The homeostasis of relationship patterns: You repeat the same toxic dynamics

Dr Sarah: Relationship Success Lab

In this conversation, I'm diving into the recurring challenges we often face in relationships, asking myself, "Why am I here again?" I'm exploring the concept of relationship homeostasis, comparing it to the idea of maintaining a set point in biology. The discussion is split into two main parts: the subconscious process and neurological imprinting.

On a subconscious level, I'm pointing out that early experiences shape my beliefs about self-worth and lovability. These beliefs, formed during my childhood, create conditions for feeling valued based on certain achievements or behaviors. I'm emphasizing the importance of questioning and unlearning these old beliefs, understanding their origin, and considering self-forgiveness.

On the biological side, it involves regulating hormones like dopamine and cortisol, triggering stress responses when I deviate from my perceived set point. This stress response, rooted in evolutionary survival mechanisms, creates a loop of behaviors aimed at restoring the perceived safety of my set point. I'm suggesting somatic practices to regulate my nervous system and break free from these patterns.

In conclusion, I'm encouraging myself to explore and redefine my truth, free from unrealistic conditions, and suggesting somatic practices to regulate my nervous system for lasting change. The focus is on understanding and changing both my subconscious beliefs and neurological responses to foster healthier relationship dynamics.

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