#329 Five Strategies For A Rotten Marriage Intentional Living With Tanya Hale podcast

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Divorce is one of those experiences that kicks you in the chest and knocks you on your butt, and it can be so difficult to get back up. And yet, at some point we have to get back up and step back into life. And though it's a tough road, it isn't impossible and it doesn't have to take forever. In this podcast I share some of my own insights about my divorce and four suggestions on how you can get back up on your feet feeling stronger and more capable than ever before. Thanks for listening! Want to learn more about this concept? Check out these podcasts: #22 Divorce and the Kids Part 1 #23 Divorce and the Kids Part 2 #32 My Divorce Decision #90 Divorce Trauma #119 FAQs About My Divorce #125 Love It Before You Leave It #167 I Didn’t Sign Up for This #170 Rewriting Your Divorce Story #187 Growing Up After Divorce #213 Growing Up After Divorce – An Interview with Jody Moore #222 When You Are Considering Divorce #268 Drama Response #291 Divorce and Self-Worth #292 Healing and Moving Forward After Divorce #312 Divorce Is Not the End, part 1 #313 Divorce Is Not the End, part 2 #328 Divorce Indecision Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options: Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion. You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me? Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/…

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#349 It’s Okay If People Don’t Like You 28:21

8天之前28:21

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All of us have people who don’t like us, even if we are the most kind and Christlike person we know. It’s just part of our human experience. When we can learn to accept other people’s agency to not like us, we can let go of self-defeating behaviors like people-pleasing, perfectionist tendencies, trying to buy their love with time, money, energy, or resources, or beating ourselves up for ‘not being enough.’ The stronger our sense of self, the more we don’t need other people liking us, or validating us, to feel valuable and of worth. It really is okay if other people don't like you. Thanks for listening! Want to learn more about this concept? Check out these podcasts: #77 Other People’s Opinions #92 Clean Love #220 Being Low Maintenance #230 People-Pleasing #257 Other People’s Agency #268 Drama Response #270 People Pleasing and Kindness - What's the Difference? #272 Stay In Your Own Lane #305 When We Don’t Feel Good Enough #327 Learning to Love Your Human Self #331 Sense of Self #332 Sense of Self – It’s All In Your Head #333 Sense of Self and Dating #334 Sense of Self and Marriage #335 Sense of Self and Parenting Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options: Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion. You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me? Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/…

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#348 Entitled Expectation 31:04

15天之前31:04

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Expectation is a funny word. It means that we think something should happen a certain way or that someone should behave in a certain way, two things we rarely, if ever, have control over. What I’ve found is that expectations I have are often a cause of shame for the other person, and also for me. And shame is never a productive emotion. And yet, it’s hard not to have expectations. So, how do we move away from the expectations we feel entitled to have and instead offer more grace for humanity and more kindness for struggle? Thanks for listening! Want to learn more about this concept? Check out these podcasts: #148 Grace and Grudges in Our Relationships #216 One-Up and One-Down Relationships #227 Staying in Your Own Lane #241 Forgiving Others #257 Other People’s Agency #268 Drama Response #290 Resentment and Contempt in Our Relationships #304 Personalities, Preferences, and Perspectives Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options: Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion. You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me? Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/…

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#347 The Self Care of Relationship Repair 40:48

22天之前40:48

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All relationships struggle, so all relationships need repair. Knowing how to repair is an essential skill for creating healthy and happy relationships, and that darn ego of ours can make it so difficult to show up in loving and kind ways because it wants to be right and it wants to prove to our spouse how wrong they are. But learning to show up creating a safe space for our spouse, especially in the context of a relationship struggle, is a valuable relationship tool that will change the trajectory of your relationship, while at the same time providing you with the self-care necessary to increase your sense of self and continue to show up better and better. Thanks for listening! Want to learn more about this concept? Check out these podcasts: 3 Resolving Conflict 37 Self-Care 86 Is Self-Care Being Selfish? 92 Clean Love 110 The Cost of Being Right 118 100% Responsibility 151 Connection 161 Developing More Intimacy in Your Relationships 167 I Didn’t Sign Up for This 219 The Truth About the Struggle 242 Circling Back Around 244 The Relationship Circle 245 Transactional Relationships 251 Contention is a Choice 282 What We A re Really Fighting About 289 Why Our Relationships Need Validation 295 Safety in the Relationship Circle 296 Creating More Safety in Your Relationship 326 Stop Being Right, Start Being Safe 331 – 337 Sense of Self series Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options: Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion. You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me? Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/…

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#346 How to Stop Reacting and Start Responding 38:20

29天之前38:20

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I love Viktor Frankl’s quote “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” I am reminded by this that my power, my strength, and my freedom is created in the space between the stimulus (circumstance) and my response (my actions). But sometimes that space can seem so, so, so small. We can tend to react impulsively, without thought, rather than responding thoughtfully. How do we increase the space, so we respond with intention, with valued alignment, rather than reacting with without thought? This podcast talks about how. Thanks for listening! Want to learn more about this concept? Check out these podcasts: 26 Taking Offense 77 Other People's Opinions 163 Difficult People 175 Happy No-Drama Holidays to You 231 Other People's Pain 274 When We Behave Badly 280 Living in Alignment 301 The Primitive Brain Problem 307 Curiosity, Not Criticism 326 Stop Being Right, Start Being Safe Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options: Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion. You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me? Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/…

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#345 Men's Sexuality and Intimacy with Sione 42:35

5 weeks之前42:35

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Just as women were raised with societal ideas and expectations around their sexuality, so were men. And so many of these ideas are actually harmful, and even destructive, to the emotional intimacy we desire in our relationships. In this podcast my husband, Sione, shares the concepts and ideas around sexuality that he learned growing up and how he learned to address them to create the emotional connection we now share. Download Transcript Thanks for listening! Want to learn more about this concept? Check out these podcasts: 281 Mid-Life Sexuality with Jennifer Finlayson-Fife 337 Sense of Self and Sexuality Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options: Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion. You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me? Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/…

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#344 Are You a Safe Place for Vulnerability? 28:35

6 weeks之前28:35

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Learning how to be vulnerable can be a scary and tough skill to acquire. So can learning to let other people in our lives be vulnerable. Because when others show up vulnerable, it can shake our ideas about who they are, it can shift our relationships, and it can challenge our own difficult emotions. But relationships will only thrive toward greater intimacy when we are vulnerable and when we create a safe space for the other person to be vulnerable as well. Learning to allow and even embrace others’ vulnerability is the next step to greater emotional intimacy in your relationships. Thanks for listening! Want to learn more about this concept? Check out these podcasts: 190 Protective Walls 215 Being Seen and Being Heard 284 Why Vulnerability Matters 295 Safety in the Relationship Circle 296 Creating More Safety in Your Relationship 341 Choosing to be All In 342 What Does Vulnerability Look Like? Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options: Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion. You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me? Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/…

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#343 Greatest Hits - Why Vulnerability Matters 38:04

7 weeks之前38:04

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Many of us grew up in homes where we didn't receive any training about vulnerability in relationships. We were fairly uneducated about emotions, and it is very detrimental in our marriage relationships. My previous 24-year marriage struggled with a severe lack of vulnerability, and today we're talking about why that was such a problem and the difference vulnerability will make in your emotional intimacy. Thanks for listening! Want to learn more about this concept? Check out these podcasts: 190 Protective Walls 215 Being Seen and Heard 242 Circling Back Around 341 Choosing to be All In 343 What Does Vulnerability Look Like? Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options: Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion. You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me? Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/…

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#342 What Does Vulnerability Look Like? 31:37

8 weeks之前31:37

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If we are going to be all-in in our relationships, we have to be vulnerable, and that can feel super scary. Sometimes it's difficult because we are in a new relationship and it can be hard to be the one to make the first move. Sometimes it's difficult because our decades-long relationship is struggling and it's been a very long time since we were vulnerable with each other. But until we truly step into vulnerability, we will never create the deep, intimate, connected relationship we crave. So, how do we start being more vulnerable? That's what we're talking about today. You can find an Emotional Wheel here . Thanks for listening! Want to learn more about this concept? Check out these podcasts: 190 Protective Walls 215 Being Seen and Being Heard 239 How to Own Your Own 242 Circling Back Around 284 Why Vulnerability Matters 314 When Setting Boundaries Is Hard 341 Choosing to Be All-In Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are two options: Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me? Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/…

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#341 Choosing To Be All-In 38:02

9 weeks之前38:02

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Relationships can be hard. If we have created a pprotective pattern over the years, we may find that we are in a pattern of leaning out emotionally in our marriage and not having the intimate connection that we inwardly crave. When we choose to be all-in, we take a risk in our relationship, but it is also the only way to open a door that makes emotional intimacy an option. There aren't any guarantees how your spouse will show up when you choose to lean in, but I promise, you will be a better person on the other side of you couraging up and being all in regardless of the outcome. Thanks for listening! Want to learn more about this concept? Check out these podcasts: 92 Clean Love 111 Checklist Relationship 125 Love It Before You Leave It 183 Taking Risks and Becoming 201 The Tolerable Life 271 Equal Partnerships 284 Why Vulnerability Matters 299 Love Is Not a Reward 309 What An Equal Relationship Looks Like 331 Sense of Self 332 Sense of Self - It's All In Your Head 334 Sense of Self and Marriage Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are two options: Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me? Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/…

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#340 The Mid-Life 'Now What?' with Angela Ashurst-McGee 38:30

10 weeks之前38:30

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When a woman has devoted so many years to being a stay-at-home mom and then the kids grow up and leave, she will often feel as though she is floundering a bit to get her feet underneath her. What are her next steps? How does she enter the workforce with not a lot of 'working outside the home' experience in the last 30 years? Angela Ashurst-McGee is a career coach who focuses on helping women in this exact situation enter the 'working world' in the best way possible. Here are some great things to know about Angela: Angela Ashurst-McGee is a Certified Professional Resume Writer (CPRW) and the creator of Upword Resume, a premium resume-writing service for professionals who want to keep their career moving onward and upward. In the last 15 years, the Upword Resume team has written resumes and LinkedIn profiles for everyone from blue collar workers and new grads to Fortune 50 executives and serial entrepreneurs. Angela is a firm believer that a good job isn’t just a good paycheck—it’s a key to our deeper dreams of creating value and making the world a better place. She is an advocate and reformer who loves bringing clarity, confidence, and optimism to Upword Resume’ clients. Angela is the mother to six teens and young adults and lives in Mapleton, Utah. You can find Angela at: https://upwordresume.com/blog https://upwordresume.com/career-re-entry-resume-service/ On LinkedIn, Instagram, and Facebook @upwordresume Thanks for listening! Want to learn more about this concept? Check out these podcasts: 89 Mid-Life Teenage Angst 128 Growing Up Into Middle-Age 184 Excited About Middle-Age 261 No More Growing Old Gracefully with Kwavi Agbeyegbe 315 Mid-Life Crisis? Yes, Please! Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are two options: Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me? Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/…

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#339 Greatest Hits - Happy No-Drama Holidays To You 36:16

11 weeks之前36:16

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There are so many things we love about the holiday season, the decorations, the gifts, the music, the family getting together. . . well maybe not always the family because, well, drama. But what if we could have holidays without all the drama? What if we could just enjoy the people, the conversations, the sentiments and the season for what we really want them to be? Today we're going to talk about just how to do that - how to show up in a way where we can sit on the sofa after it's all over and just feel really satisfied with who we were. Thanks for listening! Want to learn more about this concept? Check out these podcasts: 26 Taking Offense 77 Other People's Opinions 163 Difficult People 181 6 Tips For a Happier Holiday 231 Other People's Pain Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are two options: Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me? Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/…

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#338 Greatest Hits - 6 Tips For a Happier Holiday 27:08

12 weeks之前27:08

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I believe that the holiday season is one of the greatest reasons for stress and anxiety for a lot of people. Today I have 6 really practical tips for you on how you can step back from the stress, spread yourself a little thicker, and really enjoy your holidays this year. Thanks for listening! Want to learn more about this concept? Check out these podcasts: 26 Taking Offense 77 Other People's Opinions 163 Difficult People 175 Happy No-Drama Holidays to You 231 Other People's Pain Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are two options: Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me? Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/…

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#337 Sense of Self and Our Sexuality 46:09

13 weeks之前46:09

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God created us to be sexual beings. Through a lot of social conditioning in the 70s and 80s (and probably before, but I wasn't there), we got a lot of mixed messages about our sexuality as women, and one of them was not that as women we were created to be sexual and find a lot of pleasure and enjoyment there. From this conditioning, many of us struggle to be at peace with our sexuality and to engage in healthy and happy sexuality. When we have a strong sense of self, we are more fully capable of addressing these challenging conditioned thoughts and moving into a more whole version of ourselves that includes healthy sexuality. Thanks for listening! Want to learn more about this concept? Check out these podcasts: 29 Validation 34 Self-Compassion 46 Choosing to Love Yourself 78 Playing Small 104 Cultivating Self-Love 105 Self-Love In Our Past, Present, and Future 106 Fierce Self-Love 113 Self-Acceptance 114 Confidence 137 Not Enough? Not True 215 Being Seen and Being Heard 247 The Value in Knowing Our Value 260 Your Lovability and Your Love Ability 281 Mid-Life Sexuality with Jennifer Finlayson-Fife 293 Dating in Mid-life 304 Personalities, Preferences, and Perspectives 327 Learning to Love Your Human Self 331 Sense of Self 332 Sense of Self - It's All In Your Head 333 Sense of Self and Dating 334 Sense of Self and Marriage 335 Sense of Self and Parenting 336 Sense of Self and Spirituality Interesting in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me? Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/…

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#336 Sense of Self and Our Spirituality 33:49

14 weeks之前33:49