Brutally Honest About Being a Teen Dominatrix, Pregnancy After ED & More with “Brutalities” Author Margo Steines

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For the 157th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Margo Steines, author of Brutalities: A Love Story.

In this interview, we discuss Margo's experience as a dominatrix, sex work then vs. now, the toxic societal pressures on women's bodies in the 90s and how that resulted in eating disorders for both of us, her stint as a high-rise welder, advice she would give her former self about an abusive relationship, what it was like to be pregnant during the pandemic, how she feels about motherhood, and more.

Here's the description of Brutalities:

Quarantined in a southwestern desert city in the midst of her high-risk pregnancy, Margo Steines felt her life narrow around her growing body, compelling her to reckon with the violence entangled in its history. She was a professional dominatrix in New York City, a homestead farmer in a brutal relationship, a welder on a high-rise building crew, and a mixed martial arts enthusiast; each of her many lives brought a new perspective on how power and masculinity coalesce―and how far she could push her body toward the brink. With unflinching candor, Steines searches for the roots of her erstwhile attraction to pain while charting the complicated triumph of gentleness and love.

For more from today's guest, Margo Steines:

• Buy Margo's book Brutalities: A Love Story
• Follow Margo on Instagram @redstateblues
• Follow Margo on Twitter @margosteines
• Check out Margo's website margosteines.com

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