4: Leaving the Kids at Home - Selfish or Self-Care?

Connected

Summary
The conversation explores the experience of being away from your child for the first time and the emotions that come with it. Kimmy and Giarne delve into the concept of guilt and selfishness in parenting, highlighting the importance of meeting one's own needs. This episode looks at the the gradual separation of parenting, the development of resilience, secure attachment and the changing needs and desire for independence as a parent. We wrap up with the joy of reuniting with a child and the privilege of being a parent.

Take-aways:

• It can be emotionally challenging to separate from your children but it is the rupture and repair that helps grow resilience
• The role of guilt to help modify behaviour, rather than how it is often experienced in parenting
• The slow break up - decades long separation of dependence to independence in raising children
• It's not just our kids needs that are important, but as parents our own
• The balance or the juggle of work and family
• Secure attachment foundations and how rupture and repair facilitates resilience building for our kids.
• It's okay to miss your kids, and the joy that coming back together can be after caring for yourself and your needs.