Talking about flirting and creepiness with men can be challenging sometimes. I’ve heard folks literally say you can’t even flirt anymore because it could lead to negative consequences. Today, I’m going to chat about the difference between flirting and creepiness. Spoilers: it’s all about the dynamic between two people, not about what one person is …

Today I’m interviewing Roy Biancalana, a 62 year old white guy who was once a TV analyst from Florida. I know you’re probably not sure where this is going - usually when someone says man from Florida, you’re expecting to to be like a “man from Alberta” story but bigger, crazier, Americaner. In this case, I’m interviewing a Chicago-based relationshi…

Mahima is back to talk about daily practices and consistency. Many of us say we want to be disciplined, but she uses the word “blissiplined” in that discipline need not be an onerous task or strife. She’ll discuss the importance of a community and the culture they embody and model for you. We’ll touch on the importance of play in making daily pract…

Psilocybin containing mushrooms are increasingly in research publications these days. In February 2022, Johns Hopkins published a follow up study suggesting the anti-depressant effects of psilocybin-assisted psychotherapy for those with Major Depressive Disorder may last at least a year for some patients, see show notes for the study. Today we’ll b…

Today we’re talking with Andre Lazarus, an Intimacy and Sex coach with over 10 years of experience in non monogamy. His new project is the Open to More: How to Navigate Consensual Non-monogamy course at https://coming-closer.com/. You can find him @comingcloserwithandre on social media. Now, let’s chat about intimate things we can do with our partn…

Robin Beatch, the Sex Positive, Lifestyle Inclusive Talk Radio host from SPLIT Radio will join us today. You can follow Robin @sexwithrobin on instagram. Robin is a queer, non monogamous sex educator, coach, consultant, former stripper, former nurse, pro domme, and parent of two. Juniper, my only ever one night stand, is also back to add her positi…

Mahima is back, the woman who grew up in apartheid Zimbabwe and now introduces herself as Europe’s number one self mastry expert. Today we’ll talk about her journey through love and intimacy from 26 where she meets a new man precipitating a spiritual awakening. We talk about dancing with shadow energy for your whole life and giving much less of a f…

Today we’re talking about sexual surrogacy: what is it, who does it, how does it work, and is it sex work. Andre Lazarus, a Surrogate Partner and Sacred Intimate himself with over 10 years of experience in non monogamy, joins us to give us the goods. His new project is the Open to More: How to Navigate Consensual Non-monogamy course at https://comi…

We’re back with At Least Twice Have I Ever with Melody Anne from Erotic Education with Melody Anne, and Ms. Sara Blaze, a woman of many identities from mom to conference organizer to dominatrix. Twice Have I Ever is a party game where we try to pick something we’ve done at least twice that the others have not done. Today, we’ll talk about being cho…

Sacred Sexuality is a simple idea and sometimes a convoluted topic. Susannah Rose is back today to talk about how intimacy and relationships are shaped by our culture and origin story: monogamy, religion, military service, bdsm, and lots more. We’ll talk a bit about unicorn fostering, distinguish between bottoms and subs in bdsm, and talk about des…

I’m excited to introduce my guest today, Mahima. She grew up in apartheid zimbabwe, married a swiss man at 21, divorced at 22, and is focused on cultivating peace, connection to self, to soul, and to sexual expression. Content warning for abuse, racism, body image, weight loss, self loathing, and apartheid. If I had to sum Mahima up in two words, i…

Robin Beatch, the Sex Positive, Lifestyle Inclusive Talk Radio host from SPLIT Radio will join us today. You can follow Robin @sexwithrobin on instagram. Robin is a queer, non monogamous sex educator, coach, consultant, former stripper, former nurse, pro domme, and parent of two. Juniper, my only ever one night stand, is also back to add her positi…

Today we’re talking about expectations around strength, support, and staying composed. Join myself and Andre Lazarus as we chat about open communication, masculinity, and non monogamy. Andre is an Intimacy and Sex coach, a Surrogate Partner, and a Sacred Intimate with over 10 years of experience in non monogamy. His new project is the Open to More:…

Susannah Rose is with us today to chat about intimacy. An interesting twist today is that she’s completed combat tours in Afghanistan and I convinced her to talk a bit about the stresses she experienced while serving and the way intimacy functions in military hierarchy both between officers and among ranks. Content warnings: the 2012 Bastion Leathe…

We’re back with Would You Rather. Our panel today is Melody Anne from Erotic Education with Melody Anne, and Ms. Sara Blaze, a woman of many identities from mom to conference organizer to dominatrix. Would You Rather is a party game where we ask the other players to choose between two highly desirable or two highly undesirable outcomes or sometimes…

Today we talk about internalised judgement and internalised patriarchy. We talk about divorce and blame. We circle back to Yin and Yang and all things containing their opposites. True receiving is discussed as considering the whole person meaning you must also be receptive to yourself receiving. We talk about pain and pleasure in the context of Yin…

Dr. Joli Hamilton is back yet again to share her wisdom. Today we’ll be talking about plastic psyches and healing attachment injury. She talks about why she studies jealousy how she does. We do a quick call in about sex vs gender language and talk about why she labels her research how she does. You can check out Dr. Hamilton’s TedX talk or visit ht…

We’re back with Never Have I Ever with Melody Anne from Erotic Education with Melody Anne, and Ms. Sara Blaze, a woman of many identities from mom to conference organizer to dominatrix. Never Have I Ever is a party game where we try to find things we haven’t done that the others have done. Today, we’ll ask about hook ups, sex while wearing a mask, …

Alexandra Harbushka is back! After creating the Life with Herpes community to help anyone from suffering the way she did for any longer than absolutely necessary, she went on to create herpes wellness products and to offer 1-on-1 coaching for folks newly positive with herpes. Here we talk about meaningful steps for destigmatizing herpes infection s…

What is self resourcing? Who has an easier time with compersion? Does your community moralize compersion or shame jealousy? Is it healthy to have banned emotions that you can’t talk about in your relationship? You probably know most of these answers, but what about strategies? Dr. Joli Hamilton suggests practising compersion and managing jealousy o…

Robin Beatch, the Sex Positive, Lifestyle Inclusive Talk Radio host from SPLIT Radio will join us today. You can follow Robin @sexwithrobin on instagram. Robin is a queer, non monogamous sex educator, coach, consultant, former stripper, former nurse, pro domme, and parent of two. Juniper, my only ever one night stand, is also back to add her positi…

Asking for what you want is an art. Sometimes you’ve had sex a certain way so many times it doesn’t occur that you can ask for it any differently but you can always change your mind, and it’s never too late to introduce experimentation. Sometimes using strategies like saying “you know what would make this even better?” can help. Other times you can…

Yin and Yang teach us that all things contain some of their opposite, that things are rarely static and usually in flux. Today we’re going to talk about crisis as an opportunity to work on ourselves with Winnie Chan Wang. She discusses the ABCDE method she learned from her therapist focusing on responding to being outside the window of tolerance us…

We’re back with Never Have I Ever with a new panel: Melody Anne from Erotic Education with Melody Anne, and Ms. Sara Blaze, a woman of many identities from mom to conference organizer to dominatrix. Never Have I Ever is a party game where we try to find things we haven’t done that the others have done. Today, we’ll ask about flashing strangers, mas…

Alexandra Harbushka tested positive for genital herpes, leading her to create a community of like-minded people learning how to manage the condition and thriving together online. I believe stigma, disconnection, and loneliness are possibly the most devastating parts of many STIs for many people in the industrialised world where treatments are readi…

Today medical doctor Alexandra Stockwell talks about compromise and how it impacts intimacy and passion. Over her lengthy marriage and raising four children, she’s learned a lot about intimacy. Today we’re going to talk about what compromises do and why sometimes compromises aren’t the best solution. Please see the show notes for a link to The Asse…

Robin Beatch, the Sex Positive, Lifestyle Inclusive Talk Radio host from SPLIT Radio will join us today. You can follow Robin @sexwithrobin on instagram. Robin is a queer, non monogamous sex educator, coach, consultant, former stripper, former nurse, pro domme, and parent of two. Juniper, my only ever one night stand, is also back to add her positi…

Winnie Chan Wang visits with us today. As a licensed acupuncturist with knowledge in traditional chinese medicine, Winnie bridges both the woo world and the science world. A note for my more science-minded listeners: I try to remember that many frameworks of understanding can speak to the way things work even if their reasoning can feel inaccurate …

If you have ever had jealousy terrorize you or your relationship, you share a common pain with many individuals. Jealousy informs us. It teaches us things about ourselves and the situation - and possibly not the lessons you’ve been taking from it. If you could go back in time though, what would you change and what would be different for you as the …

We’re launching into party games! Hooray! That means every few weeks for a while we’re going to be recording more of a fun episode where we play games like Never Have I Ever, Would You Rather, and Twice Have I Ever. I’ll explain the rules and let you know who the panel is on each show. Robin Beatch, the Sex Positive, Lifestyle Inclusive Talk Radio …

Today medical doctor Alexandra Stockwell talks about compromise and how it impacts intimacy and passion. Over her lengthy marriage and raising four children, she’s learned a lot about intimacy. Today we’re going to talk about what compromises do and why sometimes compromises aren’t the best solution. Please see the show notes for a link to The Asse…

Alexandra Harbushka created Life with Herpes after she tested positive for a genital herpes infection. Since her harrowing story began, involving feelings of shame, loss, grief, rejection, and deep disconnection, she’s made tremendous progress. Following a lot of research and self work, she now boasts a community of people who are transitioning fro…

Today, Juniper and I do something terrifying. We choose to, without pre-discussing, record an episode on our one night stand and what was going on for us. She mentioned she was nervous about having the discussion and wanted to save it for our last recorded session which definitely made my heart beat faster in an “oh god, I really hope this isn’t a …

Today we get to learn from Dr. Joli Hamilton, a PhD holder in psychology with a personal fascination around jealousy, compersion, and other related topics. From jealousy being a neutral emotion rather than a negative one, expect to have your preconceptions challenged. We differentiate jealousy from envy by discussing jealousy as triangular by defau…

Sex is something we do for many, many reasons from procreation to recreation, from fun to serious, from pity to insecurity, from anger to hurt, from jealousy to love. Sex is just a thing we as humans do with ourselves and with each other. Today, we talk with Robin Beatch about sex as the validating feeling of being chosen. As a former dominatrix, s…

Janina from Vienna and Berlin is back. Olivier from Belgium joins us. Today we want to talk about how fun festivals are but instead very quickly get on the topic of sexual misconduct. We really work hard to create the events we wish we could attend, but once we’re organising, power makes it hard to experience them as attendees. We’re constantly int…

Juniper, the only woman I’ve had a one night stand with, opens up about her chronic illness Rickettsia, a bacterial infection caused by tick bites that can lead to chronic fatigue and other physiological problems. Content warning for chronic illnesses. We talk about the deep depression and complete loss of hope that can come in certain moments. Jun…

What would it look like if you were invited to an orgy and you were excited to go? Would you want to go back again? If you had a partner who was genuinely excited for you to go or perhaps even come with you - would you go? Let’s say you’ve been going to fun events that involve dating, sex, or kink. You’ve been going long enough people ask you to te…

Catharsis is the process of getting relief from strong emotions by releasing, expressing, or processing them. Today we’ll talk about different kinds from fantasies to gaming, sex, and kink. Why do we seem fascinated by zombies or the apocalypse? What does experiencing a rough or violent fantasy through BDSM look like and what are some of the many s…

We talk a lot about individual accountability because we’re a very individualistic culture; however community accountability doesn’t just mean being accountable to your community. It also means your community being accountable. In this episode, we’ll talk about some strategies we can use in our events or request our events use for reducing risk of …

Tim is the CEO of CLICKr digital, a pay-per-click and Analytics agency. As a business strategy coach, he teaches sale and marketing and help entrepreneurs scale and grow businesses. So what is he doing on an intimacy podcast? Well part of exploring human intimacy is my curiosity and fascination about different kinds of people. Tim, while very busin…

Juniper is a woman who had a severe and serious chronic illness for many years. We met at an after party and had a one night stand once. Since then we’ve met once for coffee briefly many months later but have mostly been distant friends. Today we’ll talk about ADHD and Juniper’s journey to try to figure out if she has it or not. None of this is med…

Today, Robin Beach from sexwithrobin.com talks jealousy. As a sex educator, radio host, relationship consultant, and more, she brings all the experience of her coaching practice to the show just for you! Well actually it’s for a lot of people but I didn’t want you to feel like you weren’t special too. You can see how this stuff gets complicated - b…

Tillie, a queer community member, suggested a long time ago to start a project to develop our friendship in a recorded, progressive fashion. They’re back to draw on their chronically ill experience and share all about social support. This is an episode about support from your social network when your society has failed to provide for the most vulne…

Tim is the CEO of CLICKr digital, a pay-per-click and Analytics agency. As a business strategy coach, he teaches sales and marketing and help entrepreneurs scale and grow businesses. So what is he doing on an intimacy podcast? As an acting student, he started out specialising in emulating human interactions, vulnerability, and intimacy. Today we’ll…

What can we do to help make the world we live in a more consensual place? How can we reduce the immense damage suffered by humans daily? Sar Surmick, the marriage and family counsellor who was the director of the Consent Academy for quite a while and still teaches with them joins us today to chat about ideas. Let’s try to pick one thing that sounds…

Tillie is back to talk about working from home as a chronically ill person during a pandemic. The more stuff changes, the more it stays the same. Content warning for chatting about no longer feeling suicidal. For all my chronically ill fam out there, we love; keep going. For all you folks working from home like me, two things: we’re a lucky bunch t…

Last session with Matt Sinkovitz, we talked about his story and I gave some examples from literature about my position around pornography abstinence. Since I did my degree in molecular genetics and not sex research, I first looked up journal impact factors which is how you can tell how important a given scientific publication is. The average journa…

If we know what consent is and how to do it, why is it so hard for so many? Does what I think consent is match what you think consent is? If not, why not? How does this impact how we negotiate our agreements, and how can we get a little better? Marriage and family counsellor Sar Surmick joins us today to chat about how his time leading the Consent …

Matt Sinkovitz overcame a 20+ year long compulsive relationship with porn, and helps similar men do the same through his online Facebook support community, ‘Porn to Purpose’, and the ‘90-Day Liberation Boot Camp’, as well as the ‘7-Day Porn Abstinence Challenge’. First, Matt’s a really nice guy. I enjoyed our talks even though I’m strictly evidence…