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The ability to quickly recognize fearful situations and other emotional signals, may be critical to survival, as it enables us to detect potential threats. The amygdala is believed to play a central role in these processes.

The amygdala is a small, almond-shaped structure deep in the brain, located on the medial surface of the temporal lobe, which processes both positive and negative emotions. Brain scanning studies show that the amygdala is activated in response to fear, even when it is not real. There is a caveman/cavewoman instinct still activated in modern society, even when the danger is not from a Saber-tooth tiger, but an appraisal, an exam, presentation or something innocuous.
The trigger may come from watching a movies; from a text message; from anxiety, stress, loneliness, anticipatory fear. They may not be real; but feel real to you.
The brain's response may cause the amygdala to inappropriately fire and move you into a fight/flight/freeze response; which for you, may take the form of Dissociation, panic, self-harming, attack, conflict or a multitude of responses. The Autonomic Nervous System has kicked in. If you cannot sleep and still await at 2am in the morning, try reading about it - called The Polyvagal Theory. (I can send you some info if you want to request them).
The front lobe (Prefrontal Cortex) - the rational thinking part of the brain - responds to the cue from the Amygdala and goes off-line, as a survival activation. ("But it isn't a real survival/life or death situation brain"!). "We don't believe you" - says the brain. "We are just doing our job".
The Emotional part of the brain - The Limbic System - takes over and starts making some major bridge burning decisions, without consultation. ("I feel, so I do". Not "I feel so I think").
Use the "Special Place/Calm Plan/Relaxed Place/My Place Exercise" to keep or bring the Rational thinking part of the brain back online and cause Dissociation to recede. Let The Kairos Centre teach you how to do so.
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Gary McFarlane (BA, LLM, Dip, Certs), Accredited EMDR Practitioner.
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