Want a close connected and secure relationship? Maybe you feel like something's not quite right in your relationship, even though there are a lot of good things. You and your partner love each other, but there are moments that hurt. It's normal for all relationships to experience conflict or worry. The difference between the couples that remain close and the couples that drift apart is their ability to work through conflict and moments of worry and insecurity within the relationship. Listen ...
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Listen in to The Marriage Essentials Podcast here! https://www.buzzsprout.com/2376109/share由Brett Nikula, LMFT
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How do you measure the success of a journey? For me, it’s seeing the growth and hearing the heartfelt stories that come from listeners like you. After 90 consecutive weeks, we reach the poignant finale of the Fighting for Connection podcast. As I sign off from this incredible journey, I reflect on the power of simple gestures, like a young boy's ge…
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Ever wondered why your partner's opinions can make or break your day? On this episode of the Fighting for Connection podcast, we unravel the profound influence of emotions on relationships. I openly share my own vulnerabilities so that we can dissect how our partner's viewpoints can dramatically affect our emotional well-being and how miscommunicat…
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Have you ever felt the sting of betrayal from a close friend and wondered how to move past it? Join me as I recount an incident from my middle school days involving stolen bubble gum and a painful breach of trust by a friend. Through this story, we delve into what it means to truly forgive and the difference between forgiveness and forgetfulness. D…
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Ever find yourself as the proverbial nail, always getting hammered with criticism in your relationships? Tune in for a heart-to-heart with me, Brett Nikula, where I dives into the deep end of feeling underappreciated and perpetually in trouble with your significant other. I don't just sympathize; I rolls up my sleeves, sharing candid stories and dr…
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When was the last time you stopped to consider the role compassion has played in your own journey through life? Join me, Brett Nikula, as I share how embracing compassion has been my cornerstone to Fatherhood. In "The Power of Compassion," I reveal the personal growth spurring from my professional endeavors, opening up about the compassion in my ch…
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Have you ever found yourself searching for a place to belong, a tribe to call your own? Today's story takes you on a heartfelt journey of a young boy, illustrating a life lesson about the transformative power of being someone else's cheerleader. As I recount his quest for connection, I share how his pursuit of personal fanfare shifted to a discover…
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Have you ever caught yourself in the middle of an outburst, only to realize that you are, in fact, the master of your reactions? I, Brett Nikula, stumbled into such a revelation while grappling with a stubborn kitchen light – a humbling reminder that within the chaos of a frustrating moment, we choose how we respond. This episode is a heartfelt nod…
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Ever felt like you're walking a tightrope in your marriage? Let's tackle that head-on. I'm Brett Nikula, and in our latest episode, we delve into the sensitive topic of setting boundaries with our better halves. Lets move beyond the pressure that often come with 'house rules'—I'm here to guide you through understanding the 'why' behind your expecta…
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This week, I, Brett Nikula, open up about the challenges that come with juggling the professional aspects and my personal life. It's a familiar struggle many of us face, and in this episode, I take it a step further by sharing not just stories but also practical tools for maintaining emotional steadiness and cultivating stronger connections with th…
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Have you ever found yourself swallowed by the highs and lows of marriage, feeling like if it's not perfect, you're failing? Let's reshape that narrative together. As your host Brett Nikula, I delve into the concept of moderation within relationships, a theme that may just be the lifeline your partnership needs. This episode isn't just another discu…
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When Kelsey and I tied the knot, little did we know that the real work was just beginning. This week on Fighting for Connection, I get help you see how even seemingly stable relationships have their share of turbulence. This episode takes you through the heart of what many assume to be 'just another normal marriage'. I peel back the layers to revea…
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Nestled among Seattle's verdant landscapes, we shared heartfelt stories at a recent couples camp, unraveling the intricate tapestries of marriage and mental health. Our candid conversations revealed how one partner's psychological struggles can ripple through the relationship, highlighting the often-overlooked 'contagious' nature of mental health i…
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Embarking on an exploration of our emotional worlds, I, Brett Nikula, invite you to peer into the depths of the inner child and its profound influence on our relationships. In this episode I dissect the powerful yearnings for acceptance and security that weave through our connections with others. This episode is a candid revelation of how, when the…
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When Kelsey's away, the heart doesn't just grow fonder—it learns. My reflection on the weekends without my wife turned a spotlight on the intricate dance of repair and connection essential for keeping our relationship vibrant. We've all been there, sailing smoothly in love's waters, only to hit the occasional storm of conflict. In our latest chat o…
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Have you ever found yourself hesitating to reach out to someone because a voice inside your head whispered, "You're not good enough"? Our latest episode of Fighting for Connection is a journey through these common shadows of doubt and how they can cast a chill on our relationships. As I recount my own struggle with imposter syndrome and the longing…
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Struggling to keep up with life demands can feel like an uphill battle, especially when juggling the chaos of a travel-laden career and a growing family. My personal journey has taught me invaluable lessons about the significance of consistency and persistence, not just in the realm of relationships, but through all of life's experience as well. In…
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I so enjoyed this visit. We cried, and laughed, and chatted. And we also recorded. Listen in as Leanne and Derek share an incredible story of Love. We also talk about addiction and how it creates so much pain and havoc. But I couldn't help but walk away with a renewed desire to love more. You can learn more about Leanne and her story at https://www…
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Have you ever felt adrift in the vast ocean of life's relationships, yearning for a lifeline? Join me, Brett Nicola, as I delve into the profound effects of disconnection on our most cherished bonds in the latest episode of the Fighting for Connection podcast. I share my personal experiences and those of my clients to shine a light on the human nee…
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Embark on an intimate exploration with me, Brett Nicola, as I share the balancing act of nurturing a thriving career alongside a vibrant family life. Picture the heartwarming morning routine of dropping off the little ones at school and the cherished midday breaks spent with my beloved wife. These personal vignettes from my life as a devoted family…
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It's just too hard to improve upon the AI summery so here you go. As the Nicola family tree extends its branches with the arrival of Bram Walter Nicola, I, Brett Nicola, invite you into an intimate reflection on the beauty of beginnings and the deep-rooted theories that guide our connections. In the glow of my newborn son's first days, witness the …
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All the important info at the top and more AI content for you underneath. Enjoy! Download the FREE Conflict Cycle Worksheet Website: https://www.monicaleighblog.com Choosing To Heal Community: https://www.monicaleighblog.com/community Instagram @monicaleighblog Choosing To Heal Instagram @choosing2heal Facebook Page: Monica Leigh Blog (@monicaleigh…
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More Great AI reading As my wife Kelsey and I eagerly await the arrival of our seventh bundle of joy, I find myself reflecting on the profound connection that's only deepened with each heartbeat. Join me, Brett Nicola, as I take you on a journey through the anticipation, the nerves, and the heartwarming moments that prelude the entrance of a new fa…
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Today I enjoy a conversation with Tommy and Brenda Geary who run Tommy G Coaching and The Durable Dad Podcast. We discuss how to communicate in a clear way in order to stay close and connected in the face of life challenges and even working together. To find more of Tommy and Brenda's work check out https://www.tommygcoaching.com/ and Follow them o…
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I love me these Auto generated AI episode descriptions. It always has me on the edge of my seat.... Have you ever felt like your emotions were holding the reins, steering you through every twist and turn of life's unpredictable journey? Join us, Brett Nicola, on a heart-to-heart conversation in the latest installment of the Fighting for Connection …
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As the calendar flips to a new page, I, Brett Nicola, invite you to join me in harnessing the transformative energy of fresh beginnings. Just like stepping onto the back nine with a renewed sense of purpose, this episode is about channeling that energy into the art of relationship renewal. Together, we'll navigate the undulating terrain of marriage…
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Embarking on a marriage retreat was a game-changer for my wife, Kelsey, and me—it set the stage for a profound exploration of our relationship through the lens of Emotional Focused Therapy (EFT). As Kelsey prepares for the new chapter of motherhood, we take this podcast as an intimate platform to share the invaluable lessons we've gleaned from unde…
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Ever felt like you're navigating the stormy sea of parenting with no compass in hand? Our latest episode features certified life coach Alicia Davis, who dedicates herself to guiding moms back to sure ground. She opens up about her deeply personal journey, revealing how she discovered the transformative power of taking radical responsibility for her…
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Ever found yourself lost or wondering where to go, arguing over directions with your loved one? Been there done that, and I am here to share our experiences with you. Join me as I relive our little moment of confusion on our way home from Mexico, a trip that not only served as a fun getaway, but also a workshop for my relationship coaching. I expos…
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Today we talk about practical tools and ways to create a relationship that is open and how to reveal what is possible in our relationship. Aimée Gianni, MS, is a Marriage & Family Therapist and a Master Coach Instructor specializing in Love Relationships. She teaches her clients The Art of Intimate Connection and helps them create strong, loving, j…
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With Thanksgiving on our minds lets talk about how powerful thanksgiving can be in our relationships. I hope you all had a wonderful holiday and that your holiday season is filled with growth, connection, and peace.由Brett
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Today I replay a conversation I had with a Connected Couples Campus Member all about the conflict cycle and how it has created change for her and her relationship. She has her own podcast and this episode is a replay of an episode from Monica's podcast! You can check out her work below! Download the FREE Conflict Cycle Worksheet Get 20% off first 3…
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On today's episode I introduce you to a little boy that I know. I wonder if you know a little one like him?由Brett
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Today I talked with Pam Howard who is a LSW and certified life coach from the life coach school. We talked about managing your emotions as a parent! You can find here at https://lessdramamoremama.com/ Her Podcast https://lessdramamoremama.com/podcasts/ Her Social https://www.instagram.com/lessdramamama Her Book https://www.amazon.com/Less-Drama-Mor…
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When hurt occurs in a relationship it can leave us feeling distant and confused. The question is how to we work through it in a way that allows us to move through it and back to each other.由Brett
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We have talked a lot about what the conflict cycle is, now we talk about how to stop it. Learning how to stop it is a skill that you can learn so you can keep, regain, and develop the connection that you want in your relationship. Listen in, apply, and keep learning.由Brett
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www.pivotalapproach.com/reviveandthrive www.pivotalapproach.com and submit a contact form with the subject "Conflict Cycle Worksheet" Today we look at a girls trip that Kelsey went on and why it caused so much pain for us in our relationship.
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Sign up for our virtual couples retreat! www.pivotalapproach.com/reviveandthrive Do you know your relationship conflict cycle? It is one of the most powerful things to understand if your relationship is struggling to feel close and connected.由Brett
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Attachment within relationships causes so much pain and worry in relationships. Finding a secure bond can bring peace and safety. However so often in relationships we experience a worry or anxiety. When we have this kind of an experience we move to our learned coping mechanisms. This creates our attachment style. Learning how your learned attachmen…
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Discount code for virtual retreat FFC20 Today we talk about consistency and how important it is to apply to personal and relationship growth. We want fast results but the way to a secure bond the way to more stability is through a constant ongoing reassuring relationship. You can do the work to do your part in this and to create an environment for …
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This episode is all about happiness. The best topic. How can you not listen? Sign up for our virtual connected couples retreat below! www.pivotalapproach.com/plans-pricing
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https://the21patrol.com/ Today I chat with my sister Jenae. She shares about her life traveling the United States by RV, the challenges that come with that, and the changes she has experienced in her relationship with her new life! Follow her on their family blog at https://the21patrol.com/由Brett
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Today we address 5 ways that I have found to improve communication in my own marriage. These 5 ways have been tannates that I have learn found useful and have helped others implement in their relationship with successful results. Try them out and see the difference you can make.由Brett
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Today Sarina and I chat about the challenges we have faced through our various entrepreneurship endeavors and how we have navigated through them. You can find Sarina at @sarinasiljander
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www.pivotalapproach.com/plans-pricing We often end up in behaving in ways we wish we wouldn't in our relationship. Today we discuss this and what to do to show up in a way that supports you and your relationships.由Brett
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Today we talked to Austin and Adam Wick about the impacts of pornography and substance addictions and how to seek support and support a loved one who is experiencing these challenges. Listen in to hear the importance of support and connection to overcome these difficult things. Find Austin and Adam below! https://www.phasezerorecovery.com/…
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If you aren't committed what are you? Today's episode looks at the foundational importance of a committed marriage and even why it might be that so many relationships today are struggling.由Brett
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Today I share some thoughts about reflective listening and the power that it has on helping others ( your spouse included!) feel more connected and cared for by you. Its not a guarantee, just a good skill to have. Who doesn't want a good listener in their life?由Brett
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I had an amazing conversation with Dara Denton who is trained in polyvagal therapy. We discussed the importance of this method and how it helps individuals process through events in their life that have left them experiencing symptoms long into the future. Listen in to see the power of individual work on our relationships around us. You can find Da…
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Today we talk about the confusion that can happen in a relationship! Does it seem like your spouse might not love you? Like they might not be willing to care about you? It may be true, but much more often I find it is simply confusion and in this episode I help you see just what this confusion may be.…
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