Why Does Betrayal Trauma Hurt So Bad?

Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing

Betrayal cuts deep, and that wound causes intense pain and heartache. In this episode, Alana talks about why betrayal is so traumatic. She walks us through the three main areas that betrayal attacks and outlines the six stages of healing. Listen to understand more about the strong emotions you may feel as you’re recovering from betrayal and how that’s a normal and expected part of healing.

Listen to learn:

• Why betrayal is so traumatic

• How betrayal trauma impacts your attachment, your emotions, and your intimacy

• The results of experiencing “betrayal blindness”

• The importance of healing individually and relationally

• How to understand the six stages of healing and where you are in those stages

Referenced in this episode:

• The Betrayal Bind - book by Michelle Mays

• Diving Into Full Disclosures - past podcast episode

• Polygraphs Better Understood - past podcast episode

More from Choose Recovery Services

• Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma, and is free for the first 6 weeks.

• Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction.

• Help. Her. Heal for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills needed to begin healing a broken relationship.

• ⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.

• Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.

• Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.

• Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.

• Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey hosts this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage.

• Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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