S1 - E13 | Marlene breaks free from the generational alcoholic dependency after realising the damage it was causing her

The Crucible:Conversations for the Curious

Highlight

"When you stop drinking, you actually realise that you knew all along what you were doing, but you weren't prepared to pause. It was immediately reaching out for something. So, what did I notice after I stopped drinking? I noticed I have other addictions."

Summary

Marléne shares her journey of overcoming alcohol addiction and finding healing and purpose in life. She discusses the impact of growing up with a single parent who was an alcoholic and how it influenced her own relationship with alcohol.
She talks about the false sense of confidence and numbness that alcohol provided, as well as the shame and destructive behaviours it fueled. She shares her decision to quit drinking and the challenges and changes that came with it.
She also discusses her work as a trauma therapist and life coach, helping others navigate their own healing journeys. In this conversation, Together, they discuss various topics related to emotions, self-discovery, and spirituality. Marléne emphasises the importance of understanding and identifying one's emotions, as well as the need for self-love and forgiveness.
They also explore the concept of synchronicity and how it can guide us on our journey. Marléne shares her insights on making heartfelt decisions and the power of positive feedback. Overall, the conversation highlights the importance of self-awareness, personal growth, and finding joy in life.

About Marlene
Website - https://www.selfandmore.co.za/
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/marlenenunescoach/

LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/selfandmorecoaching/
What is Tension / Trauma Release Exercise? - https://www.selfandmore.co.za/tre-trauma-stress-release-therapy/
Free Inner Child eBook https://www.selfandmore.co.za/e-book/
Complimentary Call with Marlene - https://calendly.com/self-and-more-coaching/15-min-meeting

Takeaways

• Alcohol can provide a false sense of confidence and numbness, but it can also fuel shame and destructive behaviours.
• Quitting drinking can lead to a deeper understanding of oneself and the ability to make healthier choices.
• Finding support from genuine friends who accept and respect your sobriety is important.
• Cold water immersion can be a helpful practice for grounding and gratitude. Identifying and understanding our emotions is crucial for personal growth and self-discovery.
• Self-love and forgiveness are essential for healing and moving forward.
• Synchronicity can guide us on our journey and provide meaningful connections and experiences.
• Making heartfelt decisions and focusing on positive feedback can lead to personal empowerment.
• Self-awareness and personal growth are key to finding joy and fulfilment in life.

Sound Bites

• "If you feel unsafe somewhere, you have your own permission to leave to get safe."
• "I stopped wearing makeup because now I can really see myself. I don't have to paint myself up to look any different because I'm real. This is me."
• "Identifying what you feel is a label."
• "When this emotion comes...where is this actually coming from?"
• "In order to feel loved, what needs to be present?"

Chapters

00:00 - Introduction and Background

09:54 - The Journey of Alcohol Addiction

16:11 - Making the Decision to Quit Drinking

30:30 - Coping with Emotions and Feelings

36:23 - Changes in Relationships and Self-Perception

41:56 - The Power of Cold Water Immersion

43:12 - Exploring Emotions and Self-Discovery

44:15 -The Power of Self-Love and Forgiveness

45:15 - Synchronicity: Guiding Us on Our Journey

48:51 - Making Heartfelt Decisions

49:25 - The Importance of Positive Feedback

55:25 - Self-Awareness and Personal Growth: Finding Joy in Life