The 3 Fuels of Anger-Part 1

The Session with Tom Russell

What started as an idea for one episode covering the 3 Fuels of Anger has become 2 episodes, with Scott pouring out his anger issues for you and Tom to sort out. Who's bright idea was this?

The Session: The 3 Fuels of Anger

Ecclesiastes 7:9 Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools.

1. Fear

Those things that we fear in life also fuel our anger. A good example when I was a school teacher I also had a fear of heights. My children regularly helped me remember that.

How did I react? I got angry.

2. Frustration

A good example of frustration would be the Cleveland Browns. They seem to be improving and then they make for trades or changes that keep them unsuccessful.

3. Hurt

A good example here would be when someone says something that crosses your boundaries and hurts. You could also be something they forget to do like remember an anniversary or a birthday.

Treatment

• That’s why it’s so vital for us to learn how to recognize the warning signs (and put a stop to it) when those feelings first begin.
• The communication highway helps with anger management
• When a person feels hurt, they should speak in terms of an eye statement. I feel . . . . when . . . . .

The listener hears and reflects, validates and empathizes

Prayer
Pray that God helps you with the presence of the fruit of the Spirit

• James 1:19-20 My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, 20 because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.

Dealing with Anger...God's Way

Transforming Feelings into God's Peace Through Self-Control

Joyce Meyer

We have all experienced anger at some point in our lives, and it can be a real problem. Though it starts as a harmless feeling, it can quickly grow into something dangerous that’s hard to control.

But with God’s help, we can learn how to deal with our feelings and walk in His peace.

I’ll admit, years ago I pretty much did and said anything I felt like. I have a pretty strong personality, so if you said something to upset me, there was a good chance I would let you know about it.

Thank God, over time He changed me through His Word and helped me begin to manage my emotions through the power of His Holy Spirit.

I learned how to operate in self-control, which means I didn’t always say everything I wanted to say. Now, that’s freedom!

Along the way, God also helped me to understand that anger in itself isn’t wrong...

Is It a Sin to Be Angry?

I’ll never forget one particular morning about 25 years ago. I was preparing to go preach at a ladies meeting at my church in St. Louis when my husband Dave and I got into an argument. I admit, I was really mad!

I continued to think angry thoughts and have angry feelings. Then my anger turned into guilt and I thought, How can I possibly go to church and tell others how to conduct their lives according to Scripture if I cannot control my anger?

The feelings of guilt not only continued but they intensified. As the pressure mounted, I started to feel almost frantic when suddenly God spoke to my heart and said:

“Anger is not a sin—it is what you do with it that becomes sin.”

That day God showed me something that was very life-changing for

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