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Healing from betrayal trauma is no small feat! It takes a lot of work, time, and focus in order to do it. That's all great, but then there's the "HOW?" In this podcast, we will talk about Betrayal Trauma, my past with it, how I healed from it using Christian Scripture, and how you can do the same thing.
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Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing
Choose Recovery Services - Alana Gordon and Amie Woolsey
Choose To Be is focused on women healing from infidelity, and betrayal trauma. We are committed to helping women heal. Be a part of the conversation as we interview experts and others who have gone through this journey and gain tools to help you move forward. Alana and Amie bring their own experiences to the conversation, and their individual expertise makes for a unique and valuable resource. Alana Gordon-MFTI, CCPS, CSAT candidate, Betrayal Coach Amie Woolsey-Betrayal Coach, CPC, ELI-MP, A ...
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btr.org – btr.org has daily, online group and individual coaching sessions for victims of emotional & psychological abuse and sexual coercion. For women experiencing pain, chaos, and isolation due to their husband’s abuse: lying, gaslighting, manipulation, porn use, cheating, infidelity, emotional abuse, and narcissistic abuse. We recognize that labeling a woman as codependent is a form of victim blaming. Pornography addiction / sex addiction are a domestic abuse issue. Narcissistic abuse is ...
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BEAUTY BEYOND BETRAYAL - Heal from Betrayal, Affair Recovery, Betrayal Trauma Recovery
Lisa Limehouse - Christian Betrayal Trauma Specialist, Affair Recovery Coach, Certified Life Coach, Phoenix Rising
Hope and Healing for Christian Women Have you just found out your husband has sexually betrayed you? Do you feel like the pain will never end? Are you so overwhelmed that you just don’t know how to navigate through the trauma it has brought upon you? Do you feel like you will never trust anyone ever again? In this podcast you will find biblical guidance, pure honesty and tactical solutions that will help you heal from the betrayal of an affair. My mission is to help you heal from the devasta ...
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Do you wish you had a resource you could share with your unfaithful spouse to let them know a few things you are feeling after D-Day? I've heard you loud and clear! After much research and polls, I created a list of things you, as the betrayed spouse, want you unfaithful spouse to know since the discovery of his betrayal. It can be hard to articula…
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Did you know the underlying themes in fairy tales brainwash women and girls to not recognize abuse? Fairy tales are, of course, a staple of many childhoods, offering stories of magic, adventure, and often, (apparently?) love conquering all. However, a closer examination reveals an unsettling undercurrent: these tales inadvertently lead women and gi…
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How do you love yourself first AND do the hard things? In this episode, Amie shares personal experiences and offers powerful perspectives on truly nurturing yourself through life’s chaos. You’ll learn practical tips for self-compassion, setting boundaries, and making time for yourself. This episode will give you the courage to turn inward as you fo…
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Have you ever felt betrayed by someone close to you, only to realize you might also be betraying yourself by not setting boundaries? Discover how our relationships often mirror our self-treatment in our latest episode. We unpack the profound importance of forgiving ourselves for our mistakes, particularly in the realm of betrayal and self-betrayal.…
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You've decided to reconcile after betrayal. You feel like things should be going better, but your spouse is still having a difficult time trusting you. Why? How do you get your spouse to start trusting you again? Is it always going to be this way? In today's episode, I am giving you 3 reasons why your spouse struggles to trust you after betrayal an…
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Have you ever asked, “Is it wrong to want to leave my emotionally abusive husband?” Many women in the BTR community yearn for emotional and psychological safety. If you’re asking yourself this same question here are some things to consider: This episode is Part Two of Anne’s interview with Karen DeArmond Gardner. Part One: The Fear of Starting Over…
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It can feel soul-crushing if your partner asks for a separation, but what if it’s actually an opportunity in disguise? This week Amie is a guest on Luke Gordon’s podcast. Luke is a men’s emotional health coach and cofounder at Choose Recovery Services. Listen in as Luke and Amie talk about how couples can use separation as a catalyst for profound i…
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D-Day has happened. All the evidence of his betrayal has been laid bare. There is no hiding it anymore. You are in massive pain. The devastation is beyond words and you are seeking relief. You are hoping he will change - maybe this will help you heal. But you are still doubting his behavior. Is he really changing? Is he really sorry for what he has…
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Have you ever felt like you're talking to a wall when trying to communicate with your partner? It's the dance of dialogue within marriage, where sometimes one partner leads with avoidance and the other is left stumbling. In our latest episode, we unravel the threads of spousal communication, casting a spotlight on the challenge of engaging with an …
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You discovered his betrayal - either through an affair or sexual addiction. You googled what to do. First option - therapy. Like most, even me, we immediately panic and want to know what we SHOULD do after we find out we've been betrayed. 99% of the time, Google will tell you to seek out therapy - either for yourself or for your marriage. But is th…
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If you don’t want a divorce, there are several alternatives to consider. The fear of starting over can be a major hurdle. After 30 years of emotional and psychological abuse, a survivor shares her story. This episode is Part One of Anne’s interview with Karen DeArmond Gardner. Part One: I Don’t Want A Divorce. But I Don’t Know What Else I Should Do…
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Last week we learned the thought patterns of those who are in the victim and emerger stages of healing from trauma. Today Amie takes us through the final two stages - reclaimer and chooser. In this episode you’ll learn how to reframe toxic thought patterns and reclaim your truth. Understand how to shed your victimhood, separate your worth from emot…
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Ever find yourself puzzled by the intricate dance of human personalities, particularly when it comes to spotting a narcissist or understanding someone with avoidant traits? Our latest episode peels back the layers of these complex behaviors, guiding you to discern between the two and highlighting why firsthand experience trumps hearsay in shaping y…
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Can betrayal trauma affect you spiritually? Can it cause you to blame God? Can it cause you to be angry with God for not stepping in and stopping the affair or porn use? Can it cause a crisis of faith? Beautiful, there is a spiritual side to infidelity and while the unfaithful cannot blame their choices on the devil, could the enemy played a role i…
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Being delivered from abuse is something that all victims hope for (or pray for). Victims of emotional and psychological abuse most often put their hope in the abuser changing. In my study, I began to see a pattern for deliverance from abuse. Here are the 5 Stages: 1. Things Get So Bad, You’re Daydreaming About Being Delivered From Abuse Sometimes, …
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Do you feel stuck in the cycle of victimhood after betrayal, believing thoughts like, “I’ll never trust again” or “I’m not enough”? In this week’s episode, Amie walks us through the “Victim to Chooser” framework sharing the progressive stages she sees clients navigate towards healing and wholeness. Listen in to see if you have thought patterns that…
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You suspect your husband is having an affair. He has been acting strange for weeks on end. You may even have "circumstantial evidence". But how do you know if he really is cheating or is using porn? He won't confess it. Now you're left with just wondering and it is driving you crazy. What do you do? In today's episode, I'm going to guide you throug…
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Join me and trauma coach Tara Brown as we embark on a journey of healing that transcends typical self-help rhetoric. Our conversation weaves through the intimate process of trauma recovery, highlighting the crucial role of our entire nervous system alongside our mindset. Tara shares the dance of the four pillars of healing—physical, emotional, ment…
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D-Day It's the day we remember as the DAY OF DESTRUCTION. The Day my world shattered into a billion pieces. The day I found out he betrayed me. What if you could actually REDEEM that day so it no longer has that kind of power over you? What if that day could have a different meaning? Well, it can. You CAN redeem D-Day. In today's episode, I share 5…
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Dr. Debi Silber and Anne discuss the concept of forgiveness in relation to emotional abuse and intimate betrayal. Forgiveness is a word we try to avoid at BTR because it’s so often weaponized against victims, but can it help victims of intimate betrayal on their journey to healing? This episode is Part Two of Anne’s interview with Dr. Debi Silber. …
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Do you feel stuck wondering if you will ever heal from betrayal trauma? In this powerful episode Amie and Alana share their own experiences grappling with that exact question. They provide wisdom and practical tools for aiding your healing process whether you are just starting out or are further along the path. You can and will heal - as you keep t…
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Uncover the hidden layers of protective instincts as we dissect the complex reasons why women often stand as the unsolicited shield for men in their lives. We'll venture into the terrain of the 'nice guy' archetype and the paradox of men with addictions, which we humorously yet thoughtfully categorize as mild, medium, and jalapeno. Each holds its o…
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Dr. Debi Silber’s groundbreaking research at The PBT Institute offers more hope to betrayal victims than ever. She’s discussing the five stages of healing from betrayal trauma and more. Healing from betrayal trauma may feel like a distant hope right now. And that’s okay. But know that healing is possible. This episode is Part One of Anne’s intervie…
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Do you find yourself imagining all the ways things would be better “if he would just…”? If so, you’re not alone! In this episode Amie and Alana dive into this disempowering mindset and provide wisdom on shifting your thinking by focusing on what you can control. Gain clarity as they share candid examples and advice on how to take your next empowere…
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Is it "normal" for the unfaithful not to tell me everything until I absolutely force the issue?Why won't he tell me the truth when he has the chance? Unfortunately, this problem is more common than we'd like to believe. When someone is caught, they tell only what they absolutely have to tell - and no more. There's a basic human survival mechanism i…
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Ever wondered what it is that women truly crave from their husbands? This soul-stirring episode peels back the layers of a wife's heart, revealing six core desires that men are often oblivious to. We're not just talking about favorite flowers or films here; it's about the profound understanding of her aspirations, the silent weight of her mental lo…
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He was the one who betrayed me! He was unfaithful. Why do I feel so much shame? When your spouse's infidelity has been discovered, it can send a tsunami wave of shame to the one who has been betrayed. It can be caused by undue shame we place on ourselves as the betrayed or our unfaithful spouse ends up blaming us for their betrayal and it can cause…
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If you’re trying to heal from your husband’s emotional abuse, here are three important factor to consider. These factors will have a significant impact on how quickly you’ll be able to recover. 1. Has His Emotional Abuse Stopped? The first factor that affects how long it will take to heal from emotional abuse is making sure the emotional abuse has …
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We all wear masks at times, but hiding your true self is exhausting and inauthentic. In this week’s episode we welcome back Luke Gordon. Luke opens up about his personal battles with hiding behind false versions of himself. He describes how he was finally able to deepen relationships when he stepped into vulnerability, integrity, and authenticity. …
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Today is Q & A day! Another great question from one of our loyal, beautiful women: How do you know if you can really forgive him for betraying you? It's so hard. Even God gives us a way out because it's so hard. How can I truly know if I can actually forgive him? This is such a hard topic but one that we must address if we are going to really heal …
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When the very fabric of trust is torn apart by betrayal, finding the path to wholeness again can feel like an impossible quest. Betrayal Trauma Coach Erin Anderson, our esteemed guest, reveals the deep-seated patterns of relationship and generational trauma and offers a lantern of hope to those lost in the dark labyrinth of healing. Her personal na…
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I had the privilege of being a guest on the Unstoppable Growth Podcast with Tim & Rebecca Lindsay - my pastors and incredible mentors - to share my testimony of how God used the Unstoppable Growth program to catapult my life, marriage and ministry into what it is today. I pray you enjoy the interview and it inspires you to step into your healing jo…
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Today is Q & A day! Sarah sent in a question and asked how can you redeem the precious memories within your relationship when they have been tainted by betrayal? I am giving you 5 ways to "take back" what is rightfully yours. MORE RESOURSES: Beauty Beyond Betrayal Website: www.beautybeyondbetrayal.org Work with Lisa: Coaching Information Join our B…
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In a world that has normalized pornography and romanticizes unhealthy relationships, parents need help to learn how to teach healthy sexuality to their children. Luckily, there are resources to help parents teach healthy sexuality in a way that works for everyone. This episode is Part Two of Anne’s interview with Dina Alexander. Part One: The “Sex …
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Haunted by the chains of loyalty to someone who's hurt you? You're not alone. Today, we unveil the daunting reality of trauma bonding, peeling back the layers of emotional entanglement that often masquerade as love. Your heartache, that desperate need for approval from someone who should protect, not harm you—it's a painful riddle we're committed t…
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In the aftermath of a discovery, there is chaos. Your spouse discovered your affair or sexual addiction. This was followed by shock, anger, sadness and an array of emotions. Now there is this huge disconnect between you. You view the story one way while your spouse sees it from a very different perspective. You are in crisis mode! What do you do? Y…
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Wondering how to have the sex talk with your kids? Here are a few ideas to help you be a safe place for your kids to turn for sex education. Dina Alexander, founder and CEO of Educate and Empower Kids shares what YOU need to know as you prepare to have the sex talk with your kids. Topics include sex, pornography, and body image. This episode is Par…
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Your body is keeping secrets - traumatic memories and intense emotions locked away at a cellular level. In this episode, Amie and Alana dive into the science of how the body “keeps the score,” storing experiences that your conscious mind has disconnected from. Learn how to unlock your body’s innate wisdom to truly heal. Listen to learn: How emotion…
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Feel the shockwaves as I peel away the deceptive veneer of Nice Guy Syndrome, unveiling the truth behind betrayal trauma. Today's conversation ventures into the murky depths of manipulation and control, often cloaked in a guise of kindness. I'll tackle the "Jekyll and Hyde" dichotomy plaguing so many relationships, where love bombing morphs into ve…
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When you discover your spouse has betrayed you through sexual addiction or an affair, you are thrown into unknown territory. Your reality has been altered, your world as you knew it has ended, and your life has shattered into a billion pieces. It is like being in a major accident you didn't cause, yet you have been critically injured and now you ar…
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In an informal survey of sex addicts, they relayed that fantasy about sex was mainly about control. They admitted that when they couldn’t control sex, it was frustrating. If you’re married to a man like this, here’s what you need to know. Manipulative Men Enjoy Fantasy Because They Can Control Every Detail Any domestic violence expert will tell you…
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