91. My Teen Is Refusing Therapy With Therapist Trevor Allen

Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

What can you do as a parent when your teen is refusing therapy? Or when your kid stops engaging in therapy?
I have a question for you, parent: Do you know WHY your struggling teen doesn’t want to go to therapy (anymore)?
“I think most people really want to rise to what level they can and there’s probably something significant in the way if they’re not rising to that point” - Trevor Allen
Today’s guest, Trevor Allen, helps us see beyond therapy refusal and take a collaborative approach with our struggling teens. As parents we can get hyper fixated on the maladaptive behavior our teen is showing. But are we missing all the things that are going well?
In this episode on therapy refusal, we discuss:

• What’s the appropriate amount of support for an individual? How much is too much?
• Honouring what your struggling teen needs;
• Are you hyperfixating on the maladaptive behavior and missing all the things that are going well?;
• Why is your teen refusing therapy?;
• Is the solution worse than the problem?;
• What happens when a therapist refuses your teen;
• What power do you have as a parent?
• How hard do we push when our teen doesn’t want to;
• And more!

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Learn more about this topic in episode 38. Therapeutic Burnout in Teens and Parents.
More about Trevor Allen
Trevor has worked with adolescents and families for 26 years in various roles. He currently is working as a therapist and a coach for adolescents and parents. He and his wife own a private practice called Juniper Hill Counseling & Coaching.
One of his biggest strengths is a person-centered approach in that he works hard to see the perspective of the client. It is his belief that connection and relationship is intrinsically important and has the secondary benefit that it creates fertile soil for change.
His family is what is most important to him. In his free time, Trevor enjoys running long distances in the Mountains of Utah.
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