"If He Would Just..." Why This Keeps You Both Stuck

Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing

Do you find yourself imagining all the ways things would be better “if he would just…”? If so, you’re not alone! In this episode Amie and Alana dive into this disempowering mindset and provide wisdom on shifting your thinking by focusing on what you can control. Gain clarity as they share candid examples and advice on how to take your next empowered steps regardless of the things your partner is or is not doing.

Listen to learn:

• How to recognize when you’re stuck under the “if” umbrella

• How to focus on personal responsibility

• How to make clear requests in your relationship

• How to reclaim your power

Exciting Resources Coming Soon!

• Beyond the Facade Podcast - Subscribe to this new podcast by Luke Gordon. Learn more about authenticity and the struggle to be real. Subscribe now and watch for the first episode coming soon!

• In-person Intensive: ⁠Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive for men led by Alana and Luke Gordon. This program is designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on May 16-18, 2024 and also July 17-19, 2024. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠.

• ⁠⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. New group beginning soon!

Promo Code!

• Resilient Teens is an ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage. Register by May 5, 2024 and receive $5 off weekly for the first month using code 5-OFF-TEENS. Register HERE.

• Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience. Register by May 5, 2024 and receive $5 off weekly for the first month using code 5-OFF-ADULT-CHILDREN. Register HERE.

More from Choose Recovery Services

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with trauma. First four weeks are free!

• Believing in You - Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust and joy once again.

• Healing Hearts - For couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy and integrity.

• Help. Her. Heal - For men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.

• ⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - Betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed.

• Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.

• Choose 180 for Men - Support group for men to gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors.

• Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery.

• Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.

• Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.

• Choosing to Stay Webinar - Free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.

• Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.

Connect with us:

Alana Gordon

Amie Woolsey

Choose Recovery Services