Is it worth salvaging that relationship? (or is it living past its expiration date)

Dr Sarah: Heal Trauma Bonding

today we're delving into the topic of relationships, exploring those moments when doubts and struggles arise. You know those times when you've tried everything, followed the books, but you're left wondering, "Is this relationship worth fighting for?" We often hit this crossroads in distress, questioning the potential and the happiness it brings. So, let me break down three key principles for you to consider.

Firstly, the three commandments for a healthy relationship: "I am happy, you are happy, and the relationship is happy." Simplifying it helps us avoid overcomplicating things. Essentially, it's about both partners committing to personal and mutual happiness, aligning their directions.

Secondly, the importance of distinguishing personal anxieties from relationship dynamics. Self-projections, those doubts and stories we carry, can heavily influence how we perceive our partner's feelings. It's essential to differentiate between what's truly happening in the relationship and what's our own inner narrative.

Finally, core characteristics and values play a crucial role. We often get into relationships for what they bring to us, rather than embracing the traits and values of our partner. Evaluating whether your partner's traits align with what you genuinely desire is key.

In essence, it's about being aware of the traits, characteristics, and values at play, understanding the nuances, and making informed decisions about the viability of the relationship. Remember, these reflections might require some introspection and openness to discussing these aspects with your partner.

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