From Polyamory to Monogamish: Relationship Coach Gets Real About Polyamory, Ep. 71

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Welcome to a heart-to-heart with Shelby Avann, where we peel back the layers on relationships, intimacy, and the magic of healing. Shelby isn't just any relationship and intimacy coach. She’s a Reiki healer too, with a knack for weaving spirituality and science into a transformative blend that empowers women to deepen emotional intimacy, shake off codependency, and wave goodbye to loneliness.
In today’s chat, Shelby gets real about her own love life adventures. She's journeyed from exploring polyamory to finding her sweet spot in what she calls a "monogamish" relationship. It’s all about discovering what truly clicks with your heart and values.
Here’s What We’re Getting Into:

• Finding Your Non-Monogamy Fit: Shelby talks about figuring out which form of non-monogamy feels right, because one size definitely doesn’t fit all.
• Jealousy: The Green Monster: How do you deal with jealousy and insecurity as you open up your relationship? Shelby's got some solid advice.
• Trust Talks: The importance of laying down a strong foundation of trust through open talks about needs and setting clear boundaries.
• Self-Growth is Key: Shelby stresses the importance of working on yourself to find security and fulfillment in any relationship.
• Healing with Reiki: Discover how Reiki can help clear those stubborn emotional blockages that keep you stuck.

Shelby’s insights on building intimacy through being real, vulnerable, and sometimes just plain silly with your partner are gold. She also tackles how letting anxiety run the show can throw a wrench in making those deep connections. No matter where you stand on the relationship spectrum, Shelby's wisdom is like having a heart-to-heart with a friend who’s seen

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章节

1. From Polyamory to Monogamish: Relationship Coach Gets Real About Polyamory, Ep. 71 (00:00:00)

2. Exploring Monogamish Relationship Dynamics (00:00:07)

3. Attachment Styles and Communication in Relationships (00:21:33)

4. [Ad] Eye-Opening Moments Podcast (00:28:49)

5. (Cont.) Attachment Styles and Communication in Relationships (00:29:26)

6. Concept of Reiki and Energy Healing (00:30:42)

7. "Communication, Fun, and Intimacy" (00:43:42)