Pure of Heart

Warrior DIVAS | Real Talk for Real Women

Hello, and Welcome to Warrior DIVAS | Real Talk for Real Women. This is your host Angie Leigh Monroe and I am excited to be sharing the airwaves with you today. So, thank you for tuning in and as always, as we talked throughout the show will drop some things in the description and in the comments on the different platforms about the things that we've talked, about the websites, but the main website you can go to is DIVASImpact.com. That's our website that you can learn about our magazine, you can learn about our Facebook groups, you can find out more about coming to our conference on October 11 and 12th of this year in Grapevine, Texas. It's going to be a great time of really embracing what our identity is and who we are called to be and what dynamic women we are surrounded by. So, I'm super stoked for that. But before we get started, I just want to thank you. Thank you for tuning in. Thank you for subscribing, thank you for commenting and sending us messages. It means the world to us. And I cannot express to you in words, how much I appreciate it. So again, thank you so much and I look forward to doing this for a long, long time with each of you out there.

So, this week, we're going to talk about a pure heart, what is a pure heart? Have you ever looked at your Facebook status and the prompt and it says, What's on your mind? You know, I did this the other day and I put up you know what's on your mind and I got tickled because I put up, you know, a whole bunch of things that were just randomly popping into my head while I was looking at Facebook at that moment, you know, and somebody else just started laughing. They're like, yeah, we had some of these same things pop into our head to you know? That's a loaded question. Whenever you ask somebody, what's on your mind, you know, and for me, it just, it got me thinking, all right, a lot of the things I'm thinking of are very superficial. They are not something that are empowering to other people. They're not something that's even really empowering to me. So, like when that face when I saw that post the other day. I said I don't think anyone really wants to know the answer.

So, here's just a rapid fire several things that went across my mind in the last few minutes. How old is Stephen Ty? Ty? Does he still do drugs? Is there a Smith still putting on concert? How old is too old to be doing rock concerts? Why did Mike change the channel? Why are we watching Chernobyl the music just makes me want to go to sleep? Is it too early to go to bed? Why did that guy in the plumbing group get underneath my skin? What time did I set the nest to start dropping the temperature? I'm hot. Why am I having a hot flash? Why is my phone buzzing without? Look updates? What time does john wick three show tomorrow? Seriously, why am I so hot right now? Why am I irritated by seeing a certain person's profile pop up after hiding it for months from everyone? I am totally lost watching Chernobyl and Mike isn't even watching it and we were both ignoring the TV. I wish I wasn't. I was watching madam secretary instead. What time is it now? Is it time to go to bed yet? I wonder if Steven Tyler has extra teeth like Freddie Mercury. Holy Heck, it's hot in here. AC is working. But my body thermostat is not. It must be time for my pellet. I may have just gone to bed before I say or do something stupid and mean. Anybody else have a rapid fire like that anytime recently, or am I just the only crazy one? I know I'm not the only crazy one because I actually had people responding going, yes, this is me. This is me. This is me. Right? But you know, there was not one thought in them about prayer about living a good life. It was all just random, daily crap, it wasn't about loving my family. It wasn't about loving myself, it wasn't about bettering myself, Well, maybe getting the pellet so that I wouldn't kill or lash out at anybody in my family was part of the healthy part, but there was not really anything in there that was of any substantial value.

So here recently, I've had a thought that's kind of been rolling through my head and I've been writing about it journaling about it and reading about it and doing my quiet time around it and things like that and so many of you know, I grew up in church and I heard this, I heard the phrase “pure of heart” all the time as I was growing up. And I would get words of encouragement from people that would say, you know, you have a pure heart, you have a pure heart, or, you know, walk your life in a pure of heart. And the funny thing was when I got those words, as normally at my life, a time in my life that I just didn't feel very pure at heart. I mean, really, I just felt like I was Jackie, there was some bad stuff going on in my life. Maybe because it was happening to me, or maybe because I brought it on myself because of my own choices. But there's just some, some yuck that was going on and even more confusing was that I didn't know how to decipher them. I didn't know what a pure heart meant. So, I want to talk a little bit about gold, because we're talking about our divas, our divas are the most precious things out there. They are women of destiny, and purpose, they are women that are inspiring and influencing others, they are women who have been through the suck of life and walked out victorious, they are helping each other stay accountable, and they are building this sisterhood and they are pure treasure.

And just like gold is a pure treasure. One of the things that I started realizing when I started looking at pure of heart is what is a purification process for things and the gold one, of course stuck. Because who doesn't like gold? I mean, come on, it holds diamonds quite nicely, right? So, as I started looking at the gold, I've realized that gold and silver are normally extracted from the same or so there has to be not only an extraction of the gold and the silver, there has to be a parting of the two. Have you ever been in a relationship? That is, I think what the word I'm looking for is a meshed, there's so much of you in them and so much of them and you but the relationship itself is toxic. And you know, it needs to separate whether it's a work relationship, a personal relationship, a church relationship, you know, things have to change, and they have to be pulled apart. But the messiness of pulling those apart, is going to be rough, right. So that's kind of what happens with golden silver whenever they pull the two apart. And the separating is the hardest part. It is not the hardest part, sorry, the separating is not even the hardest part, the purifying words, it's now there's a couple of different methods that they use for purifying gold, but the most effective one is called the Wohlwill process W.O.H.L.W.I.L.L. process and this process brings them it brings the goal to a 99.9999% purity rate. But it's an electro chemical process. And this electro chemical process just doesn't sound pleasant to begin with in the first place. Now some of us women that go and get the chemical pills and do all that stuff. You're like, Oh, that's nothing right? Well, this is using a nasty caloric acid. That's, I mean, eat through stuff, right. And they take the anode, and they put it into the chemical and once they put that in the chemical, they put an electric rod into the chemical, which sends an electric current through that chemical. And it pulls all the metals that aren't gold away and dissolves them. Everything that is not gold dissolves.

Now I want to talk to you for just a second. About what is it in your life that needs to be pulled away and dissolved? For me, probably TV, I'll admit that I have it running constantly, whether I'm watching it or not, I have it on just because I like the noise in the house. Fast food places, they need to dissolve from my site right now. They just do. It's not healthy for me, there too easily accessed. I love Coca Cola, but Coca Cola could dissolve, that would be great for me. But what happens in there is when that other metal dissolves, the gold attaches to this rod, and then this rod is pulled out. And it is then taken and melted, this cathode is then taken and melted and put into whatever shape form or whatever it's needed for use or sell and it's a great, great value. Now see what went into the acid and the electromagnet electro chemical process was a mixture of things and it wasn't a pure mixture of things is a mixture of outside influences is a mixture of nature and nurture in a bunch of things that have just come into its space, but then in that chemical process, all that was stripped away and left the gold to itself.

So, let's do some comparisons here. The acid is for you to be real with yourself. Now, I'm not telling anybody to go out there and throw acid on themselves, please, this is one of those why they have signs on the hair dryers not to dry your hair while in the bathtub type moments, do not go out and get any of this acid and start putting yourself in an acid wash by any means. That's not what we're saying. What I'm saying is, the acid is the same process, the aesthetic process and gold purification is the same process that to walk through in life. You can be in the acid and nothing changes, you can say I need a change. So, I'm going to go on a diet, I need the change. So, I'm not going to watch TV, I need a change. So, I'm going to move from one city to another, I need a change, because I'm going to change from one job to another. But until the electro electric probe is attached to that, that acid, nothing changes with the gold. Because there's an activation at that point, it activates all the other metals to do something. So being in the asset is rough at times when you're having to move when you're having to break off relationships when you're having to do all this stuff, but if you're not fixing the things inside of you, which is what that electronic bar does, when it goes into the chemicals. If you're not asking for forgiveness of yourself, and of others, then you're not activating the other stuff to be released from who you're wanting to be. The dissolving part is where you find your victory. When you start realizing that you don't even crave cokes anymore, you don't crave sugars anymore, or you're not looking over the fence wondering if the grass is greener on the other side because your content where you're at, that you don't live in fear from that person that victimized you anymore, because you are now walking in victory. There's a lot that happens when that forgiveness begins, and I can hear some of you now, but they didn't ask for my forgiveness. And they're not sorry. We're not talking about them. We're talking about you. Remember, unforgiveness is like drinking the poison and thinking and hoping that the other person would die. It's not productive.

We're talking about taking new through a process that you can then be purified. You are walking, not responsible for a weight that this other person has put on you will use my ex fiance who beat me and left me for dead right? When I carried that like a noose around my neck for many, many, many years. One day I decided to forgive him. It wasn't until I decided to forgive him that I could actually talk about what happened during that time frame. He's never asked me for forgiveness. He's always been evil and vile to me. There's no contact or anything with him now, but I didn't go out looking for him or seeking him and I hope to god he never finds me, but on the other part of it is I don't live in fear. If he does, because I've forgiven, and I've moved on. I'm not allowing him to control my thoughts, my actions and my deeds. Now the melting part is probably my favorite part. Because it's where you learn to build the trust process again. Yeah, when he beat me and left me for dead and stuff like that, that was hard. It was hard to forgive; it was even harder to forget. And quite honestly, I haven't forgotten, but I don't let it harm me anymore. I don't let it shift the way I do. I don't have to sit in a room constantly looking over my shoulder anymore. I have been freed from all of that through my walk of forgiveness, but the trust part, being able to trust another person with my heart again. Oh, that that's what that melting process is. Because there's an internal battle that goes on. You want to love and adore the person you're with next. You want to trust that your new boss has the best plans for you. You want to trust that you're doing the right thing for your health, but you haven't quite gotten to that place yet. Until you go through the melting process. Now I used to talk with my husband all the time, and you know, he had some serious trust issues rightfully so because of some of his upbringing and things like that. Things that have happened in his life. And he just didn't trust well, things that he saw, he was around. He just didn't trust well, and we talked about, he has a hard time trusting people. So, bringing people in to work with us and to do things. He'd much rather just do it himself, then bring anybody else in and workforce. But he has started to build up trust in others around him now. He trusts me. He trusts our daughter, he trusts our other admin, he trusts our other technician, he trusts other people to not let him down. Whether they make a mistake or not is not the problem. But they won't let him down because they've given their best effort.

So, when I'm talking about pure of heart, I'm really asking, are you doing every step you need to do to set yourself free from the things that are holding you back? To walk in the boldness and the confidence of who you are. We talked about that a lot. Pure of heart means when you're standing around with a group of friends and somebody decides to start gossiping about the others, do you join in? Do you stay quiet? Or you tell them to stop, pure of heart tells them to stop? Are you someone who acts like a good person on the outside, but on the inside, you're doing very ugly things? Maybe you're embezzling? Maybe you're talking ugly about people? You're down putting yourself you know, we when we started DIVAS Impact. We talked about the kind of tongue in cheek just to get people's attention, we wanted to change the way women think and speak about themselves and others and we got a lot of applause for that. Some mixed from women a lot applause from men because they can see from the outside of how caddy we can be. They can see how detrimental we are to our own selves.

You know, I remember when my daughters were in high school, you know, they'd like this boy, or they’d like that boy. And they'd be all about that boy, and they'd be watching that boy the whole time, but let that boy do one thing that was similar to their last boyfriend, boy, that boy was written off quicker than anything. And that was the case because they already recognize the pattern, and then tell you right now moms, if you got sons that play video games all day long, I'll say it, don't let them play video games. But it's the biggest turnoff for the girls that are going to date them in the years to come for them to be on video games all day long. Just going to tell you, help your sons be better for the women that were trying to raise up. Girls, if you're taking selfies all the time and there's nothing in your newsfeed, but pictures of you. Turn the camera around and start capturing other beauties that are around you as well. Start highlighting others, start highlighting the beauty that you see around you. These are the things that start to get us back to the pure of heart, because a lot of times when we're taking the selfies, we're looking for attention, because we're lacking attention in another area. Ouch. Did I just go there? Yep, yep. And I'm, I'm one of those that takes selfies too, I'm not saying all selfies are bad. But if you're an obsessive-compulsive selfie taker, you know who you are, and I want better for you.

It's all about being pure of heart, finding a way to find the pure beauty in those that are around you. One of the people I'm going to talk about next is our next EVERYDAY DIVA. Her name is Tracy Mitchell, and when we launched DIVAS Impact in 2016. I was coordinating and emceeing her thrive women's conference, and it was a fabulous time, she allowed us full access to talk about David's highlight divas and we even launched our very first online magazine at her conference that weekend, and really just kind of catapulted DIVAS to where it is today. Super excited about that, but Tracy is a rock star. She is a speaker, she’s an author, she's the host of life from DFW, she owns a consulting group winning woman Consulting Group, and she is a fabulous preacher as well. Now she just launched her new book called Becoming Brave, and more than that, she's just a friend. She was a friend that was focused on being pure of heart herself so that she could help me be pure of heart as I lead our DIVAS Impact organization. She not only challenged me, she encouraged me, and she wanted me to be better and stronger and a better role model. Now you can't challenge somebody to be a better stronger role model and secretly be wishing that you had what they had or as soon as they get to a level with you that you are doing things well.

Okay, so let's give you an example like this. Say, I have a friend that is offered a magazine spread in Vogue magazine. Another friend over here who has been mentoring, the person that just got the magazine spread is now jealous because this person in Vogue magazine spread, this person's never been invited to even talk to vote much less have a spread, right? Um, I'm not a vote person. So, but here's the deal. That's not what being a DIVA is about. A DIVA is about going “Hey, amazing. This is a fabulous way to go keep going.” Well, that's the type of person Tracy Mitchell is. She encourages, she inspires, she catapults you towards your purpose in your calling in your life and she does it just by bringing you into her presence. I'm not talking about eating the food crumbs. I'm talking about being brought into the presence so that you can absorb, see what she's doing, learn from her and encounter even more for yourself. What a perfect example of what we do with DIVAS Impact, because of that we were able to be at her 2017 conference and had an amazing time at that conference as well. And let me just tell you, I went in, I served her diligently and the next episode next conference. There was some Elevation for me, I didn't go in expecting the elevation I didn't go in demanding the elevation. But I was brought on as a speaker for the next conference, because she again was lifting me up not to where I was even with her but that I was stepping towards what my destiny and calling is, she wasn't trying to create another mini her. She was trying to propel us towards what we were purposed for. So, being pure of heart Can you be that sister that really helps another sister shine and be bright without being better? Can you help them be who they were called to be without holding them back, because you're not comfortable going there yet yourself? Yeah, I went there. See, we don't need people riding our coattails. We need people that are willing to run with us, and if you're willing to run with us, reach out to us. Join us at DIVASImpact.com, email us at [e-mail], find out ways to get involved. We've got the conference, we've got the magazine, we've got the blog, we've got the podcast. There are ways you can be a part of our podcast. There are ways you can be a sponsor to help us get the word out more. There are ways we can do advertorials for your books or your services that you do. There's so much that we can do to help promote you and that's what we're about, because our goal is to raise up more women pure of heart so that they can help other women grow and evolve and be all that they were called to be. So that's where we're going to leave it for this week. Once again, this is your host Angie Leigh Monroe and I look forward to talking to you next time. But until then, remember to be a DIVA and make an Impact.