The Most Important Focus For Different Attachment Styles BeThatHealingGirl podcast

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Feel like you're the one keeping the relationship alive? 😩 You’re planning the dates, remembering the little things, prioritizing them… and they’re just kinda there. So what gives? Are you asking for too much? Are they low-effort or just wired differently? And most importantly—how do you actually get them to step up without nagging, over-functioning, or feeling like you have to prove your worth? I gotchu, bb! Today, we’re breaking it all down: 🔥 Why high-achieving women struggle with feeling like it’s never enough (and why this shows up in your relationships) 🧠 How subconscious programming is keeping you stuck in over-giving mode 💡 Signs you’re acting from a wound vs. a real relationship need 🚩 What to do if your partner’s effort feels just a little too bare minimum 👑 How to communicate your needs without being needy (yes, it’s possible!) Also—big news! 🎉 My Align Mini Retreat is happening March 8 in San Diego 🌊 This is your chance to actually feel what secure love is like—to shift your energy, embody confidence, and experience transformation in real time. If you’re in SoCal, you NEED to be there! 🌊join me for an intimate healing mini-retreat in a stunning oceanfront sanctuary! 🌊 https://www.healinggirlgang.com/offers/FTmRxFat/checkout?coupon_code=100OFF 💡 JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG—For Q&As, trainings, workbooks, and all the tools you need to stop spiraling over your relationship. 🔥 Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥 💖 JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG! 💖 🔥 CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram , TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session…

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When It Feels Like You're Doing All the Work in Your Relationship 22:09

9天之前22:09

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STOP DOING ALL THE WORK IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP 😤 (Why You’re Exhausted & How to Fix It) Ever feel like you’re carrying the whole damn relationship on your back? Planning the dates, making space in your schedule, keeping the energy going—while he just... coasts? Yeah, I see you, and this episode is for you. Today, we’re breaking down why high-achieving, type-A women (hi, that’s you👋) often fall into the pattern of over-functioning in relationships—and what to do about it. Because relationships aren’t meant to feel like a group project where you’re doing all the work while your partner barely puts in effort. We’re talking about: ✨ Why doing less in your relationship actually makes it stronger ✨ How your anxious attachment + overachiever mindset keep you stuck ✨ The sneaky ways you might be self-sabotaging your relationship ✨ How to lean back, stop overextending, and let THEM step up 👀 🔥 UPCOMING TRAINING: Ready to actually implement this? In March, I’m teaching a LIVE training on how to communicate your needs without feeling needy + set boundaries that don’t backfire. Stay tuned! 💡 JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG—For Q&As, trainings, workbooks, and all the tools you need to stop spiraling over your relationship. 🔥 Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥 💖 JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG! 💖 🔥 CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram , TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session…

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Stopping the Systemic Self Sabotage & Relationship Anxiety 54:20

16天之前54:20

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This week I’m joined by Dr. Jeanine Staples-Dixon, a literal genius, tenured professor at Penn State, and someone who knows why you keep self-sabotaging in love. We’re breaking down: 🔥 Why your relationship anxiety isn’t just a “you” thing—it’s a SYSTEM thing 🔥 How patriarchy, white supremacy & capitalism keep you chasing love & approval 🔥 The sneaky ways you abandon yourself trying to “win” a man’s attention 🔥 How to de-center a man (without ruining your relationship, I swear) 🔥 What ACTUALLY makes you feel safe & secure in love (hint: not another anxious text at 2AM 💀) ⚡ If you’re tired of spiraling, waiting for his texts, and feeling like a full-time detective on his IG stories—this episode is for you. 💡 The self-trust era is upon us. Because you don’t need to prove your worth to anyone, and you sure as hell don’t need to perform for love. Let’s fix this. 🔥 Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥 💖 JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG! 💖 🔥 CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram , TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session…

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How to Feel Secure in Your Anxious with an Avoidant Relationship 28:57

23天之前28:57

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🚨 Reality check for my high-achieving, anxious girlies in relationships with an avoidant partner… 🚨 Valentine’s Day can be a lot—especially if you’re anxiously attached and caught in the push-pull dynamic. The overthinking. The “are we okay?” spiral. The low-key panic when they don’t text back right away. Sound familiar? You’re not alone, and this episode is for YOU. 💌💡 In today’s episode we’re diving into: ✨ How to actually feel SECURE in your relationship (without forcing them to change) ✨ Why anxious attachment isn’t a you problem—it’s a learned pattern (and how to unlearn it) ✨ How to stop making Valentine’s Day (or any other random Tuesday) the ultimate test of your worth ✨ The real secret to getting closer to your avoidant partner WITHOUT over-explaining, chasing, or spiraling And let’s be real… if someone called you insecure, your knee-jerk response would be absolutely not, I have my life together, thank you. But when it comes to love? That’s where things feel messy. So let’s talk about it. 🔥 Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥 💖 JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG! 💖 🔥 CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram , TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session…

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3 Signs Your Anxious and Avoidant Relationship Will Work 26:48

4 weeks之前26:48

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If you’re anxiously attached and dating an avoidant, you already know this relationship is basically an extreme sport. One minute, you’re feeling all the love; the next, you’re staring at your phone wondering why they haven’t texted back for seven hours (… or seven days 😅). If you’re deep in the “is this ever going to work, or am I just setting myself up for heartbreak?” spiral, this episode is for you! What We’re Covering in Today’s Episode: 💡 The #1 sign that your partner actually has the capacity to meet you in a healthy relationship 🔥 Why so many anxious daters say they want to heal but aren’t actually doing the work 🔍How to stop hyper-focusing on the one bad moment and see your relationship as a whole I love this topic because I see it every day in my clients—high-achieving women who have their lives together on paper (degrees, careers, real estate, the whole thing) but secretly feel like a total mess when it comes to their relationships. If that’s you, you’re not alone. And if you’re exhausted from pushing away a good partner because your nervous system is constantly in panic mode, this episode will give you the clarity you need! 🔥 Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥 💖 JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG! 💖 🔥 CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram , TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session…

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Do you keep pushing a good one away or are you attracting emotionally unavailable people? 22:32

5 weeks之前22:32

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Okay, real talk—are you actually pushing away someone great, or do you just keep attracting emotionally unavailable people? Because SAME. Been there, lived it, wrote the metaphorical book. This week, we’re getting deep into: 💔 Why you might be sabotaging a good relationship without realizing it 🔥 The real reason you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners 🧠 How your subconscious is literally running the show (but we can fix that) ✨ The shift that changes EVERYTHING so you stop chasing and start choosing I say this with love: If you’re stuck in the cycle of push-pull, over-explaining, or convincing someone to choose you… this episode is your wake-up call. Because here’s the truth: when you stop acting from fear and start moving from self-trust? That’s when everything shifts. 💕🎧 🔥 Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥 💖 JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG! 💖 🔥 CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram , TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session…

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Season 2! Understanding Push-Pull Relationship Dynamics 22:57

6 weeks之前22:57

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✨ Hey girlies, welcome to SEASON 2 of the BeThatHealingGirl Podcast! ✨ We’re leveling up big time—new vibes, new content, and SO many juicy convos ahead. Today, we’re diving into something we all know too well: the push-pull dynamic in relationships. You know, when things feel AMAZING one moment and like a dumpster fire the next? Been there. Let’s break it all the way down. Here’s what we’re getting into: 💔 Why the push-pull cycle keeps you stuck in those same fights. 🧠 How emotional consistency (on your end) changes everything. 🎤 Why being heard is non-negotiable in relationships AND life. And girl, it’s not just about relationships this season. We’re zooming WAY out—because how you show up in your love life is so connected to things like burnout, perfectionism, and even your hormones (yes, we’re going there)! Also, let’s talk TEA: In this episode, I’m spilling personal stories about my own push-pull messes, sharing a Q&A about speaking up without the guilt, and dropping some major updates about where this pod is headed (hint: IRL events might be coming soon 👀). This season is ALL about stepping into your power, owning your glow-up, and creating the relationship you deserve—starting with the one you have with yourself. 🎧 Hit play and let’s get into it. Drop me a comment, share with your bestie, and let’s heal together. Love you! 💖 🔥 Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥 💖 JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG! 💖 🔥 CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram , TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session…

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Stop Anxious Attachment to Live Your Best Life 18:56

8 weeks之前18:56

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✨ It’s 2025 and we’re not carrying anxious attachment into this new era okay? Feeling stuck in the what ifs and putting your life on hold for someone else? Trust me, I’ve been there. In this special year-end episode, we’re diving into how anxious attachment has been holding you back from living your best life—and, more importantly, how to leave it behind as we step into the new year. 🎉 Plus, we’ll dive into how YOU can start feeling full and magnetic in your life now, instead of waiting for the "perfect relationship" to come along. 🌟Oh, and BIG NEWS: The Relationship Glow-Up Guide is here! This 5-day Mini Course is totally free, and I'll be walking you through simple daily practices (in less than 10 minutes a day) to help you start 2025 as your best, most healed self 💖 🔥 Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥 💖 JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG! 💖 🔥 CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram , TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session…

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Why Acting "Unbothered" Isn't Working With Anxious Attachment 19:54

10 weeks之前19:54

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In this episode I’m breaking down why pretending you’re totally fine when you’re actually spiraling inside is keeping you stuck. 🚨Spoiler Alert: Being unbothered isn’t an act. It’s a practice. If you’re tired of filling your calendar, holding in your feelings, and THEN word-vomiting because you can’t hold it in anymore… this episode is for you, honey. We’ll talk: ✨ Why busying yourself isn’t the answer, how to stop performing and start self-revealing (healthily) and The key to feeling genuinely secure in yourself and your relationship. 🌟Oh, and BIG NEWS: The Relationship Glow-Up Guide kicks off January 1st! This 5-day Mini Course is totally free, and I'll be walking you through simple daily practices (in less than 10 minutes a day) to help you start 2025 as your best, most healed self 💖 🔥 Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥 💖 JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG! 💖 🔥 CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram , TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session…

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Anxious Meets Avoidant: How We Overcame the Fear Cycle in Our Relationship (Part 2 with Craig!) 29:50

11 weeks之前29:50

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💖 This is Part 2 of my special series with none other than my husband, Craig! In this episode, we’re diving deep into the patterns that defined the early days of our relationship—hello, anxious and avoidant attachment styles—and how we worked through them to create the connection we have today. We get super real about the miscommunications, the fears, and yes, even the moments we weren’t sure we’d make it. Whether you're in the trenches of an anxious-avoidant dynamic or just trying to build a healthier connection, there’s so much here for you! 🎙️ Don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review this episode if it resonates! P.s. This episode is available to WATCH on youtube here ! 💖 JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG! 💖 🔥 CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram , TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session…

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Bday Special! Craig Gets his Podcast Cherry Popped [Part 1] 26:16

12 weeks之前26:16

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🚨 SPECIAL EPISODE ALERT! 🚨 This week on BeThatHealingGirl, I’m joined by none other than… my husband, Craig! 💍✨ We’re pulling back the curtain on our relationship and diving into everything from attachment styles (anxious vs. avoidant anyone? 👀), to the hilarity of fighting over In-N-Out Burger, to how fear vs. love plays a major role in relationships. Spoiler: We don’t hold back. 🫣 Craig shares his journey as “an evolving man,” growing up in a conservative family, navigating emotional vulnerability, and—let’s be real—trying to figure out what I actually do for a living (shoutout to my “girlies” 🫶). This is the real, raw, and sometimes ridiculous side of our relationship. Whether you’re navigating attachment struggles or just want a peek into how two VERY different people make it work, this episode is for you. Bonus: There’s a Part 2 coming! 😏 💌 Head to Youtube (link below) to watch this full episode and let us know your favorite moment or the part that hit home for you in the comments! 💖 JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG! 💖 🔥 CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 ✅ SUBSCRIBE AND WATCH ON YOUTUBE JOIN THE HEALING JOURNEY 💗Follow on Instagram: https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlinsta 💖Follow on TikTok: https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirltiktok WORK WITH CLARE 😜 Self-Sabotage Slay-Over http://tinyurl.com/slayover2024 ⭐️ VIP 1:1 Session https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlVIP…

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Why the Reassurance Isn't Working 21:13

13 weeks之前21:13

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So you asked for the reassurance. You got it. And... you’re still spiraling. WTF, right? 🤯 This week, we’re getting into why that little “everything’s fine” doesn’t actually hit the way you hoped it would—and why it never will (spoiler: it’s not about them, bb, it’s about YOU). 💅 We’re unpacking the real tea on why reassurance is just a Band-Aid for what’s actually going on underneath—and how to break free from the cycle for good. If you’re tired of feeling like an emotional rollercoaster every time you send a “just checking in” text, or not so jokingly ask "do you still love me?" this episode is for you 💕 💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 https://www.healinggirlgang.com/ 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 http://tinyurl.com/theconfidencecode2024 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram , TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session…

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The Do's and Don'ts to Stop Overthinking 22:30

14 weeks之前22:30

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Ever sent a 3-page text knowing you shouldn’t? Or started a fight just because you couldn’t scratch that itch? Yep, we’re going there. If overthinking has you spiraling like Alice down the rabbit hole (been there!), this episode is for you. We’re diving deep into the dos and don’ts of breaking free from the overthinking cycle so you can step back from the mental cliff and find peace. I’ll be breaking down exactly what’s not helping you stop overthinking (hello, distractions, numbing, and Pink Elephant syndrome 🐘) and what you can actually do to calm your anxious mind and take control. Want more support? Check out The Confidence Code—my step-by-step program designed to heal anxious attachment and overthinking from the root. 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 http://tinyurl.com/theconfidencecode2024 💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 https://www.healinggirlgang.com/ 🎉 P.S. Black Friday deals are coming in hot 🔥—make sure you’re on my email list or follow me on IG for all the deets!…

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Staying Connected During Distant Moments 19:57

15 weeks之前19:57

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Does a little distance feel like a red alert to you? Whether it's a delayed text, a faraway look, or physical distance (hello, long-distance relationships!), this episode dives into the heart of how to stay connected even when your mind is spiraling. With the holidays around the corner, distance—emotional or physical—might hit a little differently, but Clare is here to help you navigate it! Let's do this, bb! 👯‍♀️ 💖 JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG 💖 👯‍♀️ CONFIDENCE CODE FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram , TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session…

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Healing Anxious Attachment: Client Transformation with Athena 43:41

16 weeks之前43:41