fenster Shabbaton 2) Myths singles have about of marriage 3) What happens when (older) singles finally tie the knot 4) The work we can do to have better relationships w self and others 5) There’s the you do you and I do me philosophy, but when you’re married, a big chunk of ourselves are committed to our spouses. So what percentage should be us? What percentage should be left to The you do you, and I do me philosophy? 80/20? 50/50? 6) Types of Therapy for Jewish Singles 7) What's all the Psychedelic talk about... should I try it?! . #shidduchim #shiduchim #shadchan #jewish #jewishdating #choson #chatan #Kallah #simchas #yiddish #mazaltov #mazeltov #shaitels #sheitals #yeshiva #podcast #monsey #rocklandcounty #simchas #weddings #jewishweddings #matches #jewishlife #5Towns #jewishpodcast #shadchanit #modestfashion #jewishfashion #jewishlife #shabbos #kosher #kosherfood #kosherfoodie #fashion #tznius #shadchanim…

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97: How To Plan Your Travel (ft. Shlomo From Nashville) 54:28

2 years之前54:28

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97 - How To Plan Your Travel (ft. Shlomo From Nashville) In this episode we discuss the minutia‘s of traveling as well as Jewish singles trying to arrange trips. We have all tried to get away for the weekend or take a lavish vacation and when we were younger this was one of the easiest things to do because family is just a text away and friends are just roaming everywhere you go. But as we get older, friends dwindle down and family just isn’t the exact kind of people you want to go to Tahiti with you realize that getting away is costly and time consuming. In this episode the crew will go through the entire process of how you can budget and get away to the ultimate fun Jewish singles destination! 1) How to explain the response from most people “what? You went there? There’s kosher? There’s what to do? 2) Flight or Drive? 3) Why do all shidduch daters go to Miami Beach? 4) Where do Jewish singles go for vacation? 5) Tell us your travel destination secrets! 6) We always see women in big crews, are they all really friends? 7) At what point do you stop bunking up?…

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96: That's Your Role Model? 48:32

2 years之前48:32

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Ever have a role model growing up? We all look to someone as a person that we can strive to be. In high school it may be the senior when you are a freshman. In camp it may be your counselor when you are a camper. Or in yeshiva it could be a Morah or Rabbi of yours. In this episode we discuss role models, and what they mean to you and your life. Paige and Nechama join IJ in this episode. 1) What is a role model? 2) Can siblings be a role model? 3) Are we dealing with a generation that was raised to resent their role models? 4) Jewish versus non-Jewish role models 5) When role models "go off the rails" what to do?…

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95: Your Mental Health Getup 1:33:03

2 years之前1:33:03

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Today’s episode focuses on the topics of mental health and depression. We chat with David Izso who is the host of dont worry bout it podcast and a shidduch dater. 1) Mental Health 101 2) Symptoms of Mental Health 3) If you struggle with Mental Health, how do you know if you are in an okay place to date someone? 4) How do you know if you should still date them despite Mental Health, anxiety or depression? 5) What to do if your partner is depressed and you are choosing to support them? 6) How to move through depression in dating?…

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94: Bachelor Party Bitachon (ft. Yosef, Eliyahu & Shua) 1:32:13

2 years之前1:32:13

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94 - Bachelor Party Bitachon So the main man is getting married and it’s happening, the big wedding day that everyone’s excited about. But now it’s time to throw the bachelor party. What can you do as an Orthodox Jew doing a bachelor party? Are there limits to the fun you can have? What is a Jewish bachelor party like? Yosef, Eliyahu & Shua/Jared join IJ in this episode. 1) when you’re younger, everyone comes to the bachelor party, when you’re older, it’s a different story 2) Here’s why you want rich friends 3) Do all guys just go to the steakhouse and then the Cigar Lounge? 4) Is the bride allowed at the bachelor party? 5) Is a bachelorette party a thing in the Jewish community? 6) What if there’s beef between some of the groomsmen? 7) I know what if certain guys can’t pay or afford to chip in to cover the group? 8) What if it’s one of these three day luxurious trips? 9) Ranking shidduch dates from Michigan, Maryland, Florida, California, Minnesota, Illinois & Israel…

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93: Enter The Multiverse - What It Was Like To Be Married For The Day 1:19:32

2 years之前1:19:32

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Enter The Meta-Shidduch-Verse: What It Was Like To Be Married For The Day THE SHIDDUCHVERSE aka Multiverse: IJ and Avery enter the meta-verse...After opening up a magical box of Latkes on Chanukah... In the universe of Westeros IJ and Avery have different lives. In this alternative reality IJ is a stay at home Dad (with a cool haircut home biz), married to a beautiful women he met on his 5th shidduch date experience. His wife Darla, actually joins the podcast to preach her Shidduch take. Avery is a comedic writing tycoon, married to Olga, a rich Russian Oligarch's daughter, attorney and currently spends his fat alimony checks (from his first wife) on lucrative neighborhood tennis matches. They decide that it's time for them to get into the podcast game. Here's what that world looks like... 1) What's wrong with these single people? 2) Here's why they are getting it wrong... 3) Why do they think they can hang out with us and our married friends...echh gross 4) Here is a list of Shadchanit's they need to listen too 5) Dvar Torah 6) Our interview with a shadchan (they know what their doing) 7) AI DATING (Artificial intelligence dating)…

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92: Here’s How To Plan A Magical Date (ft. Malky) 1:05:34

2 years之前1:05:34

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Izak and Malky follow up from episode 5, they discuss the full process of actually planning a date. Though, this time it's magical and it's exactly how the ladies would like it to be :). Izak also wears a wicked cool Chanukah sweater. 1) What is the best first date place? 2) Where do you go for the second? After going to a Lounge for the first date, what place is best to go to for a second date? A) Lounge (again?) B) A Lite Dairy Restaurant (too soon to be eating?) C) Activity (you don’t really know them yet! When can you just give up on going out and just hang out with each other… Basically becoming an official couple 3) What would the perfect conversation be like? 4) Where she lives debate…can you date near her town?? 5) The spots you just don’t want to go go 6) Can the girl just meet you half way? 7) Can you do an action first date 8) Making reservations, what is the girls take on whether a guy calls up in advance about a reservation or not? Precocious of him? 9) girls Having to have backup plans just in case the guy goofs or something unplanned happens. Precarious of him? #dating #jewish #chanukah #hanukkah #weddings…

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91: Tales of the Shidduch Journeywoman and The Chagim 1:06:56

2 years之前1:06:56

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91: Tales of the Shidduch Journeywoman What is a Journeywoman? A woman who is an experienced and competent professional in her field but doesn't yet have that "trophy boyfriend or husband" to show off! So we have heard from the journeymen; now we are spotlighting the journeywomen, well one woman and that's Rivka who tells us what's going on with the Shidduch Journeywoman's life. Part 2 of this cast, IJ and JoJo chat about the chagim (jewish holidays) for singles. 1. Figuring out the uncle and aunt life 2. What are niblings? 3. Continued discussion on long distance dating challenges 4. The time zone tobbacle! 5. Getting catfished 6. When you have to move away after you get married 7. Culture changes when you're in a relationship 8. When you can say "but my rabbi said" 9. How not to rely on friend setups!!…

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90: Long Distance Dating and Reflecting On That Whole Zoom Thing 49:35

2 years之前49:35

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90 - Long Distance Dating and Reflecting On That Whole Zoom Thing We continue the long-distance convo from episode 72. Long-distance can be quite the challenge for many couples but it could also provide a very unique and special experience. There’s a plethora of awesomeness and problems that can take place during a long distance relationship. Are you one of those who this has happened to? Izak is joined by Rivka and Rabbi AY to opine. 1) Does long-distance really work? 2) Did zooming during COVID count as long distance? 3) People are so busy today. It’s like all dating is long distance. 4) Making sure they are a real person and not a cat fish! 5) What if both parties struggle with moving away from where they are? 6) Is face timing a substitute for in person dating? 7) How come small minded people roll their eyes when you tell people that you met and are together primarily online 8) Ideas for facetime Dates! Like actually doing something 9) Taking long-distance breaks 10) Getting over regrets #jewish #dating #aka #shidduchim #app #shidduch #shadchan #lakewood #sheitals #podcast #shabbos #simchas #weddings #jewishlife #modestfashion #jewishfashion #shabbos #kosher…

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89: How I Met Your Therapist (ft. Ahuva Shandelman a.k.a. Holy Shid) 1:32:10

2 years之前1:32:10

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89: How I Met Your Therapist (ft. Ahuva Shandelman a.k.a. Holy Shid) Ever wonder how orthodox Jewish women become dating coaches or therapists? in this episode, we discuss with dating expert Ahuva Shandelman LCSW how she got to where she is today. The gang also discusses the continuous tales of the Shidduch journey-person. Dating specialists tales: 1) How the whole social work thing caught on 2) Going to a male therapist vs a female therapist 3) Jewish vs. nonJewish therapist 4) How you get into being a “Shidduch/dating expert” 5) How you relate your experience to those who have dating struggles 6) Commonalities of struggling daters 7) Parent care taker situation #jewish #dating #aka #shidduchim #dating #app #shidduch #shadchan #lakewood #girls #weddings…

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88: There’s Nothing Wrong With You Because You Are Single (ft. Jackie Glaser) 1:05:07

2 years之前1:05:07

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88: There’s nothing wrong with you because you are single (ft. Jackie Glaser) In a world with so much stereotyping of orthodox Jewish singles, Jackie Glaser brings a fresh perspective On the fact that there really isn’t anything wrong with you. Dating is mostly a struggle for frum Singles, here are some ways you can alleviate your dating experience and break through preconceived notions when trying to affiliate yourself with the Jewish community and your dates. 1) Baruch Hashem Syndrome!! 2a) Is there really nothing wrong with someone when they are single? Clearly women or men are not finding this person attractive or viable, tell us more 2b) Singles see the problems with many current married people & there just may not be any realistic role models 3) Crap Testing Singles!! Jackie's Adam Neumann Story 4) What do you do with your position in the Jewish community, do you move on and look for other things or do you stay and fight back the stereotype? 5) Is there really something wrong with Singles or is it that there’s actually nowhere to find Singles? (& mature singles [Avery explains]) 6) what are your singles saying about the Shidduch scene and their struggles? 7) Burn out is very real, keeping up at work, keeping up with yourself, salvaging your friends and family relationships, why are so many women closed off to trying? Why are so many men looking for the quick fix? 8) we noticed a lot of mental health advocacy like meditation and other tools for this genre, is it becoming more popular? Or is it the only answer? 9) How do you actually get more relaxed on dates? CBD, cigarette break? jump in on a Netflix and ice cream binge? 10) The trend of being a people pleaser, so many young girls are pressured by matchmakers to just be a people pleaser but in the world of today like social media and people’s voices to be heard perhaps it’s not the best thing. Also I learned in my pick up class that it is actually good to not always please & not always get excited about every single interest that your date may have……

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87: Brachos and Segulas: Are They Hocus Pocus or Will It Get You Married? 1:25:40

2 years之前1:25:40

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Ep 87 Brachos and Segulas: Are they hocus pocus or will it get you married? In this episode IJ & Avery discuss the concept of brachos & segulas people receive regarding be marrige. 1. What are the brachos & seuglas people refer to you need before marrige? 2. Mazal 3. Do the rabbinim really have any insight in to whom you will get married to? 4. Are kabbalists more accurate when predicting who you'll marry? 5. If their brachos don't work what next? 6. Should we stop giving money to these people who are giving us false blessings. 7. How to detect which rabbanim to trust when it comes to asking for a bracha. 8. Is the psychology of blessings the real reason they "work" for some, meaning; you manifest what you believe in. 9. Going to kevarim, repealing ayin haras,, bashert and all other spiritual quest. Do they work? 10. Diff between short term and long term segulas (ex of long term: (shir hashirim, nishmat kol chai, and going to the kotel (all for40 days in a row) 11. This is a sub topic but along the lines of segulas I think one of the main reasons people do them is out of desperation and I’ve been suggested some shadchanim that really take advantage of that and charge ridicuuuuulousssss fees…

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86: Zodiac Signs, Names & The Unknown 1:01:00

2 years之前1:01:00