Respect is the Anchor of a Relationship, Not Love

Romancipation

S3 Episode 1: Respect is the Anchor of a Relationship, Not Love

Episode Summary

R E S P E C T, find out what it means to me. Everything. The foundation of a relationship should always be respect, not love. Love ebbs and flows between two people, but respect should be a constant. You can love a person and not respect them. You can love a person and not trust them. You can love a person and violate their boundaries. That’s why love is never enough in a relationship.
Ideally you want both in a romantic partnership. However, when two people display respect to one another, it nurtures trust, personal responsibility and accountability. When those qualities exist in a relationship, security and intimacy can thrive. In other words, it is the perfect environment for love to grow.
Be careful not to fall into the trap of staying with a partner you don’t respect. Unfortunately, it’s a common occurrence and leads to a lot of conflict and hurt in relationships. If there is respect in the relationship, there is never physical or emotional abuse!
At the end of each episode, Marlee and Lis vent about commonly experienced issues in romantic relationships. In this episode, the ladies discuss when people hide purchases from their partner.

Show Notes

We’re taught from an early age that love is what we need to search for, that love will always save the day, and it’s just not true. Love is not enough to sustain a relationship. You can’t have a successful relationship without respect, but it’s quite different from love. You develop respect by watching the other person be consistent, fair, and do what they say they will do.
Once you have respect for someone, it’s easy to build upon it. It’s a stronger foundation than love alone. In a relationship, you ideally want both love and respect. People love in very different ways, but there should always be a component of respect alongside it.
There are certain situations where neither love nor respect is present in a relationship, but one person or both people in the relationship fail to see it. There are other people who would never maintain a relationship without love and respect, believing them to be mutually exclusive. Many people stay in a relationship out of love, despite a lack of respect.
With respect comes trust, another important cornerstone of healthy relationships. Without respect, it’s easy to justify less than trustworthy behavior. Staying steady with respect throughout the course of your relationship allows for communication, teamwork, security, and intimacy.
In this episode, the vent session topic is: When people hide purchases from their partner. It’s shockingly common in marriages. It can be very selfish behavior, especially if there’s debt. It signals a lack of communication and can be a red flag. It shows a breakdown of trust, and hiding purchases indicates a clash in values.
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