Why the Addict Needs to Do Their Own Attachment Work - with Luke Gordon

Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing

This week we are excited to welcome Luke Gordon to the podcast! Luke is an emotional health coach and cofounder of Choose Recovery Services who specializes in helping men overcome unwanted sexual compulsive behaviors.

Luke shares how disruptions in our earliest childhood attachments form the foundation for later challenges like addiction, unhealthy coping mechanisms, and struggles with emotional intimacy. With raw vulnerability, Luke shares his own journey and provides insight into the harrowing yet rewarding work of exploring attachment wounds and family dynamics.

Listen to learn:

• How early childhood wounds can manifest in relationships at all stages of life

• How generational patterns can be linked to current behaviors

• Techniques for exploring your attachment story honestly without blaming or villainizing your caregivers

• The role of professional support in providing a safe space to do this vulnerable work

Referenced in this episode:

• It Didn’t Start WIth You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle by Mark Wolynn

• Learn more about Luke and book a session with him HERE.

More from Choose Recovery Services

• Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and need help coping. First four weeks are free!.

• Believing in You - Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn to move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.

• Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction.

• Help. Her. Heal - This program helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills needed to begin healing a broken relationship.

• ⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.

• Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.

• Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.

• Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

• Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.

• Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.

• Choosing to Stay Webinar - Free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.

Connect with us on Social Media:

Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C

Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee

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