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20 Minute Christian Counselor

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Immerse yourself in biblical counseling and practical wisdom with the 20 Minute Christian Counselor podcast, hosted by Pastor Robb Oram. With nearly 40 years of ministry experience, Robb brings together his pastoral knowledge and Christian counseling expertise to provide concise, faith-driven episodes designed to empower individuals, couples, and families in overcoming life's challenges and nurturing stronger relationships with God and one another.

Each 20-minute episode is rich with valuable guidance, biblically-based insights, and actionable advice, all aimed at helping you navigate life's complexities and deepen your faith. Join Pastor Robb Oram every other week for a refreshing dose of hope, encouragement, and transformative wisdom. Subscribe to the 20 Minute Christian Counselor podcast today and begin your journey towards a more fulfilling and Christ-centered life.

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4 Steps to Making Wise Decisions 19:45

24天之前19:45

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Click here to send me a text message. Making big decisions can often be very challenging. Especially when we realize the choices we make determine the trajectory of our lives. But, we don't have to make these critical decisions alone! In this episode, I share 4 steps we can take to make wise decisions, and explain how we can allow God to be actively involved in the process. In this episode I reference the story of Abraham and Isaac. You can read more about this in Genesis chapter 22. I also refer to Jesus' prayer to His Father when He was in the Garden the night before He was crucified. You can get more details about this in Luke 22:39-46. If you're interested in learning more about me, or to schedule a counseling appointment (either in person, or remotely using Zoom), or to arrange a speaking engagement, reach out to me at my website at www.robboram.com, or text or call me at (805) 312-8715.…

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How Can I Change My Spouse? 21:13

10 weeks之前21:13

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Click here to send me a text message. Are there some things you want to change about your spouse? Have you been trying to change them, and been unsuccessful? Is it even possible to change them? In this episode I address this complicated issue, and offer some very practical strategies you can immediately begin to implement to promote change. Here are some key passages from the bible which provide specific instructions relevant to marriage relationships: “Judge not, that you be not judged. For with what judgment you judge, you will be judged; and with the measure you use, it will be measured back to you. And why do you look at the speck in your brother’s eye, but do not consider the plank in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me remove the speck from your eye’; and look, a plank is in your own eye? Hypocrite! First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye." (Matthew 7:1-5) "Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others." (Philippians 2:3-4) "...submitting to one another in the fear of God. Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.' This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband." (Ephesians 5:21-33) If you're interested in learning more about me, or to schedule a counseling appointment (either in person, or remotely using Zoom), or to arrange a speaking engagement, reach out to me at my website at www.robboram.com, or text or call me at (805) 312-8715.…

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How Can I Cope with Being Estranged from a Loved One? 20:22

14 weeks之前20:22

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Click here to send me a text message. Broken relationships are painful, and may feel like they can never be restored. In this episode, I provide some practical counsel on how to respond in these difficult situations, and offer some reasons to maintain hope for reconciliation. Here are a few of the Scripture references I mention: “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone” (Romans 12:18). ”Search me, O God, and know my heart; try me, and know my anxieties; and see if there is any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.” (Psalm 139:23-24) “Then Peter came to Him and said, 'Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Up to seven times?' Jesus said to him, 'I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.'” (Matthew 18:21-22) “The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.” (James 5:16) If you're interested in learning more about me, or to schedule a counseling appointment (either in person, or remotely using Zoom), or to arrange a speaking engagement, reach out to me at my website at www.robboram.com, or text or call me at (805) 312-8715.…

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How Can I Cope with Disappointment? 21:09

17 weeks之前21:09

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Click here to send me a text message. Disappointment- we all experience it. Sometimes, it's heartbreaking. How do we cope with it? In this episode, I provide some practical recommendations by challenging us to examine three important areas of our lives: our expectations, our gratitude, and our knowledge of God. Here are several of the Scripture references I mention: “I have told you these things, so that in Me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble . But take heart! I have overcome the world.” (John 16:33) "For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways," declares the Lord. "As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.” (Isaiah 55:8-9) "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to His purpose.” (Romans 8:28) “He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.” (Revelation 21:4) If you're interested in learning more about me, or to schedule a counseling appointment (either in person, or remotely using Zoom), or to arrange a speaking engagement, reach out to me at my website at www.robboram.com, or text or call me at (805) 312-8715.…

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How Can I Be Happy in an Unhappy Marriage? 26:33

29 weeks之前26:33

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Click here to send me a text message. Just because your marriage isn't what you thought it would be, or what you think it should be, or what you'd hoped it might be, doesn't mean you're stuck being unhappy forever. The good news is there are practical steps you can take to increase the joy in your life. And, the best news is you don't have to take them on your own. Here is the theme verse of this episode: "With men this is impossible, but with God all things are possible" (Jesus - Matthew 19:26) If you're interested in learning more about me, or to schedule a counseling appointment (either in person, or remotely using Zoom), or to arrange a speaking engagement, reach out to me at my website at www.robboram.com, or text or call me at (805) 312-8715.…

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How Can I Be Set Free From My Shame? 23:15

31 weeks之前23:15

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Click here to send me a text message. Shame is one of the most powerful, influential emotions we can experience. It's also one feeling that's very difficult to admit or discuss. In this episode I define shame, talk about where it comes from, and most importantly, share how we can be set free from it. Here are a few of the key bible verses I reference: “I have sinned against you—only against you— and done what you consider evil. So you are right in judging me; you are justified in condemning me.” (Psalm 51:4, GNT) “Therefore we also, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which so easily ensnares us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, looking unto Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith, who for the joy that was set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and has sat down at the right hand of God” (Hebrews 12:2). “And whoever believes on Him will not be put to shame” (Paul- Romans 9:33, 10:11; Peter- 1 Peter 2:6). If you're interested in learning more about me, or to schedule a counseling appointment (either in person, or remotely using Zoom), or to arrange a speaking engagement, reach out to me at my website at www.robboram.com, or text or call me at (805) 312-8715.…

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What is “Self Talk?” Do I Do It? How Does It Affect Me? How Can I Change It? 20:45

34 weeks之前20:45

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Click here to send me a text message. You might be surprised at how much you "self talk," and how much it affects you. In this episode I explain self talk, demonstrate how it can impact your life, and share how God can help you change it- which in turn will change your life. Here are a few (there are many more!) verses from Scripture which address the issue of self talk: “Be careful how you think; your life is shaped by your thoughts .” (Prov. 4:23, GNT) “And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind …” (Romans 12:2) “… bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ …” (2 Cor. 10:3-6) “… put off … the old man …and be renewed in the spirit of your mind , and… put on the new man …” (Eph. 4:22-24) “Finally, brethren, whatever things are true , whatever things are noble , whatever things are just , whatever things are pure , whatever things are lovely , whatever things are of good repor t, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy — meditate on (think about) these things.” (Philippians 4:8) If you're interested in learning more about me, or to schedule a counseling appointment (either in person, or remotely using Zoom), or to arrange a speaking engagement, reach out to me at my website at www.robboram.com, or text or call me at (805) 312-8715.…

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What is Enabling? How Can I Tell if I’m an Enabler? Why Do I Enable? How Can I Stop? 22:08

37 weeks之前22:08

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Click here to send me a text message. God calls us as Christ followers to help others. Jesus is our perfect example of this. However, not all "helping" is helpful. In fact, sometimes our helping can actually be harmful. In this episode I explain what this unhelpful helping, also known as "enabling," looks like. I also discuss the deep reasons why we enable. And, I share some strategies you can implement to begin to stop enabling. God can meet your need for: safety/security (Psalm 16:8) peace (John 16:33) connection/companionship (Matthew 28:20) provision (Philippians 4:19) control/order (Isaiah 41:10) self-esteem/respect/identity (Psalm 139:14; 2 Cor. 5:17) purpose (Romans 8:28) love!!! (1 John 3:1, 4:16) If you're interested in learning more about me, or to schedule a counseling appointment (either in person, or remotely using Zoom), or to arrange a speaking engagement, reach out to me at my website at www.robboram.com, or text or call me at (805) 312-8715.…

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Why Can’t I Forgive Myself, Should I Forgive Myself, and If So, How Do I Forgive Myself? 18:05

41 weeks之前18:05

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Click here to send me a text message. I've learned that despite the fact the we know God forgives us, many of us struggle to forgive ourselves. What makes this so hard? Is forgiving ourselves even the right thing to do? If so, how in the world do we go about doing it? In this episode I reference a website I use all the time and find very helpful: www.blueletterbible.org. Check it out. A couple of relevant verses about forgiveness: "There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus" (Romans 8:1). "If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" (1 John 1:9). If you're interested in learning more about me, or to schedule a counseling appointment (either in person, or remotely using Zoom), or to arrange a speaking engagement, reach out to me at my website at www.robboram.com, or text or call me at (805) 312-8715.…

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3 Strategies to Improve Intimacy in Marriage 21:35

46 weeks之前21:35

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Click here to send me a text message. God designed the marriage relationship to be the most intimate of all. Yet, sometimes we don't feel the closeness and connection we'd like to experience with our spouses. In this episode, I offer three practical strategies you can begin to implement today, which I guarantee will help you grow closer and more connected to each other. Here are the key biblical references I mention in this episode: “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” (Genesis 2:24) “You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry.” (James 1:19) “Speaking the truth in love…” (Ephesians 4:15) “Wherever your treasure is, there the desires of your heart will also be.” (Matthew 6:21) “Draw near to God and He will draw near to you.” (James 4:8) If you're interested in learning more about me, or to schedule a counseling appointment (either in person, or remotely using Zoom), or to arrange a speaking engagement, reach out to me at my website at www.robboram.com, or text or call me at (805) 312-8715.…

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How is Fear Impacting My Life, and How Do I Deal With It? 21:59

48 weeks之前21:59

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Click here to send me a text message. We all have our fears-we may not even be aware of some of them. They're impacting our lives more than we realize, and we tend to try to cope with them in unhelpful, unhealthy ways. In this episode, I share some healthy responses to fear, and explain how God can help us deal with it. “Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” (Isaiah 41:10) “I sought the Lord, and He answered me and delivered me from all my fears.” (Psalm 34:4) If you're interested in learning more about me, or to schedule a counseling appointment (either in person, or remotely using Zoom), or to arrange a speaking engagement, reach out to me at my website at www.robboram.com, or text or call me at (805) 312-8715.…

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Is My Spouse Toxic? And If So, What Can I Do About It? 23:38

51 weeks之前23:38

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Click here to send me a text message. Marriage is challenging for all of us, because no spouse is perfect. But, some spouses are extremely difficult- even to the point of being "toxic." In this episode, I describe characteristics of a toxic spouse, and I offer some practical strategies to implement to help you cope in a very difficult situation. Some excerpts from the Bible describing God's plan for marriage: “Love is patient and kind . Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude . It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable , and it keeps no record of being wronged.” (1 Cor. 13:4-5) “wives… submit to your husbands as to the Lord… husbands… love your wives…as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her… husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies … each man must lov e his wife as he loves himself , and the wife must respect her husband.” (Eph. 5:22-33) “…husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together… Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered.” (1 Peter 3:7) If you're interested in learning more about me, or to schedule a counseling appointment (either in person, or remotely using Zoom), or to arrange a speaking engagement, reach out to me at my website at www.robboram.com, or text or call me at (805) 312-8715.…

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Why Am I So Tempted to Do Bad Things, and What Can I Do to Resist Doing Them? 20:58

1 year之前20:58

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Click here to send me a text message. Temptation is something we all deal with. What makes it so difficult? What can we do to avoid giving in to it? How can God help us? In this episode, I offer some answers to these critical questions. Jesus' challenge to do "whatever it takes" to avoid giving in to temptation can be found in Matthew 5:29-30. God's promise to get us out of any temptation we face can be found in I Corinthians 10:13. The apostle Paul’s encouragement to us to fill our minds with good things can be found in Philippians 4:8. Paul’s experience with his "thorn in the flesh" is discussed in II Corinthians chapter 12:7-10. God's invitation for us to come to him boldly is recorded Hebrews 4:15-16. If you're interested in learning more about me, or to schedule a counseling appointment (either in person, or remotely using Zoom), or to arrange a speaking engagement, reach out to me at my website at www.robboram.com, or text or call me at (805) 312-8715.…

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Why Do I Feel the Way I Do, Are My Feelings Right or Wrong, and What Do I Do with Them? 18:59

1 year之前18:59

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Click here to send me a text message. Do you ever feel confused, ashamed, or frustrated about how you feel? Have you ever wondered why you feel a certain way? Are you struggling with how to deal with your emotions? Should you deny them, ignore them, or go with them? In this episode, I address the issue of what to do with our feelings, and how we can learn to manage them in a godly, biblical way. Here's what God says about our hearts: "The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked; who can know it? I, the Lord, search the heart, I test the mind" (Jeremiah 17:9-10). Some instances when Jesus exhibited various emotions: John 11:1-44 (the death of Lazarus) Luke 22:39-46; Matthew 26:36-46 (Jesus in the Garden of Gethsemane) John 2:13-17; Matthew 21:12-13 (Jesus clears our the temple) Jesus understands what we go through: "For we do not have a high priest who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are- yet He did not sin" (Hebrews 4:15). David's prayer can be ours as well: "Create in me a clean heart, O Lord" (Psalm 51:10). If you're interested in learning more about me, or to schedule a counseling appointment (either in person, or remotely using Zoom), or to arrange a speaking engagement, reach out to me at my website at www.robboram.com, or text or call me at (805) 312-8715.…

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Why Am I Suffering, and How Can I Get Through it? 22:00

1 year之前22:00