How To PREVENT A Happy Life/Happy Family

Keeping It Young

The Dangers of Anger

We just emphasize the dangers of anger

Here are the main verses in Proverbs dealing with anger:

1. 12:16 A fool's wrath is presently known; but a prudent man coverth shame
2. 14:29 He that is slow to wrath is of great understanding: but he that is hasty of spirit exalteth folly
3. 14:17 He that is soon angry dealeth foolishly: and a man of wicked devices is hated.
4. 15:1 A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger
5. 16:23 He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty: and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city
6. 19:11 the discretion of a man deferreth his anger: and it is his glory to pass over a transgression
7. 19:18 A man of great wrath will suffer punishment: for if thou deliver him, yet thou must do it again
8. 21:19 It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman
9. 22:24 Make no friendship with an angry man, and with a furious man thou shalt not go
10. 27:3 A stone is heavy, and the sand weighty: but a fool’s wrath is heavier than them both
11. 27:4 Wrath is cruel and anger is outrageous (a torrent - a flood); but who is able to stand before envy.
12. 29:22 An angry man stirreth up strife, and a furious man aboundeth in transgression

Lessons learned from these verses

1) We must address our own anger issues: Defeat anger or it will control you and damage you

1. Confess it as the sin it is
2. Take steps to forsake it

2) We must address our children's anger

1. Younger Children
   1. Never ignore anger
   2. Rebuke it
   3. Correct it (determine beforehand)
   4. Teach them how to respond appropriately
2. Older Children
   1. Model correct responses
      1. Strive to live gently
      2. Admit when wrong and ask forgiveness
      3. Take steps to correct yourself
   2. Teach correct responses
      1. Stop and correct every angry response
      2. Teach your children the proper response
      3. Do it every time!
3. We must separate from anger: handle specific areas in specific ways
   1. On a team or in a sport
      1. Be drastic here
         1. Pull them out
         2. Remove them from the team
         3. Remove their privileges
      2. With a coach
         1. An angry coach is a bad influence in your child's life
         2. An angry coach is a lousy role model
         3. An angry coach is carnal
      3. In a relationship
         1. Anger will destroy relationships
         2. Anger is a deal breaker
            1. In friendship
            2. In courtship and dating
            3. Never date a person who gets angry - and certainly don't marry them
            4. Anger that shows up in dating will only compound in marriage
      4. We must learn to handle intense matters properly:
         1. Learn to speak softly
            1. Respond quietly
            2. Speak in a lower voice
         2. Leave an angry situation

Anger will prevent a happy life and a happy family